Immaturity in a guy/girl

[Rachel317]

Hi

I search bar-ed this, and didn't find anything exactly like this so, if there ARE topics of the same, I apologise in advance!

Basically, what constitutes as immaturity to you? Would you date someone who was immature? If so, how long would you put up with them before you got shot of 'em?

I ask because I'm dating a guy who is pretty immature. He might be normal for his age (he's almost 21), but I'm only 19 and live away from home (studying for a degree), which has forced me to grow up a bit so...maybe my expectations of him are too high, because I'M mature for my age? I don't want that to make me sound like a douche bag!!

I know there are some well-rounded people on here, so I'd really appreciate anyone's advice! Or you can share similar stories and how you resolved them.

 

[Jack and Calumon]

In a guy, Talking about the size of his Penis, ALOT.

In a girl, Drinking alot and believing everyone wants her.

Calumon: Jack says I can be immature. : (

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

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[Rachel317]

Yeah, people who are TOO serious/mature are real life Buzz Killingtons. But there's gotta be a cut off point, right? There's a time and a place for immature/fun behaviour. Then again, where's the line between fun and immaturity?

Catkid, talking about penis sizes in...a social setting? Nice avatar, by the way

 

[Pariah87]

Immaturity can be seen in many ways. Someone who has had to "grow up" quicker or earlier will see those who still hold onto the last shreds of their teenage years as immature. Someone who has to grow up to be "hard" emotionally, will see people who are perhaps more sensitive as immature.

Ultimately it's all subjective. I know I am relatively immature in some ways, yet they don't affect others around me so it's not noticed.

 

[TheGreatDirectorWatanbe]

You can't spell immature without mature.

Personally I have to say it takes a certain amount of maturity to be immature and not be on the lines of childish (IE. Thinking that saying poop is funny). Immature people seem to get the most of life than the those who are mature. I consider myself rather immature yet, I know when I need not to be.


EDIT: Posted too early.

 

[reg42]

Immaturity to me is simply not knowing when is the right time to be serious.

Immature guys annoy me I guess, but I don't really have much to do with immature people.

 

[Rachel317]

Yeah, like if you still live at home into your 20's, then you haven't HAD to develop that self-sufficient side to your personality...

Do you guys have friends who are immature, by your standards? Do they irritate the hell out of you, or do you just love and accept them for who they are?

It's a little harder to think about these things when you're with a partner than friends because, even if you don't mean to, the future pops into mind. Will they be a good husband/wife, will they provide for a family, will they cope with that kind of responsibility, you know?

 

[DefunctTheory]

Maturity is a waste really. Be mature when you have to, and no more than that.

Now, if he's making fart jokes in front of your parents, or playing practical jokes at work... you might have a problem.

 

[Legion]

My issue isn't on how immature people behave, but the inability to be mature, even when it is necessary. It's great having a good time and messing about, but some people take it so far that you can't have a serious conversation with them, ever.

The others I have a problem with are those who will not take responsibility for anything (a different kind of maturity). For example people who wish to end a relationship but will not do so in a logical way, such as telling the other person that. Instead they act in a way that's bad enough for the other person to end the relationship instead.

I have a friend who recently broke up with his girlfriend, she is the kind of person who will never accept responsibility for anything, she will never make a decision in case something goes wrong and she might be blamed for it.

Oh, and to quote somebody (so they know you are answering them) just click the 'quote' button on the bottom right of their post and write what you wish underneath it.

 

[NUMAN01D]

I dated a girl a year my junior, 16 when I was 17. One night she called me in tears, long story short, she's got off with a friend of hers a couple of times at a party. I told her I liked her too much to let it bother me, there was alcohol involved, don't beat yourself up etc. Forgave her, pretty much.

I got kicked out of her house for not caring enough to have an arguement.

That kind of drama-hunting, argument-seeking is pretty damn immature to me. 2 years later, I'm dating a girl in her 20's. All's well!

 

[Jack and Calumon]

Catkid, talking about penis sizes in...a social setting? Nice avatar, by the way

Oh yes. I know a few people who talk about the size of their Male organs frequently, and, of course, frustratingly. In my experience (Yes I am a guy, and not gay, no matter how this sounds) if a guy will talk about the size of his penis, usually saying it's big, they are usually immature.

Calumon: Thanks. Glad you like me! ^^ You look...kinda cool!

 

[Sir Kemper]

Generaly, for in my opinion, I see immaturity as a lack of manner's.

So, If somebody's rude, obnoxious, and generaly impolite I see it as a sighn of immaturity, since these are things you'd expect from a 5 year old throwing a tantrum, not an adult.

 

[Drakmeire]

people who think swearing and racism are funny. If you've been on Xbox live you know what I mean.

 

[thewhiterave]

Well, for me, anything that makes me step back and say: "Dude. Just no." Constitutes immaturity. That being said, not much makes me do that.

I'm a giant child at heart. Nothing will change this. Personally I find that a good quality, but there ARE times when one needs to be serious. The lack of recognition of "serious times" also constitutes immaturity, in my eyes.

If they think something is fun, that I stop thinking was fun years ago, I say they're immature.
It's how it works.

For example: A lot of people consider me immature for I still play Pokémon.

Pokemon is still awesome. If I'm immature for that, then sue me.

 

[Jaranja]

Anyone who's below me in something.

If they think something is fun, that I stop thinking was fun years ago, I say they're immature.
It's how it works.

For example: A lot of people consider me immature for I still play Pokémon.

Yes, there are other ways, but I just don't see the point.

LAWL, you play Pokémon? What a fa- [sup][sub]I still play it.[/sub][/sup]

 

[Jaranja]

Catkid, talking about penis sizes in...a social setting? Nice avatar, by the way

Oh yes. I know a few people who talk about the size of their Male organs frequently, and, of course, frustratingly. In my experience (Yes I am a guy, and not gay, no matter how this sounds) if a guy will talk about the size of his penis, usually saying it's big, they are usually immature.

Calumon: Thanks. Glad you like me! ^^ You look...kinda cool!

They're usually lying, as well. I mean, if they feel the need to confirm that you know they have a big dick, it's probably because they're covering something up. At least, that's what I tell everyone who talks about their junk like it's Mjolnir.

 

[rokkolpo]

*fingers in ears* LALALA can't hear you!

anyway.
stupid jokes mostly seem immature, that and ignorance.

stupid jokes as in: racist jokes and the likes