Marriage without sex?

[Bara_no_Hime]

It was my initial attraction to her personality that made me interested in her, not her physical traits.

Well, likewise. I met my spouse through a mutual friend, but it was really a writing group that we were both in that helped us to connect. I love my spouse's mind.

And I want that mind to f- my brains out on a regular basis. **shrug** Loving someone for their personality and wanting to have rocking sex aren't mutually exclusive. Actually, I'm sure I'd get bored if I was just banging some hottie. The fact that my spouse and I play games together, write together, and generally enjoy each other's minds is what makes the sex so great.

 

[Erana]

Well, I'm asexual, so it would be a match made in heaven.

I dont really like kids and im asexual, so ya I would. I cant say I see a downside

I am as well. I have gone my entire life without it(Short as that may be), and I don't feel like I have missed much. Besides, sex isn't everything.

Asexual or a virgin?

Both.

Just making sure; some people have really weird misinterpretations of what asexuality as a (lack of)orientation is. >.>

 

[bdcjacko]

Now, it has been my experience that sex drops off after a few years of marriage, and this is manageable, kinda, I guess. But if I'm not getting any before marriage there wouldn't be marriage.

I guess that depends - the opposite happened with my marriage. Honeymoon aside, my first year of marriage, my spouse and I had sex two, maybe three nights a week.

Now? We don't have sex one or two nights a week.

Wait, I'm not sure that made sense. Let me rephrase. We have sex almost every night - the one or two nights we don't have sex are the exception, not the rule.

And we're not talking quickies either. We were at it for an hour and a half last night. ^^ Of course, last night was particularly awesome. Normally it's around an hour.

Of course, I realize I have a wonderful sex life, and that my results aren't necessarily typical.

Damnit, I married the wrong woman. Luckily I'm divorced now! But my current girlfriend does enjoy the sex, which is wonderful.

Sex is nice, but it's not a critical component for relationship. I myself would sacrifice it and much more if I could find another intelligent being to live with, which I wouldn't hate forever after 5 minutes of marriage (seriously people, you suck!).

Hmmmm, I disagree, sex is a very important component of a relationship. No sex = no point.

 

[Evilbunny]

How do I know I love them without ever sleeping with them?

 

[PettingZOOPONY]

Don't think anyone would be asexual after getting some. I call bull on anyone that says that.

 

[Taerdin]

I might be weird, but that sounds amazing. The perfect partner in life? Sign me up.

I get by without sex all the time, to have that otherwise perfect person in my life, even without sex, is still leagues better than being alone and having no sex.

I would find a relationship with a bad match that has sex all the time to be a much worse proposition.

 

[Jonluw]

I consider sexuality to be what separates friends from lovers, so no.
How she could be my lover in the first place with sex being out of the picture is beyond me.

 

[spartan231490]

... and the reason I wouldn't want to just stay a friend with this person is?

Pretty much this I think. Sex is the only difference between friendship and a romantic relationship.

 

[HerbertTheHamster]

I'd go:

Booooooooooring.

EDIT: I love all the virgins saying they're asexual, it's so cute.

 

[similar.squirrel]

After years of a wonderful, fantastic relationship, your lover wants to marry you so that you can both live happily ever after.

Wait, does this hypothetical situation arise from a medical condition or something? Because marriage and 'happily ever after' have nothing to do with one another. You can have a fulfilling, lifelong relationship without getting the government or religion involved. Anybody who would give up physical intimacy for some outdated tradition is quite frankly a fucking idiot.

 

[fenrizz]

I'd never do that.

It would only lead to cheating.

 

[bdcjacko]

Don't think anyone would be asexual after getting some. I call bull on anyone that says that.

I'm not sure about that, but there is just something that doesn't sit right with me about asexuals. Which is silly, because they aren't doing anything that hurts me, and doesn't really effect or affect me. But still there is something about hearing asexual people weigh in on relationships and the sexual component of them that just annoys the crap out of me. I guess it is like hearing a vegan giving me tips on how to cook my steak.

 

[Feylynn]

Flawless impossibility for no price then?
Done.

Don't need sex, even if I did I don't see anyone tolerating me in a romantic capacity, let alone loving me.

 

[Oneirius]

Wait, does this hypothetical situation arise from a medical condition or something? Because marriage and 'happily ever after' have nothing to do with one another. You can have a fulfilling, lifelong relationship without getting the government or religion involved. Because anybody who would give up physical intimacy for some outdated tradition is quite frankly a fucking idiot.

My original "thought" was of a medical condition, yes, but I guess you could also have someone who is a member of some strange anti-sex cult and is deeply religious. I just thought if I wrote something like that than people would just start looking for loopholes in the lover's philosophy or say things like "well, if she's deeply religious, I would never have loved her in the first place!" or something.

And as I have already said, you can safely replace marriage with "be with your lover for the rest of your life and don't sleep with anyone else".

 

[bdcjacko]

Wait, does this hypothetical situation arise from a medical condition or something? Because marriage and 'happily ever after' have nothing to do with one another. You can have a fulfilling, lifelong relationship without getting the government or religion involved. Because anybody who would give up physical intimacy for some outdated tradition is quite frankly a fucking idiot.

My original "thought" was of a medical condition, yes, but I guess you could also have someone who is a member of some strange anti-sex cult and is deeply religious. I just thought if I wrote something like that than people would just start looking for loopholes in the lover's philosophy or say things like "well, if she's deeply religious, I would never have loved her in the first place!" or something.

And as I have already said, you can safely replace marriage with "be with your lover for the rest of your life and don't sleep with anyone else".

Side note, my first wife had a medical condition that she constantly used as an excuse not to have sex with me. It was pretty awful. She had a heart problem just for the record. We ended up getting a divorce when I found out she was using that as an excuse not to have sex with me and me only it turns out.

So if you aren't getting sex in your long term relationship, you have to start asking where is the other person getting sex from.

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

And as I have already said, you can safely replace marriage with "be with your lover for the rest of your life and don't sleep with anyone else".

If we aren't having sex, then he or she isn't my lover.

Anyway, OP, I've got to ask - what is the motivation behind this thread? It's been done before, in the past month or two, and it got the same results then. Not that I mind chatting about sex on the internet (as many here are aware) but the last time there was clearly a question behind the question on the OP's mind.

This thread, I can't tell why you're asking. Just as one of those "impossible situation" questions like the "kill yourself or all humanity" thread? Or something deeper?

 

[similar.squirrel]

Wait, does this hypothetical situation arise from a medical condition or something? Because marriage and 'happily ever after' have nothing to do with one another. You can have a fulfilling, lifelong relationship without getting the government or religion involved. Because anybody who would give up physical intimacy for some outdated tradition is quite frankly a fucking idiot.

My original "thought" was of a medical condition, yes, but I guess you could also have someone who is a member of some strange anti-sex cult and is deeply religious. I just thought if I wrote something like that than people would just start looking for loopholes in the lover's philosophy or say things like "well, if she's deeply religious, I would never have loved her in the first place!" or something.

And as I have already said, you can safely replace marriage with "be with your lover for the rest of your life and don't sleep with anyone else".

It still doesn't make sense. What kind of medical condition is induced by marriage? And yes, most people wouldn't marry somebody who stopped having sex on religious grounds on their wedding night.

It's just such a mind-boggling scenario. Even if you replace marriage with being with your lover for the rest of your life and not sleeping with anyone else'. Surely one of the main factors of staying with somebody for the rest of your life is sex with somebody you love on a regular basis.

 

[jonyboy13]

Oral is good enough for me.
I'd go for it.

 

[Canid117]

What has her vagina sealed shut in fear of my all mighty schlong or something?