Is being single really as bad as some people make out?

[A.A.K]

nop. not at all. i prefer single. "get what you need and go". lol

 

[Aesir23]

I haven't had a single boyfriend (ever), and I'm 21 as of yesterday. It's damn lonely, that's for sure. But on the other hand, I don't have to worry about all the stresses that come with being in a relationship, or the stresses I've heard about anyway.

 

[MiracleOfSound]

Depends how long you've been single for. This one guy on the escapist said he hasn't kissed a girl and he is 18. That is bad.

Really? I'm 17 days away from being in that category myself. What if you're just apathetic and too lazy to bother with relationships?

Well than you're never going to get laid. And if you are too lazy to get laid, than you're going to fail in life.

That is an astoundingly ignorant statement. I'm surprised.

People have many different reasons they wait, or are forced to wait.

I'm talking about the people who want but don't do anything to get it because they're lazy. Not people who want to wait for marriage or something.

Phew... I knew it seemed out of character.

Just to be clear, I felt the statement was ignorant, not you.

But some people who maybe come across as lazy are actually just shy and nervous. I lost the old virginity when i was 15 and didnt have sex again for 3 years. I was too traumatised lol

 

[Valiance]

I can understand why people wouldn't want to be in a relationship, but I actually really enjoy being with my girlfriend.

 

[Lord Krunk]

Now lets get this out of the way. I'm 16, i've had one girlfriend in my life who screwed me over so much so i went back to just being friends with people again. Now every time i go out and hang out with a group of people i hear them complain about being single which i feel doesn't make sense.

Same boat as you. But as of a few weeks ago, I'm 17.

Being single doesn't suck, in fact it's sometimes great. No holds barred, do whatever you want.

But you do feel lonely sometimes.

 

[Korolev]

Being single?

When you're young, It's not so bad.

When you're middle-age, it's the worst thing in the world to be

But when you're even OLDER, it's not that bad.

 

[Angrypudding]

Now lets get this out of the way. I'm 16, i've had one girlfriend in my life who screwed me over so much so i went back to just being friends with people again. Now every time i go out and hang out with a group of people i hear them complain about being single which i feel doesn't make sense.

Being single seems to be a great choice for me, You don't have to try so damn hard to look good every day, just kinda take care of yourself, and that tends to look good in its own right. You don't have to worry about dating a girl someone likes and creating a rift and you tend to be happier just hanging out with people in general.

I know that people love the feeling of belonging when they are with someone they believe they "love" (come on, I'm 16, neither me nor my friends know what love is) and love all the rewards that being in a relationship brings. But is that really an excuse to be such a depressing person when you're single?

Any Opinions on this?

Dude you are a truly wise 16 yr old. No need to rush anything man. Don't waste your time on meaningless BS until you find a girl you really like and who accepts you for who you are.

And being single is awesome! You can flirt with any girl without catching the evil eye of your lover, and you have no obligations and can play video games without hiding it. LOL.

On the plus side, having a gf has its perks too. But at 16, you're right, Love is a strange complex subject that many can't even began to understand. Greek people have a multitude of different words for love, depending on the use of it.

So I say don't worry bout it and just live man. Enjoy being young.

 

[Bat Vader]

I like being single. Nothing to really care about except my mom, dad, and sister. My feelings may change about this when I hit my mid to late twenties. But, if they don't than they don't.

 

[Rensenhito]

It's a cycle. When you become single, first you're sad about it, you want them back, etc. Then it starts to be okay. You start to have fun. You start to like being single. Then it gets repetitive. It gets lonely. That's when you start looking around for someone to love again. Once you find them, if all goes well, you're happy for a good while. But then it starts to feel empty again, and you start longing for that first stage of singleness.
Lather, rinse, repeat.
Personally, I'm one of the very few people my age (18) I know who has kept a relationship for longer than a year. Currently, we're at 1 year, 1 month, and there are no signs of emotional erosion yet, so everything's good.
My advice: just be happy where you are. When that stops working, go somewhere else.

 

[Angrypudding]

Yeah single life is great. All those old men who sit alone at the pub drinking their dollars away...they're fun-loving bachelors!

yes and those married couples that hate each other and can't raise their kids are living the life from which dreams are made of.

 

[polygon]

Given the way most people here equate being single to having some sort of incredible and otherwise unattainable freedom, I think the better question for this forum would be "Is being in a relationship really as bad as some people make out?"

 

[AgDr_ODST]

when you've been single for aslong as I have and never had a legit girlfriend(that one chick doesn't count), it sucks arse big-time, but by that same token I'm not gonna rush headlong into a relationship

 

[Erja_Perttu]

Nah, it's not as bad as it sounds. I'm happily in a relationship right now and wouldn't change it, but having spent the majority of my life bizarrely single, I've not resented it. I had fun.

Having no one relying on you to be there for them makes being selfish or spontanious really easy.

 

[similar.squirrel]

Good for you. Some people happen to despise hanging out in groups, and hate being single. It's all normal.

 

[quiet_samurai]

Now lets get this out of the way. I'm 16, i've had one girlfriend in my life who screwed me over so much so i went back to just being friends with people again. Now every time i go out and hang out with a group of people i hear them complain about being single which i feel doesn't make sense.

Being single seems to be a great choice for me, You don't have to try so damn hard to look good every day, just kinda take care of yourself, and that tends to look good in its own right. You don't have to worry about dating a girl someone likes and creating a rift and you tend to be happier just hanging out with people in general.

I know that people love the feeling of belonging when they are with someone they believe they "love" (come on, I'm 16, neither me nor my friends know what love is) and love all the rewards that being in a relationship brings. But is that really an excuse to be such a depressing person when you're single?

Any Opinions on this?

It's human nature to always feel your situation could be better whether that's being married, in a relationship, having kids, better job, or even wishing you were in fact single when you are already with someone.

And no, I do't think it's bad. I love being single. Being single doesn't necessarily mean you don't spend time with the opposite sex for intimnate reasons. For me it just means that I am not tied down with just one person.

There's a saying: When you are in a relationship all you see around you is single people, and when you are single all you see around you are couples.

 

[mangus]

There's a saying: When you are in a relationship all you see around you is single people, and when you are single all you see around you are couples.

so you're saying... I should blind myself?

 

[shroomie]

being single is SHIT!!!!!!!!!!! screw independance, its not worth it. You can still be with someone and have independance, its about compremize.

 

[Azhrarn-101]

While I miss the feeling of belonging that goes hand-in-hand with a good relationship I can't say that being single is bad.

It's been about 5 years since I last was in a relationship and I really don't mind being single, in fact I'm not even "searching" as it is.

 

[quiet_samurai]

There's a saying: When you are in a relationship all you see around you is single people, and when you are single all you see around you are couples.

so you're saying... I should blind myself?

Aye, with knitting needles.

 

[Daveman]

lol, being single isn't bad, feeling lonely and isolated because of it is, some people just lose all sense of self-worth, it dependsreally on whether it's your choice. And don't go thinking you're ever going to know what love is, I've been getting thicker for the last 4 years ever since I was 15, I can physically feel myself becoming stupid. But hey, I hope to no longer be single in a couple of days. Assuming everything plays out in my favour.