Is being single really as bad as some people make out?

[Avenant]

I'm currently in a relationship and very happy about that... this really does beat being single! However, I was single for nearly 4 years before this girl, and my ex was a bad one.

She wasn't so bad as a person but we just really didn't match up well and I think my expectations of a relationship made it worse. That was quite painful and being single definitely beat that!

A good relationship beats being single hands down, and I think that anyone that disagrees just hasn't had that good a relationship yet. Still, being single has its perks, it's fun... but I'd like to bring up 2 points I think are very important:

1. The "freedom" you get with being single is kinda overrated. If you love someone you willingly spend time with them, it's not like you're a prisoner - and someone who really cares for you won't make you feel caged either.

2. But more importantly, being single is easier than being in a relationship... you do have less expectations placed on you and you don't need to worry so much about someone else. It may sound like a bad thing, but truth is that being in a relationship will teach you more about yourself than being single ever will.


...but if you're 16? Forget that serious stuff till you're older... go with it and enjoy yourself

 

[Ben Legend]

I've got ninety nine problems...

..... so..... you going to elaborate on them or keep us waiting eagerly?

But being single ain't all that bad, but I gotta say I prefer having a girlfriend.

 

[Always_Remain]

at 16, it's pointless, when you get older... ehhh you might want to think about it.

It's not pointless if you can find someone you actually love and can tell the difference between love from infatuation or obsession.

Although . . . being single is way better if you're a laid back person.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

being single is only as bad as those people make it out to be if you are one of those people.

 

[Cowabungaa]

Depends per person of course. Some people long for love and affection, some are just fine on their own and prefer working for their career, just to name something.

lol, being single isn't bad, feeling lonely and isolated because of it is, some people just lose all sense of self-worth, it dependsreally on whether it's your choice. And don't go thinking you're ever going to know what love is, I've been getting thicker for the last 4 years ever since I was 15, I can physically feel myself becoming stupid. But hey, I hope to no longer be single in a couple of days. Assuming everything plays out in my favour.

Good luck my man, I hope it works out for you.

 

[uncle-ellis]

I've got ninety nine problems...

Is a ***** one.

 

[manaman]

In my opinion, its better to be single unless you really connect with the person your dating. If you're dating someone for the hell of dating someone, then thats just plain dumb.

Why?


No really, why is it just plain dumb?


I have been on dates with people I didn't know, girls I happened to find cute and snagged a number after a five minute conversation. I apologize in advance if you are talking about exclusively dating (or a committed relationship), which is not at all the same thing as dating in my book. You meet someone you think you might like, you make it known, you date, and somewhere along the line you figure out if you really like this person or not and move it up a notch.

Trying to get to know someone as a friend first when you have budding romantic urges towards them is not a good idea, it can only end in disaster.

 

[SovietSecrets]

Not that bad at all. I mean yeah a girlfriend wouldnt be bad I suppose, but least I don't have to worry about me pissing her off.

 

[Shoukyaku]

Being single is great, especially for introverts like myself. It gives you an excuse to try and break out of your shell by just flirting and being goofy without the stress of worrying if something you say will backfire horribly on you. But yeah sometimes you want someone there for you that you connect with on a slightly deeper level than a friend, so either way has its perks and draw back, all depends on what stage of life you are in at the time.

 

[IronicBeet]

Naw, being single is awesome. You're your own man, all the time. *Cries myself to sleep*

 

[KurtzGallahad]

FUCK TO THE NO!

(YOu pathetic whiny teenager)

 

[Twilightruler]

Well...nah it's not really that bad no. Problem is, when your a guy like me who has all these great relationship ideas and who's always prided himself on the whole chivalry thing and respecting women and then turn around and see one friend who totally ignores his girlfriend and another who is whipped to shit by his girlfriend you sort of want to show them up. Only issue is, at this age all girls seem to only date people that don't give 2 shits about them and then blame everyone else when it goes wrong. It's sort of a turn-off to the whole scene and makes it incredibly difficult to get anywhere with any decent girl who has noticed the exact same thing. But if being single works for you, more power to you. It does work for me but I kinda wish I could at least see if the grass is greener on the other side.

 

[Wayte]

It just depends on the person. Some people don't miss the things that come with a relationship, some do.
Me? I'm a sucker for affection, companionship, and sex, so being single sucks horribly for me. Ad to that the lack of distraction but a recent and...excruciatingly painful heartbreak, and I have pretty much every reason to hate being single.

 

[likalaruku]

I believe it was a Jhonen Vasquez character that said "I don't need a girlfriend to validate my life."

I'm also a sociopath, so I know ahead of time I'd be an uncaring self-centered heartbreaker.

 

[Crazycat690]

Im 16 and Im singel ._. I play to much games to have a girldfriend, I dont get out often so when I actually speak to a girl I dont do very well, so hurray I will die a virgin! Unless I get raped by your mum!

 

[Crazycat690]

I believe it was a Jhonen Vasquez character that said "I don't need a girlfriend to validate my life."

I'm also a sociopath, so I know ahead of time I'd be an uncaring self-centered heartbreaker.

Dude, your awesome, this man is a king!

 

[HardRockSamurai]

Hell, being single isn't all too bad. There's nothing wrong with it.

[small]Plus, it gives you the time to have some fantastic hobbies. Like D&D and Star Trek![/small]

 

[RIOgreatescapist]

Being single sucks balls, no poontang, no 79% fun that you can get out of life. I should know. I'm single.

 

[Sebenko]

Single? Haven't been for years. Since I have nothing else keeping at bay the realisation that I'm a lifeless nerd with an outsized ego.

With a boyfriend I can be a lifeless nerd with a nice ass.