Love, why can't you find it?

[Timberwolf0924]

Note that I said "YOU" not me. I read alot of posts where people complain that love doesn't exist, or that they can never fall in love, or they will never or they aren't capable of it.

I want to know why, many people give vauge reasons. "I had a horrible relationship, and now I can't love anyone" right... why?

I mean, do you not interact with people of the oppisite gender? Do you not talk with someone whom you can share feelings with? How many of you are in school and sit and mock couples that sit together and snuggle, while you slowly die on the inside?

My grand-mami told me "there's millions of fish in the sea, ya just gotta use the right lure" how many of you are not even out there fishing because you think you're not worth it. When I'm sure most of you have great things to bring to relationships. What makes you afraid to try?

 

[Glasgow]

I haven't found myself attracted to women, nor did I find myself attracted to men.

 

[Suicida1 Midget]

Cause i have moved around alot and I am an emotionless shell of a guy.

 

[Palademon]

I can't find someone who shares enough common interest and values, that I naturally get along with. That's really all there is to it.

The kind of people I'm looking for wouldn't go to places where you 'fish'.

 

[AnarchistAbe]

Cause I'm 20, not in college, and don't have many friends. In summary, I don't know people, and I don't know how to meet people :/

 

[AnarchistAbe]

Sorry, have to do it xD

 

[wooty]

My excuse in a nutshell, because I cant be arsed with love anymore, its marginally pointless right now.

 

[steeple]

because I've never been approached by anyone, and the act of asking someone out is almost impossible for me...

 

[Josh Horton]

Never been too keen with love. Was in a relationship once, she cheated on me multiple times and broke up with me for something I did, I have yet to find out what that was...

I have a thing for my best friend right now, her and I are extremely close, we've done almost everything together and been there for each other too. Unfortunately she doesn't have any intentions of dating me, she feels that if we did it would ruin our friendship. I don't argue with her because she has had it rough too with relationships.

Anyways ya... Been stuck on her for sometime so not sure really what to say about not finding love, it is more along the lines of someone else accepting me but hey I can't force people to feel a certain way.

 

[Genericjim101]

I'm in a very small town in mid Wales with no real means to meet people as I'm not in education and my job has mostly women over 50 and that kind of thing just isn't my bag (baby).

 

[Togs]

As Im overweight with no fashion sense and all the personality of a bad case of haemorrhoids.

Plus the chance Id be rejected is terrifying.

EDIT=bugger it, if you cant vent on total strangers who can you vent on- I've had quite a few chances to see if Ive found it, girls making it obvious they like me but for some reason when it comes to the crunch of asking her out for the 1st date I become paralysed with fear, incapable of doing anything.
I hate the type of person that makes me, but Ive no idea where it comes from or how to deal with it, guess Im just a coward.

 

[Daystar Clarion]

I'm engaged to the same girl I met at 15 (I'm 24 on Saturday).

I'd be lying if I said relationships are hard, because they're not.
If you click with someone in just the right way, it's really not hard.

I'm not the stereotypical, socially awkward geek.
The geek part is true, I just don't break out in a cold sweat when it comes to dealing with people. You'd be surprised how just being a funny guy can get you through most situations.

 

[keideki]

Hmmm, I guess I would have to say the reason I can't find love is that I don't have the time or money to look for it right now. I'm so busy with college that my free time is asymptotic, it approaches but never seems to quite hit zero.

 

[Agemt_Smith_53]

I can find it i have found but i am not sure if see loves me

 

[Puddleknock]

I'm constantly surrounded by women (my uni course had a ratio of ten women to every one guy), I get along with women fine and talking to them is not a problem. I'm just not a risk taker, don't want to put my neck out in fear of rejection. Add to that the fact I'm fairly oblivious to any signals given, a girl could have 'I like you' stamped on her forehead and I wouldn't notice. An effective combo which means I wont try anything till I'm certain but I'm too socially unaware to notice any interest.

Also last time I was with someone it ended a little messy which does not help.

 

[Generalissimo]

because after two relationships that have ended disastourously (excuse spelling) i just don't see the point in breaking my back over some girl that doesn't really like me that much.

i know this because IT HAS HAPPENED TWICE. from now on, i'm gonna let love come to me. and should that ever happen, i will eat my shoes, because i'm too different from anyone else to have any more than a short list of similarities with the the same gender, let alone the oppisite.

it'll happen when it happens.