Marriage without sex?

[Haydyn]

Also, for the record, there is nothing degrading about oral sex, male or female. If I give a guy a blow job, I am not degraded - if anything, I'm empowered (cause I can bite down if I want to - the man is totally at my mercy in that moment). Unless you're saying the one-sided issue is what makes it degrading, in which case I'd point out that there are other spots that can cause a woman to reach orgasm.

Huh, I guess the guy kind of is at the mercy of the blower. Now I'm going to be scared next time that happens.

 

[Nigh Invulnerable]

Believe it or not, sex is considered to be an extremely important part of a healthy relationship.

Very true. And if, as the OP states, that this person is incredibly beautiful and I'm attracted to her, then I don't think I could go my entire life without sex with that person/another person. Palmela Anderson helps when you're desperate but it's just not the same.

And about all of the asexuals that are apparently crawling all over this website, I wonder how many of them have actually had sex before deciding it wasn't for them.

I'm wondering that too. Sure, I went a long time in my life without sex, and then I got married to my wonderful wife and now I have to say that sex is pretty much awesome. It's not the be-all end-all to our relationship or anything, but it is a wonderful way to show your partner your feelings.

 

[Totenkopf]

Your lover is perfect.
Your lover is as a beautiful as an angel, amazingly talented, intelligent and kind, and truly loves you more than anything. Your lover would do anything for you.
Then comes the subject of marriage.
After years of a wonderful, fantastic relationship, your lover wants to marry you so that you can both live happily ever after.
There's just one tiny problem.
You and your lover can never have sex. Like, ever. No matter how much you both want it, no matter how much protection you use, no matter what position you choose, your lover is simply physically incapable of having sex in any way (well, except giving oral I guess, but seriously now). No amount of medicine or surgery will help.

What are you going to do? Assume, for now, that this marriage is going to be forever and that you are not going to cheat on your lover (you horrible monster).

Will you refuse your lover's request, even risking breaking up with the one who is otherwise perfect for you, because being together means you will never get to have sex again?

I would like to hear your answers.

Hey Oneirius, do you recognize me?

OT:
True love is far greater than the pleasures of the flesh.
That said, I'd marry her and stay loyal until the very end.
No problem.
Well, that's about it, but sometimes I really worry about the "modern perception" of ideals...

 

[Verlander]

I doubt I'd get married. If she couldn't/wouldn't have sex then she isn't perfect.

If the situation as you described it happened, it wouldn't matter, as I'm polyamorous, and my "perfect woman" would be as well.

This reminded me of the series Pushing Daisies. I have only seen a few episodes but basically it's about a guy who can't touch his girlfriend because she will die if he touches her. They can't even kiss or hold hands, it's kinda sad really.
I can't really see how it would work out :/ Sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship but it's still a big part.

It was a great show, I'm kinda sad that it got cancelled.

 

[DSK-]

I have hands, don't I? I see no problem here...

In all seriousness, I don't think it would be a massive issue if we are going by the situation laid out by the OP.

Having said that, as I don't know what it's like to be in that situation I can't be certain of my actions.

 

[katsumoto03]

It really doesn't seem to be marriage then, does it?

As somebody already said:

Technically speaking you must consummate the marriage before it is "official".

Either way, I'd be fine with it if she's fine with me sleeping with other people.

 

[PatSilverFox]

Does oral or masturbation count?

@OP Seriously, be more specific here.
I would definitely say yes if either or both of these ^^^ two ^^ were possible, but I have to consider it more if it weren't.

 

[Oneirius]

Does oral or masturbation count?

@OP Seriously, be more specific here.
I would definitely say yes if either or both of these ^^^ two ^^ were possible, but I have to consider it more if it weren't.

You are free to masturbate (I guess she can't, in the case that inspired this discussion, but for the sake of it, I guess you can say she can too), and you can have oral sex if you are fine with the fact that she is only ever going to give it to you, which to me sounds like an unpleasant thought (although, as we have already seen on this thread, some think otherwise and if you do, have fun)

 

[PatSilverFox]

Does oral or masturbation count?

