Moral Question

[Gigano]

Since there's no question of legality, it all depends on the situation (how mature is she, are you her superior, how far would you take it, how soon etc.?) and your own personal ethical standards. As a point of departure, I for one don't think a four year age gap would matter here, but various circumstances may lead to a different result.

I've got one question to solve this.

If your sister was 16 would you want her going out with some one who is 20?

If the answer is yes or you don't have a problem with it then go for it.

If you would honestly say no, then don't touch it.

She is some ones daughter or sister man.

Sound advice if you want to stay 100 % on the right side of your own ethics. On the other hand, 100 % ethics isn't all there is to life.

 

[SimpleChimp]

Alright. This entire time i have been saying "don't do it", but in light of my imminent departure to go to military training i say;

Stop being a fuckin nancy and just give it to her already.

Case 1, it doesn't work out.

Case 2, you smash some pretty and legal Diego (as in San Diego, a Whale's Vagina)

Case 3, you decide not to do it and you always wonder what if. Stop wondering. Go Get Some

 

[sageoftruth]

if she was 24 and you 28 would it be such an issue ?

just for the sake of discussion whats the age gap between your mum and dad ?

because apparently the average age difference between married couples is 3.5 years just so you know . . .

It seems that as two people get older, the difference between them in terms of maturity shrinks, namely because as people run out of ways to develop, it takes longer and longer for them to mature in a new way. Forgive the RPG reference, but it is kind of like leveling up.

 

[Vlassic]

A lot of people are doubting it will last, but you can never really know going into any relationship whether it will last or not. Even brief relationships can be meaningful. Just don't treat her badly or manipulate her into doing anything she's not ready for, because she is very young, even though it's legal and everything.

I don't see any problem with it as long as you're prepared to treat her nicely.

 

[smurf_you]

I don't agree with adult and teenage relationships, even if sixteen is "adult" in your country, it still seems too young. She may be either confused or trying to take your cash. Why else would someone so young go for someone much older than her? It seems... like a trap.

but what about girls that are just attracted to older guys *coughs and points at self*

 

[Susan Arendt]

Morally, you're off the hook, but if you're smart, you'll steer clear. Dating coworkers is, generally speaking, a horrendously bad idea.

 

[Kais86]

Morally speaking it's not really an issue if it's legal where you live. Personally I would say "no" she's too young and I'm of the opinion that young people are stupid.

 

[Devil's Due]

I don't agree with adult and teenage relationships, even if sixteen is "adult" in your country, it still seems too young. She may be either confused or trying to take your cash. Why else would someone so young go for someone much older than her? It seems... like a trap.

but what about girls that are just attracted to older guys *coughs and points at self*

I don't mind that, I do mind teenage girls going for adult guys. It's your choice, but I'd never wish to be near the two again because it's against my morals. In the end, do what you feel like doing, but always remember at least someone is against it.

 

[Twilight_guy]

Invite a friend to go with you. You have decide if she has romantic feelings (Statutory rape in the US dude) or not (One more friend). The friend will act as a buffer if she oes have romantic feelings.

 

[emeraldrafael]

I'm goign to guess that your in a country where the legal drinking age is below 21, becuase already I see problems with both of your ages.

Anyway, In the US, the rule is if she is more then four years youngr then you, dont even bother with it. Now, knowing that, its up to you. If you'd liketo have a nice, non sexual relationship with her, then by all means, go ahead. Just remember, YOU are the ADULT, and it will be viewed as such, no matter how many times SHE SAYS to do something. However, if the relationship comes to sex, just dont. really, just, dont.

But thats just me.

 

[Ascarus]

Right, since my own moral compass is somewhat skewed, I figured I'd gauge reaction here.
Last night, a new girl started at work, she's funny, charming, beautiful, all in all a pretty great girl. She asked me if I'd like to go for a drink with her, and therin lies the rub. I am 20, she's 16. What do?

Drinks at 16? That's a problem and a warning sign, right there (assuming a 21 year old drinking age limit).

That being said, 4 years can be a pretty big difference at your age -- across a host of categories. You should politely decline.

 

[dragonslayer32]

I'd give it a couple of years. The 4 year gap isn't bad, it is just she may not be mature enough and her parents may still be a bit protective. If she was 18 and I was 22, I'd go for it, but i wouldn't in your situation, sorry.

 

[lee1287]

she have any older brothers? if a 20 year old touched my 16 year old sister, i'd kill him.

 

[laststandman]

Just get coffee and avoid doing anything with her. Avoid Statutory Rape at all costs because that's just about the lamest crime ever but it's still a crime. Definitely not worth it. Also that's something for which you could get fired.

 

[TheRundownRabbit]

Think about how that would make you look to people she tells you about, Im not saying anythings wrong with it, im saying other people might find something wrong with it.

 

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