Is there a way to fall OUT of love?

[JokerCrowe]

I've tried believe me. Still haven't found a way, you let me know how it goes. ^^

EDIT: but a tip from someone who falls in love VERY easily, go to a class or something, do something you haven't done before, go to the beach whatever. When I went to a drawing class I forgot about the girl I loved then, becasue I fell for three other girls in that same class. Hven't gotten over them though. :/

 

[Jewrean]

MARRIAGE

 

[ThePantomimeThief]

MARRIAGE

BAM! And the truth is out.

Time, distance, getting busy with stuff - a massive immersive game you wanna play? Do it now. I'm in the same situation (well, I got dumped by my girlfriend who I loved and wanted to move in with), and I am currently writing my masters dissertation, but after that I'm going to record an album, get stuck into a playthrough of Fallout 3 (or Morrowind, haven't decided yet), and try and find some work that will take my mind off it and let me meet new people.

 

[Cowabungaa]

I'll just let it go. If she causes this much of an issue for me she really isn't worth it.

No, you are creating an issue for yourself here. You're the one with the mental issues, don't blame her for them.

It doesn't help much either that we barely know anything about your situation with that girl, why you want to fall 'out of love' with her.

As for the insanity thing; go seek help. And don't whine and moan, just do it. If you don't want to do it for yourself, do it for her, do it for your friends, family, or any other person that you even slightly care about and cares about you.

If you're really insane you might prove to be a danger to yourself and them in the future, do you want them to? If not, seek help.

 

[BiscuitTrouser]

Have dirty, raw doing it in the bathtub sex with her.

Then you'll realise what you were actually feeling was intense lust... This will either sate the lust. Or make it stronger.

Either way you'll have boned the shit outa each other and feel better for it.

Well, I guess I should have expect this when I saw the last post was by you. lol

Am I so predictable? D:

In sincerity. How old are you?

Because if you're fairly young I would be willing to bet this 'love' is nothing more than a passing infatuation. Honestly.

Don't get so worked up over it.

Either tell her you like her. Or move on and idealise some other woman.


.......... Either way you need to get laid. That solves most problems.

SNIP

The best way to get OVER someone is to get UNDER someone. Or on top if thats the way you like it.

OT: I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years recently, i loved her more than life. You could do what im going to do, make an all or nothing leap. Ive set up a romantic scene for us soon and im going to tell her how i feel. If she says no il let it drop completely and try and find someone new. At least this way i get some definate closure, our break up was pretty vague.

Imagine the perfect person for you in the whole world, not her. Before you met her what was your vision? I doubt it was exactly her. Think about a person who understands you so intimately you will feel like you share your soul with them. Not a single thing about them makes you doubt for a second. They are desperately in love with you and have utter devotion.

As perfect as you think Y may be she lacks the one thing you need. Love and devotion. Unless you can rekindle that (my plan) and if it fails, you need to try and envisage this person. They exist. They will love you unconditionally forever and will never want to let you go. They will feel the same way you do now if you were to ever leave. This is the person you need, not someone who is a lost cause.

Tell her how you feel in a months time (il tell yu what happens to me too ) and see what she says. If she doesnt want anything try and find your person.

 

[PoliceBox63]

Can someone awnser this please. (No experimental brain surgery thank you) I love this girl but I just can't stand my thoughts about her anymore, can someone tell me how to fall OUT of love? (Also, no murder.)

I read this at one point and found it very helpful: link [http://www.articlesbase.com/relationships-articles/falling-into-love-with-someone-you-cant-have-885551.html]

 

[Chris^^]

can't be done, sorry buddy - I've been there before, until you find someone else to love you'll just have to soldier on, you may love her till the day you die..

 

[tehroc]

The thing is, she is the only thing making me less depressed. If it wasn't for her I would be emotionless and probably psycotic. I just want to not love her because I run every bad senario through my head constantly.

