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Tell her immediately. She will undoubtedly be pissed that you lied to her the moment she met you, but that's better than her thinking that you're two years older than you really are for the rest of your life, especially if you actually want something serious out of this.
For one, you were incredibly irresponsible if you slept with her and are underage. It is NEVER okay to put someone at risk of serious legal trouble like that. I'm not trying to sound like your dad, but be a man and don't do shit like that to people, it's just not cool. Disregard if you happen to live in a place where you are above the legal age of consent, obviously.
My advice is to tell her right away, and don't be surprised if she's angry. I, for one, would be fucking livid if an underage girl lied to me about her age and I slept with her. Even if you are over the age of consent where you live, though, you should still tell the truth. Relationships should never be built on lies, and she'll find out anyhow, I guarantee.
My advice is to tell her right away, and don't be surprised if she's angry. I, for one, would be fucking livid if an underage girl lied to me about her age and I slept with her. Even if you are over the age of consent where you live, though, you should still tell the truth. Relationships should never be built on lies, and she'll find out anyhow, I guarantee.
ok i told he'r. well she was really angry, after a lot of talking i "slept over". didn't talk about my age again however still no relationship. now one of us text the other i come over (she has her own place i don't) an i "sleep over". so i have no idea what i have now but i like it!!!!!
Go along with this if you will, know that it cannot last very long. From how you worded this, there doesn't seem to be very good communication between you two; an essential element in a sustaining relationship. If you want this to last you're both gonna have to open up about your feelings. If what you do now doesn't change, it won't last.Quantana said:
I been on this boat before. Kept my age a secret (just never mentioned it) and when she found out, she took me aside quietly while I was out partying and had run into her, and basically told me it's never gonna happen. So better not waste time. I was extremely lucky that she was gracious about it and we stayed friends after, but you don't want to push it too far, come clean and what happens happens.
Tell her the truth, cos if she finds out some other way and is mad, then you'll be the one she's gunning for..
If she was thinking 19 was too young then it'll be unlikely to continue, though if she did want a relationship then who knows?
You'll just have to see what the reaction is.
If she was thinking 19 was too young then it'll be unlikely to continue, though if she did want a relationship then who knows?
You'll just have to see what the reaction is.
but why does it have to come to a relationship i don't know if i like that better i like her i like her a lot but i lied when i was drunk so it;s not gonna work ( everybody told me this here ) so i think i might as well get the most fun out of it right????Corjha said:
Ok, so since you told her and you have still continued to meet, you have decided to not pursue a conventional relationship. Fair enough.Quantana said:
What you decide to do with this situation is going to be an expression of your character. Are you the guy who declines good sex because he thinks that what he's doing is underhanded? Are you the guy who takes whatever pleasure he is offered and leaves when it ends? Are you the guy who thinks that such an age difference shouldn't have to be such a dividing factor between two people?
What I'm asking here is do you want to get to know this woman better?
Don't reply to this. Just think about these questions on your own. We've given you more than enough advice about this. It's your own judgment from here on in.
There is no easy way you can hide that in the long term, tell her and hope for the best. She'll probably be angry with you for a few days and you do run the risk of losing her but assuming that's the only lie between you two and she feels the same, things might go well for you two.
In the words of Dr. Bob Kelso: "Lie forever! It's the natural form of communication between Men and Women."
No but in all seriousness, you are acting like a 13 year old. Be a man, tell her you're 17, see where it goes from there. You just met this girl, if she dumps you, who cares? There's plenty, plenty, plenty, PLENTY more fish in the sea.
No but in all seriousness, you are acting like a 13 year old. Be a man, tell her you're 17, see where it goes from there. You just met this girl, if she dumps you, who cares? There's plenty, plenty, plenty, PLENTY more fish in the sea.
Depending on where you are I don't know if it is statuatory rape or not. In the UK 16 is legal but w/e.
To all the "OMG the guy is younger" ppl, get a grip, you're just parroting a patriarchal bias that justified older (and usually wealthier/more powerful) men scoring with the young daughters of poorer families. I won't go into the biblical/koranic examples of this but there are many.
On topic, tell her if you want. Tell her why you're telling her if you do. If she's shallow enough to make an issue out of it then forget her.
To all the "OMG the guy is younger" ppl, get a grip, you're just parroting a patriarchal bias that justified older (and usually wealthier/more powerful) men scoring with the young daughters of poorer families. I won't go into the biblical/koranic examples of this but there are many.
On topic, tell her if you want. Tell her why you're telling her if you do. If she's shallow enough to make an issue out of it then forget her.