Lets talk about sex, baby...

[NIHILHATE]

My girlfriend once bribed me into dressing up as Siegfried from Soul Calibur. It took a long fucking time. 'Cos of my OCD, aswell as bleaching my hair I had to make some armour out of biscuit tins. It was worth it though, she dressed as Amy Sorel.

 

[Snork Maiden]

I always assumed sex was just a means of pretending that I was not a social loser and that someone loved me.

I like this response because it reflects on a lot of peoples' attitudes on this site. Seriously, so many on here appear to be obsessed with making sure nobody thinks they aren't having sex or are socially inept.

This is actually the first ever gaming site where I dont get that, for the most part. Normally if someone mentions sex on a gaming forum its to do with how good they are at it, or to brag about their experiences - these people come across as assholes. Here people seem to just discuss what they like and how it affects them rather than "yeah I've had a threesome in a field it was good."

Looking at your join date you weren't here for the threesome thread. In fact there were two. Both asking if they should have one. The general responses brought my respect for a significant amount of users down a fair bit.

Here's one of them: [link]http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.119717#2328740[/link]

Although not so much the first page.

Dammit Escapist!

I suppose I can have "On the whole, this seems like the first ever gaming site..." instead, then.

 

[Nickolai77]

Ths pretty much sums me up

Easier said that done unfortunatly XD

 

[boholikeu]

Ths pretty much sums me up

Spoiler: pic

Easier said that done unfortunatly XD

Man, is that a real classical painting or was it shooped?

If it's real I know the first thing that I'm going to buy when I become filthy rich...

 

[Kathinka]

if the topic starter complains about how he would rather play then make love, i suppose his sex REALLY sucks ass ^_^

it's a means of showing the guy i love how incredibly important he is to me and make him having a good time with me. no killstreak reward or crushing defeat of virtual enemy armies can give me the rush as seeing the person i love being truly happy with me.

that said, it does not affect my gaming, since i have plenty of time for both really. my boyfriend is gone jobwise for extended periods of time, so when he comes home i have other things in mind then games. enough time for them when he's gone again.

 

[rompsku]

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Sex can be plenty relaxing, and need to be exhausting in order to be amazing. Even if you don't believe that, people often work out to burn off stress, so I don't really think the physical exertion is the issue here. Once again, you might want to take a second look at how you're approaching it.

Who usually initiates? You don't have to answer the question here because it's pretty personal, but that might give you a clue about why you feel so stressed.

Also, you might want to think of the question this way: if you weren't having sex in during those 2 hours a day but you were still spending time with your girlfriend, would you still rather be playing video games?

We both initiate. but mostly her I guess. usually after I get out of the shower or after she's done watching her favorite TV series. It's really freaking hard to say no when she's rolling her butt over my crotch or got my dick in her mouth. I've spoken to her about cutting down a few times already, but she's naturally very stubborn. She also tends to want sex after seeing people doing it on TV or even seeing something sexy in a magazine. and she orgasm very easily. She's way more into sex than I am, I admit that.

I personally wouldn't mind having sex only 3-4 times a week. I would probably prefer that. but she has needs. She always does it when I ask and does pretty much anything I want in the sack, it would be unfair to not do the same. We actually have a system where we do things her way one night and my way the next.

If we can't have sex for what ever reason, we either watch a movie, play some co-op or she lets me play while she cuddles me.

And I see what you mean about relaxing, or rather, using sex to relieve stress. For some reason it just doesn't work for me I guess. Probably gives me more stress actually... weird

 

[rompsku]

if the topic starter complains about how he would rather play then make love, i suppose his sex REALLY sucks ass ^_^

it's a means of showing the guy i love how incredibly important he is to me and make him having a good time with me. no killstreak reward or crushing defeat of virtual enemy armies can give me the rush as seeing the person i love being truly happy with me.

that said, it does not affect my gaming, since i have plenty of time for both really. my boyfriend is gone jobwise for extended periods of time, so when he comes home i have other things in mind then games. enough time for them when he's gone again.

I DON'T have plenty of time for games. Games are my stress relief. Don't ask me why. It just works better than anything else.

I thoroughly love having sex with my girlfriend. Last night we had an amazing session (she orgasmed twice and I nearly blacked out). But, it lasted for quite a while and I ended up having to work till 2 this morning to finish a project. I have to get up at 6am for work. So right now I'm really damn tired and NOT in the mood for sex tonight, I have another project to work on. I haven't even played any games since this past Saturday. it's bsically just been work and sex for me for the past 4 days. And, i can't exactly control my erections and I get one as soon as she starts walking around the apartment in anything lacy. And as soon as she sees I'm 'up' ,there's no stopping her.

Quality is not a problem, quantity is. Too much of a good thing and all that.

I will say again. I thoroughly enjoy the sex. But the consequences of it taking up my time makes me stress out.

 

[Rusman]

Generally doesn't effect me at all, both me and my girlfriend are gamers (and Escapist users) so we managed to spilt our time between sex and gaming quite nicely.

Uni is the main thing that comes between me and my beloved games, damn assignments all the bloody time...

 

[boholikeu]

*edit*

I personally wouldn't mind having sex only 3-4 times a week. I would probably prefer that. but she has needs. She always does it when I ask and does pretty much anything I want in the sack, it would be unfair to not do the same. We actually have a system where we do things her way one night and my way the next.

If we can't have sex for what ever reason, we either watch a movie, play some co-op or she lets me play while she cuddles me.