In that case, I suggest psychological help.
No, I'm not joking. Everything you've said so far indicates that there is something very wrong with you.
Go seek professional help.

Let me make it more clear what I mean: Imagine a ball of insanity and madness, thats basically me. Imagine a chain wrapped around it that keeps it from being released, thats basically her. Without the chain the ball would be able to freely act. In other word, I'm probably insane.

That's codependency, at at this point it's up to you to break the cycle. I agree with the poster, go see a psychiatrist.

 

[Radelaide]

Ask my ex. He knows the secret.

 

[Doctor Panda]

Yeah, there is. There are really two ways. One is to cut off all relations with them for a few months, and fall for someone else. The other is to just wait. For years. It can take fucking years if you're really invested in them. It's one of the most painful thnigs you'll ever go through and goddam everyone goes through it at some point and I have complete sympathy for you. But sometimes it has to be done.

 

[Project_Omega]

Can someone awnser this please. (No experimental brain surgery thank you) I love this girl but I just can't stand my thoughts about her anymore, can someone tell me how to fall OUT of love? (Also, no murder.)

Dude, why are you treating this like a disease rather than a blessing? Love happens spontaneously, and you should accept it. How about you explain it to her and count she says yes, if she says no then your problem is solved. You will end up with a broken heart but that can be dealt with much easier than what you are trying to do.

 

[Kebabco]

The easiest way to fall out of love is for the other sex to get fat or lose their job and become a depressed sitting-at-home-while-ordering-takeout-kind-of-person, depending on the respective sex of course.

Regards

 

[stiborge]

Yeah. I've been trying to figure this one out myself. I can't really help you at all here but if I figure it out myself i'll tell you.

 

[MGlBlaze]

Time. That's really it. All you can do is leave her and make sure you stick to that. You'll get over her eventually.

The other alternative is far worse for both of you;

Spoiler

You stay around with her for whatever reason, eventually things reach a breaking point and a spectacular end and you end up not only carrying around hurt but also hatred for possibly even longer. This is what has happened to me, almost a year later I have only just gotten over the pain from all that wasted time and my hate is still very much there. At least I didn't have to deal with lingering feelings of love, that pretty much totally died right at the end.

You don't want to go there; seriousely.

 

[NuclearPenguin]

(In my head, but of course that's also where I lead WW3 with my Army of Ultra-nationalist Penguins... just sayin)

..As long as im not fired out of a nuclear silo I'm happy.

 

[Theninja'skatana]

Have someone else burst your bubble.

Assuming this girl isn't perfect the easy way would be to have one of your more dickish friends list all her faults. Eventually one will click or your doubts will grow.

Mental conditioning. Just takes willpower. I've done it...more than once.

Also, epic icon for this kind of reply.

If anyone lists any of her faults I just go insane and attack them.

Uh sounds like you still like her. I would say just spend more time with other women.

 

[Ziadaine_v1legacy]

It's called one-itis. your only cure is to "grow a pair and move on". sorry if it sounds rude but you'd be surprised how often this happens to either gender, the longer you leave it the more it'll tear you apart on the inside.

 

[Redalert9r9r]

You can't fall out of a hole.

Or can you?

My portal gun says different

Did you shoot the 1st portal before you fell in the hole then? OOHH or you could just use momentum to...aahh, clever girl.

In all seriousness, there is a way, man, perhaps it will be meeting someone new and finally having the willpower to break up with her yourself, or perhaps time will pass and so will your doubts, or perhaps they will increase to the point of increased willpower.

Just take control of the situation, think about it, and act as you see fit.

 

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

It's called one-itis. your only cure is to "grow a pair and move on". sorry if it sounds rude but you'd be surprised how often this happens to either gender, the longer you leave it the more it'll tear you apart on the inside.

Haha gave me a chuckle.

But yeah, in a nut shell, this. If you're going to whine about it then you're hitting a bad path that can only lead to looking like a creep. I say just cut as many ties as possible and leave. It's hard but it always works if you try long enough.