Is there a way to fall OUT of love?

[Mr Montmorency]

Love, love never changes

I see what you did there.

 

[Badabukavich]

Only thing that I can say is time. You just have to wait it out.

 

[Shoqiyqa]

Can someone awnser this please. (No experimental brain surgery thank you) I love this girl but I just can't stand my thoughts about her anymore, can someone tell me how to fall OUT of love? (Also, no murder.)

It's as possible as falling into love. I've done it over a few weeks and also in the space of a few seconds.

Doing it on purpose, though? I'm not so sure.

 

[Dogstile]

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Well, all you need to do is kill her distract yourself from her so much she no longer exists to you.

 

[LongLiveourMachine]

Love, love never changes

I see what you did there.

Aren't I just the cleverest

 

[Chogg Van Helsing]

Can someone awnser this please. (No experimental brain surgery thank you) I love this girl but I just can't stand my thoughts about her anymore, can someone tell me how to fall OUT of love? (Also, no murder.)

I'm in the same boat. I'm just learning to live with it. The worst part is that she is also my closest friend and I cannot go more than three days without talking to her.

I used to be in the exact same situatoin, but we sorta fell out, but my feelings didnt really change, but not seeing her or talking to her meant i could ignore it... I suppose thats not the option you want tho... lol

 

[Ironic Pirate]

Ok I'm a bit of a heart breaker and have been in several situation alike yours.

Love and lust are two very easy subjects to get confused. One can think about another person with the idea of love in their own mind, but in actual fact, due to the nature of the situation (eg You think a girls hot or cool and want to dick her)its actually lust. It can also be visa/versa.

For your situation, you need to distinguish weather what you are feeling is love or lust. Its not easy and probably the best way to distinguish it, is to ask yourself how you feel about this girl and be honest with yourself.

Then again, just to complicate things a bit further;

If you love her, let her go.

If you crave her, let her know

Both fantastic lines that can be put in use in this situation.


I myself and going thru the same patterns with a girl a met.

Not sure weather I want to start a relationship or if what I am feeling for her is just a friendship bond. Very confusing.

Your post reminds me of a song.


All I can really say for the OP is, listen to the song. It might help.

 

[Nietz]

Is she still your friends? Does she want a relationship?

Yes, and I don't know

*New york plummer voice*
Well, here your problem, sir. Ye see... errr... It's a leaking heart valve. This baby needs to be stuffed with a nice big glob of "suck it up and ask her all ready".

You see kids, when you actually tell her how you feel about her, and even if it fails, you'll feel better in no time.

Or as G.I. Joe would say it:
"Knowing is half the battle!"

 

[Jasper Jeffs]

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Listen to this, might help.

 

[Vrach]

Can someone awnser this please. (No experimental brain surgery thank you) I love this girl but I just can't stand my thoughts about her anymore, can someone tell me how to fall OUT of love? (Also, no murder.)

There's no real easy way out of it outside brain surgery really. You just have to either convince yourself you hate (and I really mean hate) her, move on to another girl or physically get away from her. I'd suggest option 2.

 

[Judgement101]

I guess I'll just talk to her about it...

 

[mad825]

We are "hard wired" to love, in a sense. Nature wants us to produce more babies with somebody that we find physically attractive--because they're probably genetically attractive as well.

But he could find that with any other girl he gets emotionally attached to. Compatibility things like having things in common go a long way to this as well, but still.

ermm....no thats not entirely correct, if this was the 1700s and you were a man named schopenhauer I would give you an A*x&#8734; but in "love" there are psychological aspects that should be taken into account as well which sadly schopenhauer didn't take into account.

"Compatibility things like having things in common go a long way to this as well,".

means nothing worth noting.

 

[Vlassic]

Falling out of love sucks. I've never done it on purpose. But I guess just willpower would work, if you'd rather have the empty, guilty feeling of falling out of love with someone rather than the joy of being in love.

 

[Judgement101]

Falling out of love sucks. I've never done it on purpose. But I guess just willpower would work, if you'd rather have the empty, guilty feeling of falling out of love with someone rather than the joy of being in love.

I guess its one of those "Is no right awnser" questions.

 

[Judgement101]

We are "hard wired" to love, in a sense. Nature wants us to produce more babies with somebody that we find physically attractive--because they're probably genetically attractive as well.

But he could find that with any other girl he gets emotionally attached to. Compatibility things like having things in common go a long way to this as well, but still.

ermm....no thats not entirely correct, if this was the 1700s and you were a man named schopenhauer I would give you an A*x&#8734; but in "love" there are psychological aspects that should be taken into account as well which sadly schopenhauer didn't take into account.

"Compatibility things like having things in common go a long way to this as well,".

means nothing worth noting.

Agreed

 

[Judgement101]

Can someone awnser this please. (No experimental brain surgery thank you) I love this girl but I just can't stand my thoughts about her anymore, can someone tell me how to fall OUT of love? (Also, no murder.)

hahahahah! nope...

*twich*

THOUGH YOU STILL HAUNT MY DREAMS I DO NOT LIKE YOU ANYMORE! *sob*

...

???What???

 

[Judgement101]

Can someone awnser this please. (No experimental brain surgery thank you) I love this girl but I just can't stand my thoughts about her anymore, can someone tell me how to fall OUT of love? (Also, no murder.)

hahahahah! nope...

*twich*

THOUGH YOU STILL HAUNT MY DREAMS I DO NOT LIKE YOU ANYMORE! *sob*

...

edit: the only reason i am like this is because there was something between us and we could never be together due to certain circumstances... and thats probably why i only like girls that are just like her...

Are you...another version of me? That's literally the exact same thing as me!