"I'm not gay, but..."

[Spinozaad]

Because, thanks to the internet, there is only one subtext.

A homosexual subtext.

And a lot of prominent 'mainstream' gays are annoying, and nobody wants to be annoying.

 

[Irony's Acolyte]

"...I like butt sexs with other men."

These guys constantly need to state their heterosexuality because they aren't totally confidant in it. They probably aren't gay but they are afraid that others might think that they are. And since their probably the same people who think that being gay means you aren't manly and that manliness is the most important thing a person with a penis can have, they get all uncomfortable about homosexuality. And since they're men they hide their fear by acting totally brash.

I'm straight, but I sometimes like to jokingly act like I am. I can do this because I'm comfortable enough with my sexuality that I know all just because I act gay, it doesn't mean I am. And even if I did find out that I am attract to some men, I still wouldn't have a problem with it. So this gives me an easy way to make these "macho-men" feel uncomfortable: by acting like I'm coming on to them. It works all the better if they just accused you of being gay.

Ahhhh, I love fucking with peoples minds. I'm a mind-slut I guess...

 

[jamesworkshop]

In the light of it being brought up in another thread...

Another thing that I find odd is how often I run into guys who seem to have to regularly inform those around them that they are heterosexual. It could be done by jumping on the sex talk bandwagon and talking about all the sex or hardcore pornography that he messes with. It could be prefacing any comment he makes that could remotely be taken as "gay" with the line "I'm not gay, but" or something like it. Or, it could be that subconscious fear to desperately avoid things that stray away from his, or other men's standards of what is "okay" for a straight male to like or enjoy.

This is another thing I don't really understand. I don't have to personally worry about it, but it is something that I see enough that it strikes me as curious. Why does this happen so often? What is so scary and horrible about being different or thinking of things outside of the "macho man" stereotype?

Discussion value: Why do straight men seem to have a crippling fear of anything that might imply that they are homosexual? What drives this "need" to regularly reassure others that they are "normal" in this manner? What do you think of the idea that certain thoughts or activities are pigeon-holed into either the realm of the "straight male" or that of the "non-straight male"? What do you think about this fear that straight men seem to have about deviating from what is considered "normal" for them?

Plenty of women say they are not a lesbian when they say another woman is attractive

 

[Yureina]

Because, thanks to the internet, there is only one subtext.

A homosexual subtext.

And a lot of prominent 'mainstream' gays are annoying, and nobody wants to be annoying.

Are you sure that was just before the internet?

Plenty of women say they are not a lesbian when they say another woman is attractive

I don't see that nearly as often, and hardly enough for me to say that women have the same sort of aversion to the homosexual that guys seem to.

 

[GrinningManiac]

Rules to being Human No.1

Difference is weird. Difference is wrong.

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This alone explains racism, bigotry, homophobia, class-based societies and so much more

 

[DSK-]

It depends on who you talk to. Some people may take offence to being called 'looking nice' or 'that shirt suits you' or something else entirely. It's happened to me before, and I am extremely comfortable in my sexuality. It's not so good, however, when someone avoids you for saying such comments.

Also saying "I'm not gay, but" will stop anyone asking you as to whether or not you are. Again, previous experience applies.

As someone else mentioned, you maybe taking this a bit too literally, Rei

 

[jamesworkshop]

Because, thanks to the internet, there is only one subtext.

A homosexual subtext.

And a lot of prominent 'mainstream' gays are annoying, and nobody wants to be annoying.

Are you sure that was just before the internet?

Plenty of women say they are not a lesbian when they say another woman is attractive

I don't see that nearly as often, and hardly enough for me to say that women have the same sort of aversion to the homosexual that guys seem to.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1324799/How-men-kissing-lips-friendship-longer-taboo.html

Europe maybe a little different compared to NA

 

[Chechosaurus]

"Hey, I don't wanna sound like a queer or nothin', but I think unicorns are kick ass!"
And
"I don't want to sound like a queer or nothin', but I'd kinda like to make love to you tonight"

Some form of annoying internet knick knack for whoever gets the reference.

Sorry for the irrelevance but it had to be done. As for being on topic, a lot of it comes from being homophobic. I don't mean the horrible "Gays are fags" (get it?) kind of homophobia, I mean the kind where the person is actually gay and is trying to hide it or they are genuinely afraid of homosexuals and are afraid of being perceived as one.

 

[Legion IV]

Lol over analizing much. I will say that because i dont want people to assume somthing am not. Its not like i mention how hot women are so if they hear me saying stuff that could taken as gay they may think am somone am not. Lol whats with this "there trying to be ultra manly but i dont do that" grow up and get of your pedistals.