Marriage without sex?
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In my own opinion I don't think I'd care about sex if I loved someone enough to want to be in a deeply committed relationship.
Well, last I checked, asexuals didn't take a vow of abstinence, only that they are not interested in/have no drive for sex.ravensheart18 said:
If an asexual couple wanted children they would most likely conceive the same way any other couple would.
As for the antisomething it was aimed at those who still think that sex is like... gods gift or something. And yes, we think they are very strange. (Yes yes, probably a bad choice of words but meh)
Also, biological design is that sex is a reproductive act, not dr feelgoods fun house.
Lack of education. Many percieve it as a pretentious way to say, "I'm a virgin," some think its what happens when you're not feeling sexually motivated and more think it simply doesn't exist, and its an excuse used to say "I'm not interested" without having to deal with any actual interaction. Or worse, people think asexuals are somehow traumatized into not wanting to have sex.Azure Sky said:
In our sexually-charged society, you're an anomaly when you don't like something, and many people find anomalies alienating.
With a lot of people asking questions in this thread, I feel a need to make this clear: Asexuality is a lack of sexual orientation. You aren't attracted to men or women. That's all it is. Some asexuals do have a need to reach orgasm from time to time, and they typically can satisfy their sex drives with personal stimulation, but yes, asexuals can have sex drives. I don't, so I can't really talk much about that.
Agreed. Also on the subject at hand, while I agree that sex is part of a healthy relationship, intercourse is not the only way of being sexual. To keep this appropriate,and so my second post is not my last, I will not got into details about it. I would like to think that so long as the people in question truly loved each other I think that they could overcome this, they would just need a little imagination to help keep the relationship health and prosperous. All just my thought, so hope this is an okay answer.Tekkawarrior said:
I want to make a bad joke that marriage is sexless anyways, but its overdone.
I could do it. Instead of sex, Id rather we game together, or play DnD together, or listen to music together, or watch bad movies together, or cuddle together, or play MTG together..or against eachother I guess.
I could do it. Instead of sex, Id rather we game together, or play DnD together, or listen to music together, or watch bad movies together, or cuddle together, or play MTG together..or against eachother I guess.
That was my relationship before it ended two days ago, its tough but you realize why you loved them in the first place, yeah i could do it. Some people die without having sex and some without having love, if i could have at least one sure
yeah she looked good from across the room at that party but after a couple of sentences you realize holy shit shes awesome
yeah she looked good from across the room at that party but after a couple of sentences you realize holy shit shes awesome
Apparently, there are more "asexuals" than "normals" here.
Being a virgin doesn't mean you're asexual. If ya don't feel the need or the desire to have sex it's most probably because you haven't been properly stimulated yet.
Anyways, back to the topic.
Marriage is just a hassle. If ya love somebody, you don't have to marry them. Unless you want some legal benefits, which I find underwhelming compared to all the paperwork etc., you'd be better off staying the way you are.
Just think of all the legal procedures if you ever want/need to divorce, it sometimes takes years.
But it's a fact, a relationship without sex is doomed, especially if she is incapable of having an orgasm.
Even if you wouldn't eventually get sexually frustrated, if ya really love her, you'll get some kind of guilt.
My advice is to stay the way you are so you see how it goes but not get married, keep it cute and simple.
Being a virgin doesn't mean you're asexual. If ya don't feel the need or the desire to have sex it's most probably because you haven't been properly stimulated yet.
Anyways, back to the topic.
Marriage is just a hassle. If ya love somebody, you don't have to marry them. Unless you want some legal benefits, which I find underwhelming compared to all the paperwork etc., you'd be better off staying the way you are.
Just think of all the legal procedures if you ever want/need to divorce, it sometimes takes years.
But it's a fact, a relationship without sex is doomed, especially if she is incapable of having an orgasm.
Even if you wouldn't eventually get sexually frustrated, if ya really love her, you'll get some kind of guilt.
My advice is to stay the way you are so you see how it goes but not get married, keep it cute and simple.
I would want to know why first. If I can.
At first I probably wouldn't mind, but remember that sex is a natural part of a human's life - why should we be forced to live without it? I don't know, it's a hard one, I'm not sure what I would do.
I'm just glad that the woman I intent to marry at some point is the opposite of asexual
At first I probably wouldn't mind, but remember that sex is a natural part of a human's life - why should we be forced to live without it? I don't know, it's a hard one, I'm not sure what I would do.
I'm just glad that the woman I intent to marry at some point is the opposite of asexual
Well, if the oral sex is going both ways then I go ahead and marry her. Sex isn't everything and when you both want to enjoy yourselfs...go go 69!
This, except until I finish maturing (so about 23-25) I'll stick with an 'asexual for the moment' stance, because I honestly don't know if it will change as I finish puberty.Erana said:
But, assuming I don't change, then this is my answer. If I do change, then why marry her? Can't we just be non-sexual partners? With an emotional bond stronger than any marriage?
Also, if we love eachother, and I have sexual urges that she cannot physically fulfill, then she'd want me to find satisfaction elsewhere (I wouldn't do it, but she'd stiull want me too), otherwise how is she my 'perfect girl'?
The other thing I would like to consider is that I would want kids - my own, genetic offspring, not adopted kids. I don't really want to spend my life married to someone who I can't have kids with.InfiniteSingularity said:
I still want to know why - why can't we have sex?
how could a women who loves you dearly deny you this primal urge. Ok maby less sex, or something but unless she has some disease that would kill her (in which case I would consider it) all she does is selflessly forcing a man into mercilesly jacking off his entire life, because wanting sex is not something you can choose to not do.