Is being single really as bad as some people make out?
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Probably best summed up by a friend of mine;
"I don't need a girlfriend, I've got 8 megabit broadband!"
However, he is now married.
Seriously, there is no need to worry about that stuff at 16. I was 20 and at university before my first girlfriend. Been single for a year now. I wouldn't mind a relationship but not just for the sake of it. If its right for you its right for you.
"I don't need a girlfriend, I've got 8 megabit broadband!"
However, he is now married.
Seriously, there is no need to worry about that stuff at 16. I was 20 and at university before my first girlfriend. Been single for a year now. I wouldn't mind a relationship but not just for the sake of it. If its right for you its right for you.
Valid points, however, I disagree with this one in particular.dogstile said:
It's quite the reverse and proven through psychology, if you are in a good relationship you can let yourself go more and not really care so much because you have already attracted a partner. If you are seeking a partner you want to put effort in and look your best.
I feel that maybe your view in this case is reflected from your own personal opinion, in that you're not actively looking for someone and therefore can choose not to worry about appearance so much as someone looking to attract a partner.
Anyway, you're 16 and therefore young when it comes to relationships what I recommend is that you get practice... the reason young people get hurt a lot is because neither side is very good at it until they've had practice, if you don't get to understanding relationships until later in life you'll likely just end up hurting someone else.
In the long run it is virtually unavoidable everyone at some point wants companionship... it's in our blood, much the same as birds (the flappy kind not horrible colloquial slang for girls) and other species that mate for life. Sometimes you decide intentionally to find someone and sometimes someone just grabs you. I'm 26 and have just spent 2 years single through my own choice and they were great until about 2 months ago when someone grabbed me, the timing was right and I was/am ready for a relationship.
Well yeah, single people do try to dress up and look good if they want a relationship, but if you don't, then hell. You don't careKif said:
I mainly replied about the bird bird thing though. Yes, girls can be the flappy kind, have you ever seen like, i dunno, a typical "popular" girl who has lost something?
Being single and taken are fun in hteir own ways. One thing I've appreciated more about being single after having a couple of girlfriends is that I get more time to do what I want, rather than worrying about her.
Not true in my case me and my girlfriend were friends for bout 7 years before we went out it only lasted about 6 weeks when i realized i cant stand here. haha but thats just me!AmazingShortbus said:
Being in a relationship blows. I never did like being tied down to any one person. Not at the moment anyway.
Fuck that. I'd rather just go to a gay bar and get my rocks off.
Fuck that. I'd rather just go to a gay bar and get my rocks off.
You cannot be entirely comfortable with someone else, until you have learnt to be entirely comfortable with yourself, by yourself.
at 16 my view is everyone just wants someone to have sex with consistanly
everytime i break up with a girlfriend i end up isolated for a couple of weeks not because of emotions or nothing but normally catching up on things i meant to get around to doing while i was in a relationship
pile of games and what not
everytime i break up with a girlfriend i end up isolated for a couple of weeks not because of emotions or nothing but normally catching up on things i meant to get around to doing while i was in a relationship
pile of games and what not
No. I was in a bad relationship for two years so after that being single isn't too bad. I've dated a few girls since then but nothing much. Besides I'm already busy enough with the med school, work and just life in general, adding a girlfriend in on top of that would be yet another thing I have to add to my list.
Being single has a number of advantages, most notebly that you are not responsable for anyone but yourself. On the other hand, companionship does have plenty of privaliges, but also responsabilities.
My approach is to go along with lifes flow, i've been single for just over a year now, and if i happen to come across someone on my lifes travels who i really like, and would like to have a relationship her- i'll go for it. I know i will be sacrifising a few privaliges, but i'll have some new ones, and new responsabilities.
On balance, its probably better to be with someone, but there are hunderds of variables, mostly to do with who you are and who your partner is.
My approach is to go along with lifes flow, i've been single for just over a year now, and if i happen to come across someone on my lifes travels who i really like, and would like to have a relationship her- i'll go for it. I know i will be sacrifising a few privaliges, but i'll have some new ones, and new responsabilities.
On balance, its probably better to be with someone, but there are hunderds of variables, mostly to do with who you are and who your partner is.
This made me laugh, although I'm not sure if that's what you were going for.WrongSprite said:
Being single isn't bad, it's more fun.
Although if I was in a relationship I'd be a lot more successful than I am, but a lot more boring.
Not that I'm blaming getting dumped for the collapse of my ambition.
Falling in Love is like finding that perfect Companion Arrangement in a Bioware RPG. Lots of trial and error and defeat until you find just the right one. It takes a while but when you literally are and completely feel unstoppable.
But until then, being 16 years old is like being the lvl. 2-4 character. Take time to get to know your class before you look for the right team.
But until then, being 16 years old is like being the lvl. 2-4 character. Take time to get to know your class before you look for the right team.
It really depends on the person.
Some are fine with being single, others can't stand it. That's just the way it is.
As for me, I stand in the latter. I'm sixteen and haven't even so much as held a girl's hand. I'm a hopeless romantic and I'm falling pretty damn hard for one of my friends, however the feeling isn't mutual. It's agonizing because I'm so close to her, but not close enough, and it doesn't seem like my siuation is going to change anytime soon.
I was fine with being single until this started, so it's really about a person's situation and nobody really has a place in saying whether or not it's so bad being single, as it's all opinions and circumstances in the end anyway.
Some are fine with being single, others can't stand it. That's just the way it is.
As for me, I stand in the latter. I'm sixteen and haven't even so much as held a girl's hand. I'm a hopeless romantic and I'm falling pretty damn hard for one of my friends, however the feeling isn't mutual. It's agonizing because I'm so close to her, but not close enough, and it doesn't seem like my siuation is going to change anytime soon.
I was fine with being single until this started, so it's really about a person's situation and nobody really has a place in saying whether or not it's so bad being single, as it's all opinions and circumstances in the end anyway.