And I see what you mean about relaxing, or rather, using sex to relieve stress. For some reason it just doesn't work for me I guess. Probably gives me more stress actually... weird

erm, I probably should have said don't answer that question here because it's too personal. Might wanna edit out the first bit before mods see it.

Anyway, sex should *not* be causing you stress. If you feel like you are doing it too much for your libido, then make sure she understands. Don't let her be "stubborn" about it.

Also, "trading off" things you want to do is a good thing, but if it leads to more sex (which apparently you don't want) then you're getting the short end of the stick. Would she be willing to play games with you? If so, try gaming together (or a movie, or any of those other things you mentioned). If you really want her to be more respectful of your libido it's important that she understands you don't want to spend less time away from her, you just want less sex.

 

[Tiny116]

You mean nobody else here plays games while having sex... Oh yeah, I can multi task.

Dragon age dosn't count friend XD *Jk Jk*

OT: I honestly wouldn't know, I live with my parents and don't have that much luck with women

 

[DemonicVixen]

Why is it, i can actually get away with sex at the same time as stretching over to play Deus Ex on the computer (oh and still get a straight aim whilst killing)... Surely you people must be doing something wrong if you cant manage that...


ok so maybe i was dreaming

 

[rompsku]

*edit*

I personally wouldn't mind having sex only 3-4 times a week. I would probably prefer that. but she has needs. She always does it when I ask and does pretty much anything I want in the sack, it would be unfair to not do the same. We actually have a system where we do things her way one night and my way the next.

If we can't have sex for what ever reason, we either watch a movie, play some co-op or she lets me play while she cuddles me.

And I see what you mean about relaxing, or rather, using sex to relieve stress. For some reason it just doesn't work for me I guess. Probably gives me more stress actually... weird

erm, I probably should have said don't answer that question here because it's too personal. Might wanna edit out the first bit before mods see it.

Anyway, sex should *not* be causing you stress. If you feel like you are doing it too much for your libido, then make sure she understands. Don't let her be "stubborn" about it.

Also, "trading off" things you want to do is a good thing, but if it leads to more sex (which apparently you don't want) then you're getting the short end of the stick. Would she be willing to play games with you? If so, try gaming together (or a movie, or any of those other things you mentioned). If you really want her to be more respectful of your libido it's important that she understands you don't want to spend less time away from her, you just want less sex.

Lol... it's not the sex that's stressing me out. My libido is fine. otherwise I wouldn't be able to have sex at all, right.

The problem is that because I have so much sex it cuts into my schedule. And I constantly have to catch up. I haven't played a game since Saturday, but I've had sex everyday since then. But you're right, I need to cut down. I'm starting to associate sex with a pointless waste of time instead of what it really is (an awesome waste of time, lol).

 

[Gingerman]

Hasn't affected my game time at all. I've learned to multi task and I tell you one thing co-ops are even more interesting now.

 

[rompsku]

Hasn't affected my game time at all. I've learned to multi task and I tell you one thing co-ops are even more interesting now.

Dude! Duuuuuuuuuude! You may have just solved all my problems!
Have a fucking giant cookie man! You rock! I don't know why I haven't thought of this before.

 

[boholikeu]

Lol... it's not the sex that's stressing me out. My libido is fine. otherwise I wouldn't be able to have sex at all, right.

The problem is that because I have so much sex it cuts into my schedule. And I constantly have to catch up. I haven't played a game since Saturday, but I've had sex everyday since then. But you're right, I need to cut down. I'm starting to associate sex with a pointless waste of time instead of what it really is (an awesome waste of time, lol).

By libido I meant how much you emotionally want to have sex (IE without it stressing you out), not how much you can have sex.

Cutting down is probably a good idea, just make sure that you don't also cut down on spending time with your girlfriend as a result.

 

[Samuel Cook]

Sex? Not bothered by it. Haven't had it for 5 months and haven't missed it. Not because I don't have the looks or confidence, I'm just not interested in it. When I can find a girl that's cool, makes me laugh and good looking then I might think about it, after laughing.. because she'd make me laugh..

 

[Kenjitsuka]

Sorry, but sex and gaming have their own, very separate place in my life.
No idea why someone would be mixing these in any way tbh.

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

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[rompsku]

Lol... it's not the sex that's stressing me out. My libido is fine. otherwise I wouldn't be able to have sex at all, right.

The problem is that because I have so much sex it cuts into my schedule. And I constantly have to catch up. I haven't played a game since Saturday, but I've had sex everyday since then. But you're right, I need to cut down. I'm starting to associate sex with a pointless waste of time instead of what it really is (an awesome waste of time, lol).

By libido I meant how much you emotionally want to have sex (IE without it stressing you out), not how much you can have sex.

Cutting down is probably a good idea, just make sure that you don't also cut down on spending time with your girlfriend as a result.

Thanks dude. Your advice is actually sound and helpful. I'll definitely need to talk to her about this, she won't take it too well though. Pretty sure of that.

Also, Gingerman gave a great suggestion. Co-op while having sex. So crazy it might just!

 

[Gingerman]

Hasn't affected my game time at all. I've learned to multi task and I tell you one thing co-ops are even more interesting now.

Dude! Duuuuuuuuuude! You may have just solved all my problems!
Have a fucking giant cookie man! You rock! I don't know why I haven't thought of this before.

What can I say, I'm known as the Gingerman for a reason. For you WoWers this method can also give a whole new meaning to dungeon raids just don't go OOM to quickly.