Time. That is the only way, with time.
However, if you find that she does not love you, it may become a little easier.
However, if you find that she does not love you, it may become a little easier.
Is there a way to fall OUT of love?
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Honestly, in your case, I'd suggest go see a shrink. I believe you may have deep-seated emotional problems, most likely including but not limited to a severe lack of self-esteem and difficulty with general social interaction.Judgement101 said:
In all honesty, I do believe that some or all of the issues you believe yourself to suffer from (depression, psychosis, deadened nerve endings and the rage and cannibalism you've mentioned in other threads, not to mention the obvious constant attention seeking) are figments of your imagination and you most likely need professional help to repair your self-image and perception of the world.
Good luck.
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Well I know of a way to cut ties to her not the whole falling out of love thing but here it goes. Follow here around singing American Woman for 24 hours. Even when she's going to sleep at work whatever. And if she tries to interrupt sing louder, up to the top of your lungs if you have to. After a while she'll just move and change phone numbers to avoid you. Out of sight out of mind.
It'll take a few weeks to month before the chemical/hormonal processes have done their job. Then you'll only have to distantiate yourself from your entire cultural perspective on the concept of love and voila.
Just do stuff to pass the time until your body/mind looks for another potential mate to... 'fill in'.
Just do stuff to pass the time until your body/mind looks for another potential mate to... 'fill in'.
Although I agree with others when they say you should mentally condition yourself into falling out of love, I know from recent experience this is not easy. The only way it has ever worked for me is to go out and meet new people. I dont mean immediately pursue another relationship, because that is dangerous and not fair on the new woman. I just mean bring new people into your life, see other personalities. It'll help you realise the world doesn't revolve around this girl and there are other possibilities.
I'd also suggest talking to your friends about it, because as others have said if they are good friends they will be able to help you see past her. Convince yourself that there are other fish in the sea, and that if it was meant to be and there was a chance of happiness, it would have happened already.
This is, of course, all assuming that you've approached this girl, explained your feelings and gotten a response. If you haven't expressed your feelings to her explicitly (though of course without freaking her out), DO SO RIGHT NOW BEFORE YOU FOLLOW ANYONE'S ADVICE INCLUDING MINE. The amount of people who give up and try to fall out of love before they've even CHECKED properly that there is no chance sickens me.
I'd also suggest talking to your friends about it, because as others have said if they are good friends they will be able to help you see past her. Convince yourself that there are other fish in the sea, and that if it was meant to be and there was a chance of happiness, it would have happened already.
This is, of course, all assuming that you've approached this girl, explained your feelings and gotten a response. If you haven't expressed your feelings to her explicitly (though of course without freaking her out), DO SO RIGHT NOW BEFORE YOU FOLLOW ANYONE'S ADVICE INCLUDING MINE. The amount of people who give up and try to fall out of love before they've even CHECKED properly that there is no chance sickens me.
The one thing I didn't like about highschool, is that I believe I was in love with this girl, problem is she knew this, said it out loud in class, that pretty much did it. At least she never tried to take advantage.
As has been said before, I'd have to agree with Bruin. What he says is very much the most realistic suggestion given on this thread.
When you're in a situation where you feel trapped, you'd be prone to shelter yourself from what feels painful and harsh. Don't worry - that's entirely normal, especially since hormones in the teenage years tend to rip up the place like it's Kansas all over again. You normally shouldn't give a damn about what others say, since they're just words giving way to your thoughts and feelings. In this case though, you should lay aside your preconceptions and try to see the facts in Bruin's comments.
If you absolutely have to see a specialist of some sort, I'd recommend one who practises CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy). After seeing a whole pack of psychologists and counsellors with their own methods, as well as being on meds, I'd have to say that CBT has been the only thing that's worked for me. Like all learning however, it requires an open mind for it to work.
It's not going to be easy to accept with the constant barrage of confusion and hormones, but once you learn to accept it, it really helps change your way of thinking and helps you to become more self-aware (not in the moody, whiny "WHY ME??!!?!?!" sense).
Moreover, you've got to be honest with yourself. Stop the excuses. This problem you've run into isn't the end of everything. Tell your friend how you feel; she's helped you time and time again hasn't she?
To quote one of my favourite games:
"The world ends with you. If you want to enjoy life, expand your horizons."
Food for thought and best wishes, Judgement101!
When you're in a situation where you feel trapped, you'd be prone to shelter yourself from what feels painful and harsh. Don't worry - that's entirely normal, especially since hormones in the teenage years tend to rip up the place like it's Kansas all over again. You normally shouldn't give a damn about what others say, since they're just words giving way to your thoughts and feelings. In this case though, you should lay aside your preconceptions and try to see the facts in Bruin's comments.
If you absolutely have to see a specialist of some sort, I'd recommend one who practises CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy). After seeing a whole pack of psychologists and counsellors with their own methods, as well as being on meds, I'd have to say that CBT has been the only thing that's worked for me. Like all learning however, it requires an open mind for it to work.
It's not going to be easy to accept with the constant barrage of confusion and hormones, but once you learn to accept it, it really helps change your way of thinking and helps you to become more self-aware (not in the moody, whiny "WHY ME??!!?!?!" sense).
Moreover, you've got to be honest with yourself. Stop the excuses. This problem you've run into isn't the end of everything. Tell your friend how you feel; she's helped you time and time again hasn't she?
To quote one of my favourite games:
"The world ends with you. If you want to enjoy life, expand your horizons."
Food for thought and best wishes, Judgement101!
There is no way that is healthy. At all. PLEASE for your own good go and speak to a psychologist - what it sounds like to me is that you're depressed about your own life so you've created this 'perfect girl' who will make everything all better in every way.. except deep down you realise that this girl can't do that and if you were to have a relationship with her you would find that out. So you instead keep yourself away. That way you can always say 'there is a solution, all I need is her...'Judgement101 said:
Now this girl might be very nice and you might indeed love her. But if this is how you think of her you will NEVER have a healthy relationship with her and if will end very very badly.
There is no shame in getting help when you need it... and if you do nothing? Well, that's what happens. Nothing.
Neat plan, except if you have the willpower for step 2, then you'd be telekinetic. Moving objects would be easy compared to that taskxDAylaine said:Did it work for you?Judgement101 said:Wow...this actually worked...THANK YOU.Aylaine said:It takes 3 things.Judgement101 said:
1. Acceptance.
2. Willpower.
3. Realization.
Accept that you do not want to love her anymore. Apply willpower to down the feelings you have about her. Then finally 3, realize why you do not want to feel this way about her. Essentially you need to drive for this to work. That drive being the main reason why you do not want to love her in the first place. What reason is it? As long as it's your reason, focus on that. Focus on how things will be once you get over her.
Can I ask how?