Immaturity in a guy/girl

[Klarinette]

Quite simply, there's a time to be serious, and a time to be ridiculous. I think part of maturity is being able to know when those times are.

Also, if you're my age and still sleep in a racecar bed.... I don't know, man. Gotta let that shit go at some point.

 

[Terramax]

When it comes down to it there's a time and a place to be immature.

I have my major moments of immaturity, but only when I'm hanging out with my younger sister (who's 13). The rest of the time, people say I'm 24 going on 44.

EDIT: ninja's by the guy above.

 

[Lemon Of Life]

A self-centred perception of the world? A sense of humour lacking originality and filled with sexual references that aren't even in context, let along vaguely funny? Ignorance? I honestly don't know, but it sure as hell annoys me.

Not that I'm never immature, but it isn't something I do that often.

 

[DefunctTheory]

Quite simply, there's a time to be serious, and a time to be ridiculous. I think part of maturity is being able to know when those times are.

You said it much better than I did.

 

[Dimbo_Sama]

Catkid, talking about penis sizes in...a social setting? Nice avatar, by the way

Oh yes. I know a few people who talk about the size of their Male organs frequently, and, of course, frustratingly. In my experience (Yes I am a guy, and not gay, no matter how this sounds) if a guy will talk about the size of his penis, usually saying it's big, they are usually immature.

Well I never have this problem cause I have such a giant cock.

...jk

For me, people who are immature are just, people who let stupid fun get in the way of more pressing issues, like, they're having problems, but they'd rather just blow it off and have fun than work them through, or they have a deadline and they'd rather just sit and get drunk. Other than that, there's the generall, acting like a prick kind of thing.

I can't say that liking things they should be too old to enjoy is immature, cause I still enjoy shit I enjoyed when i was a kid. But maybe that's just me.

 

[Palademon]

I think if he's almost 21 and not very mature then there's little chance he ever will be. I myself am mature at the age of 15, but I am a fan of clever innuendo. It may ahve something to do with my maturity that when people are having a joke and I join in that they say I've killed it, just because I'm the person that has made a joke. Also people point out when what I've said hints towards an innuendo as if I didnt mean to, they must think I'm not that funny >_>

 

[Platinum117]

Deluding yourself into believing everyone wants you. Deluding yourself into thinking that you are cool because you drink/smoke/do drugs etc etc. Putting others down, truly strong and mature people do not feel this need.

 

[DefunctTheory]

I think if he's almost 21 and not very mature then there's little chance he ever will be. I myself am mature at the age of 15, but I am a fan of clever innuendo. It may ahve something to do with my maturity that when people are having a joke and I join in that they say I've killed it, just because I'm the person that has made a joke. Also people point out when what I've said hints towards an innuendo as if I didnt mean to, they must think I'm not that funny >_>

Mature at 15? I thought so too.

Don't worry, you will laugh about it in about 5 years. I know I did.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

What I usually think of as "immature" is selfish behaviour, or expecting better behaviour from others than you do from yourself.

Just a lack of consideration for others and a lack perspective on things in general.

 

[Soxafloppin]

Theres a link between wanting to have fun and being immature! Don't let that line blur!

Personally i have dated people who are immature, and because of that experience..NEVER AGAIN.

 

[TazTheTerrible]

I think everyone deserves to be silly on occasion and indulge in some more basic urges and desires. I think walking out of line from time to time does a person and society as a whole a lot of good.

What I count as immaturity is a lack of larger perspective. Yes, you can be silly, but you should remember to do so responsibly, you should keep in mind the people around you, that includes anything from their safety to their feelings. Immature people tend to be self centered, altruism is something you need to learn, and I consider it the main measure.

Basically, if someone is mature, even if they act in a childish fashion, you can talk to them about it and they'll listen. If they're mature, they'll be able to rationally consider changing their behaviour for the sake of a relationship.

If they are incapable of showing consideration for their loved ones, dump them until they learn, otherwise you're setting yourself up for a long run of hurting.

 

[Mcupobob]

I act like a 50 year old man alot which annoys people (17 btw) and it kinda stops me from having fun I like immature people they help push me out of my comfort zone and help me have fun though I like to only be around them in moderation it can get taxing sometimes...

 

[Vitor Goncalves]

In a guy, Talking about the size of his Penis, ALOT.

In a girl, Drinking alot and believing everyone wants her.

Calumon: Jack says I can be immature. : (

Wait, Calumon talks about his...EWWWWWW! =P.

Ah, mmmmm... err... what?! No No No, thats just sick, get it off my head now!

OP: I think if a person cant have a proper conversation and never takes anything seriously is immature. I love jokes, any (almost) kind of humour, irony, sarcasm. But I like to be able to have a proper conversation without being always dismissed by a silly laughter and a pretend to be funny comment.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Well, I can appreciate extremely immature humour, but if it's something serious I will act mature about it.

Seriously, a well timed "That's what she said" can make my day.

 

[Mr. Bojangles]

Well there's different types of immature.

There's a group of lads in my class who are fuckin idiots and I'd say they're immature.

But there's a girl I know who's immature but in a good way.

 

[vodkainferno]

Really, I like a person who can be both.
Mature, yet be immature when the time is right.
Really, I can't define immaturity.

 

[Escapefromwhatever]

In a guy, Talking about the size of his Penis, ALOT.

In a girl, Drinking alot and believing everyone wants her.

Calumon: Jack says I can be immature. : (

Wait, Calumon talks about his...EWWWWWW! =P.

>.< Calumon doesn't have a gender thus I try to avoid using "He" or "She", so... It's more Childish immaturity.

Calumon: What? What?

Okay. I don't know a lot beyond the season of Digimon where they armor digivolve, so I thought Calumon was male, as I could have sworn that you have used male pronouns for Calumon before. Sorry about that, I just found that combining what you said with what Calumon said was amusing.

 

[theklng]

there's all sorts of crazy in this thread.

 

[SimuLord]

Maturity has nothing to do with fart jokes. That's "being inappropriate", sure, but I meet Bunny Ears Lawyer types all the time who have professional degrees and the sense of humor of a Pauly Shore movie.

What bugs me is the woman in her twenties with severe daddy issues who still behaves like she's a five-year-old playing "princess" in kindergarten whilst simultaneously expecting me to acknowledge her as a capable, independent woman.

I've found myself on SIX separate occasions having to teach a girlfriend how to make out a check. I don't know if I just attract helpless chicks who like dominant guys or if this is a real epidemic, but it really bugs me. And it's not even her lack of skills. It's the "I'm an adult! Now do everything for me because I'm helpless and you're the big, strong man" manipulation that gets me.

 

[Tetranitrophenol]

A real mature person will know how to behave depending on the situation, you don't go to a bar and hold your pinky up while drinking beer and you don't go to a classroom to sleep or chat on your Iphone.
Sounds to me like your BF is the kind of person that speaks his mind with the softness of a hammer, if you can stand that (because he might have other charms) then good for you, just don't take him out to places that require brain capacity beyond that for processing oxygen.