@OP Seriously, be more specific here.
I would definitely say yes if either or both of these ^^^ two ^^ were possible, but I have to consider it more if it weren't.

You are free to masturbate (I guess she can't, in the case that inspired this discussion, but for the sake of it, I guess you can say she can too), and you can have oral sex if you are fine with the fact that she is only ever going to give it to you, which to me sounds like an unpleasant thought (although, as we have already seen on this thread, some think otherwise and if you do, have fun)

In my case it would be a he.
Yes I would like that, but would my partner be able to masturbate as well?

 

[sagacious]

sure! I came up with an awesome solution! it's called masturbation.

Seriously though, if the girl is THAT awesome as you described it would be worth it.

 

[AgentDarkmoon]

You are free to masturbate (I guess she can't, in the case that inspired this discussion, but for the sake of it, I guess you can say she can too), and you can have oral sex if you are fine with the fact that she is only ever going to give it to you, which to me sounds like an unpleasant thought (although, as we have already seen on this thread, some think otherwise and if you do, have fun)

My case would also be a he.

In the particular scenario you've laid out I think I would be alright, it would suck in the fact that I wouldn't be able to pleasure him though. And I can always get myself artificially inseminated if we want children.

 

[i64ever]

Marriage without sex, or as its known in my house...marriage.

 

[Raticate5]

After years of a wonderful, fantastic relationship, your lover wants to marry you so that you can both live happily ever after.

Because apparently it's impossible to be happy without marriage...

winnnnn xD

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

Huh, I guess the guy kind of is at the mercy of the blower. Now I'm going to be scared next time that happens.

Heh. Actually, much of the work involved in a blow job is keeping one's teeth away from sensitive tissue while still applying pressure. It's harder than it sounds. *

You generally don't need to worry about a woman intentionally trying to bite down. As long as you return the favor (or do something equally pleasurable for your partner) you will find that we do our best to make blow jobs as pleasant as possible. I for one take pride in the quality of my blow jobs. ^^

* [sub]That's what she said. And the puns keep coming.[/sub]

 

[darkknight9]

Been there, done that. Even got the permission slip to go have sex with someone else. Didn't want to. I wanted my wife. I'm divorced now. If it happened again?

Na na na na, na na na na, hey hey hey, goodbye!

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaay too much tension to bear. Not to mention if either of us wanted kids.

 

[PatSilverFox]

Huh, I guess the guy kind of is at the mercy of the blower. Now I'm going to be scared next time that happens.

Heh. Actually, much of the work involved in a blow job is keeping one's teeth away from sensitive tissue while still applying pressure. It's harder than it sounds. *

You generally don't need to worry about a woman intentionally trying to bite down. As long as you return the favor (or do something equally pleasurable for your partner) you will find that we do our best to make blow jobs as pleasant as possible. I for one take pride in the quality of my blow jobs. ^^

* [sub]That's what she said. And the puns keep coming.[/sub]

Rowr that's all so true.

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

You are free to masturbate (I guess she can't, in the case that inspired this discussion,

What case? I feel like there's some really weird undercurrent going on in this thread, and I would really like to know what "case" inspired this thread.

PM me if it's something you don't want to talk about in the thread. I've known some people with physical issues, so I might have further insights.

 

[bdcjacko]

Been there, done that. Even got the permission slip to go have sex with someone else. Didn't want to. I wanted my wife. I'm divorced now. If it happened again?

Na na na na, na na na na, hey hey hey, goodbye!

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaay too much tension to bear. Not to mention if either of us wanted kids.

Really, I didn't get permission...and she never asked for any. But end result, marriage without sex don't work.

 

[neonsword13-ops]

I really have no problem with it. as long as I have someone to game with, i'll be fine.