Moral Question
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A couple of times per month, I go drink a couple of beers with my co-workers after work on friday. Drinking is a social activity, not only romantic. As long as she pays for her drink, all is fine.
I really don't see any problem with the age. What you really should be thinking about is the work situation. Assuming things don't go well, would you still be able to work with her and she with you? Even if things do go well, will it be problematic having to work with her (especially seeing as how it sounds like you're the senior one and may have to order her around or lay down the law at some point)?
I wouldn't be so inclined myself. But, to be honest it sounds like you've already decided yes and are looking for support for your decision.
To each his own, as long as it's legal.
To each his own, as long as it's legal.
Never ever ever ever EVER date a co-worker! It will ALWAYS turn out bad.
And her (not being of the legal drinking age) asking you out for a drink, already spells trouble.
Don't take the chance my friend.
And her (not being of the legal drinking age) asking you out for a drink, already spells trouble.
Don't take the chance my friend.
If she's legal in your country - and age of consent is 16 in some countries, Canada, for example, and probably at least a few European countries, you're okay from the legal point of view.
As drinking goes, fuck, every teenager drinks and there's pretty much no way you could get in trouble for that unless you're also causing public destruction and being overly noisy. The laws on legal drinking age are retarded in some countries, like a whole lot of USA states. You can drive, you can become a soldier and be in a warzone where your job involves killing and being killed, but you can't enjoy a drink? That's idiotic.
So, assuming you live in a country where she's legal, I'd say there's nothing wrong with it. That, assuming that I didn't misunderstand what I thought was a hint in your message.
Otherwise, if she's a cool person some 4 years difference shouldn't play a big role in friendship and stuff. You don't have to fuck every person you hang out or drink with.
If I'm right on my assumption along with a good portion of the posters in the thread, don't count on a relationship either way. Seriously. If you're an adult (aka above 18, possibly living away from home etc) why the HELL would you want to date someone who is still under almost complete control of their parents?
As drinking goes, fuck, every teenager drinks and there's pretty much no way you could get in trouble for that unless you're also causing public destruction and being overly noisy. The laws on legal drinking age are retarded in some countries, like a whole lot of USA states. You can drive, you can become a soldier and be in a warzone where your job involves killing and being killed, but you can't enjoy a drink? That's idiotic.
So, assuming you live in a country where she's legal, I'd say there's nothing wrong with it. That, assuming that I didn't misunderstand what I thought was a hint in your message.
Otherwise, if she's a cool person some 4 years difference shouldn't play a big role in friendship and stuff. You don't have to fuck every person you hang out or drink with.
If I'm right on my assumption along with a good portion of the posters in the thread, don't count on a relationship either way. Seriously. If you're an adult (aka above 18, possibly living away from home etc) why the HELL would you want to date someone who is still under almost complete control of their parents?
Drinking age is different in different places...Scumpernickle said:
I'm pretty sure in quite a few countries in Europe there are two separate drinking ages for softer and harder alcoholic drinks and I'm pretty sure that in that case the drinking age for softer stuff would be around 15-16.
And seriously, did most people really abide the whole "legal drinking age" thing when they were teens? Really? You're making me lose hope in the whole spirit of it... No parties when you were 16-17? Involving alcohol, potential running away from police if some idiot manages to piss off the neighbors, and what not? And, you know, making out and losing your virginity?
Bad idea, moral not an issue, legal not an issue, bad idea. Younger people do not see the world in the same light you do. Also you may have people give you shit for this as friends like to do that. Give it time wait until she is 17 and slightly more stable?
Bad Idea, karma hates you, she has elabrate traps set up for you, avoid them.
I generally state the rule of two tears younger if they are a teen and you are not. This is because I have seen some of my friends make that same mistake man. Dating younger girls may work out sometimes, but the odds are stacked against you from my studies. One last thing
BAD IDEA!
Bad Idea, karma hates you, she has elabrate traps set up for you, avoid them.
I generally state the rule of two tears younger if they are a teen and you are not. This is because I have seen some of my friends make that same mistake man. Dating younger girls may work out sometimes, but the odds are stacked against you from my studies. One last thing
BAD IDEA!
You need to get out more, as more I mean to another countries.twasdfzxcv said:
In Finland that is illegal, seeing shes underaged and you could be sent to jail for pedophilia.
It is complicated in my opinion.
But I think (This is easy to me to say as A-sexual) that don't do anything. There's lot of fish in the sea.
Well of course I'm into the spirit of those kinds of things, everyone needs to have a little fun.Billion Backs said:
I'm just getting into the whole co-worker thing. If things turn out bad, he might get fired. Or she could get into the whole "I was drunk, I didn't know what I was doing" routine and he could get pegged with some criminal offenses.
I'm not saying to absolutely stay away from alcohol and the like, just make sure that she's a genuinely good girl and cover your bases.
Now that is a very reasonable concern. The main problem about dating someone who works with you isn't loss of productivity due to in-office fucking which is also not something that would happen at an average job a 16 year old would have... (Like, McDonalds slave? Some department store clerk? Or what. That's what I worked during summer when I was 16...) It's having to be and cooperate with someone who might hate your guts after the eventual break-up.Scumpernickle said:
So, uh, yeah.