my gf is a pothead

[Danzaivar]

...hell, maybe even try it with her, imagine how much she'd like that. Not to mention cannabis is far from bad, research shows it has a lot of positive uses.

These forums make me laugh how if you promote game piracy you get a warning/ban, but if you start encouraging using illicit substances then most you get is a few people going 'yeah! fight the power!'.

 

[DRSH1989]

Want to buy some pot? I've got good prices. I offer discounts.

Seriouszly do'... I & I think you should have a seriousz chat wit her & tell her to pick one or the other: weed or you cause she can't hav'em both. If she likes u enuf she'll do it, if not... plenty moar fish in the ocean... it's gonna be hard, but it's best if u can convince her to forget her vices if u're going for a happy ending that is.

 

[Xangi]

...hell, maybe even try it with her, imagine how much she'd like that. Not to mention cannabis is far from bad, research shows it has a lot of positive uses.

These forums make me laugh how if you promote game piracy you get a warning/ban, but if you start encouraging using illicit substances then most you get is a few people going 'yeah! fight the power!'.

You, sir, made me laugh in my chair. Good job.

 

[AwesomeTheDog]

quit being a pussy, work around it, chances are you aint guna end up getting married to her anyway, let the relationship fail on some other grounds and work this shit out. just avoid looking like an asshole, she probably values things like your self esteem and happiness a few positions below price of smoke

 

[Nukey]

...hell, maybe even try it with her, imagine how much she'd like that. Not to mention cannabis is far from bad, research shows it has a lot of positive uses.

These forums make me laugh how if you promote game piracy you get a warning/ban, but if you start encouraging using illicit substances then most you get is a few people going 'yeah! fight the power!'.

It's something that amazes me too, but I assume it's because the site only exists becuase of games, so naturally anything threatening games is going to be treated harshly.

They don't really encourage the use of illicit substances, though, so what you're saying is a bit of an exaggeration. Most users here are anti-drug, anyway.

 

[broshay]

depends on the level of severity of your police checks, and if you are pro career over everything.

For example, if you are high up in law enforcement, issue!, if not super high intelligence, issue. If it's something like the HPC, then it;s not an issue as they are only interested in you and not your associates.

But other than all that, what's with just not hanging out with her friends. Let her have her circle and time, and you have your own. Take the opportunity for some alone time. And if worse things happen during those times, then problem solved.

 

[Psycho Cat Industries]

You're not reading me are you?Risk by association.Honestly,what is so hard to understand that if you are associated and she is caught then this whole thing ends under law.Religion has nothing to do with what I state with marriage.Atheists get married don't they?Your statement has nothing to do with the problem.Really,we're arguing for nothing.Legality matters call for risk.I do no such damning,I am not the police.Why do you assume this?The comparison is not to smoking but to your saying that it is justified by the risk.That would therefore justify any and all acts of violence.Your quickness to judge truly shows this hatred that you wish to project on me and really,why does this matter?

I don't think you're reading me: I referred exactly to Athiests getting married i.e. hypocrisy. A foot in tradition for tradition's sake, no higher thought involved other than the fact that it has been highlighted as something that must be done to be considered a human being.

Akin, I'm sure you would agree if you could comprehend, to your statements surrounding weed: thought of badly because enough people have labelled as such.

I didn't assume you were the police, I'm assuming your stance on the rules as set out on a plate to you that you seem so eager to break out the cutlery for. I didn't say it is justified for the risk, I said it isn't necessarily wrong because it is illegal.

Do not drag things out of context, you have to remember that I am in a defense in this discussion - I am merely challenging your points but you wish to reflect your feelings on the topic onto my feelings for you.

I have no hatred, only concern. I apologise if my dulcet words have given that impression. You're right, it doesn't matter. But that talk is of a defeatist, attempting to disarm me for caring too much when other discussion eludes you.

I only reacted to what I read.All I have said is that there is a risk that in my view is not worth taking.The reason behind my saying that it matter not is that this was a thread about the original poster.If it seems that my emotion has shown through,you're looking at a computer screen not a human but the human has thought which dictates his action.I don't think it should be illegal,hell if it had a school tax then that'd save quite a bit.People choose what they choose and I say whatever.That's their business.IF it truly is so difficult for you to understand me "It is a gamble,and a fixed one at that" would probably sum it up.Seriously though,why did we start debating this again?

 

[thylasos]

Don't smoke if you don't want to and if the relationship's not working, then don't continue with it.

Just like normal.

 

[HotFezz8]

so, i met this girl.

we got along great, blah blah blah, now we are dating. It wasn't like either of us were looking for a relationship, but we ended up in one. not only that, but over the last couple of months we have gotten far more serious than we ever intended.

problem is, she's a pothead. I don't mean she smokes a bit of pot from time to time. I mean she is a freaking stoner that gets high several times each day.

now, i don't really have a problem with it, but it isn't my thing either. I confess to getting high a couple of times when i was younger, but i grew out of it and never really got into the scene. But since she and her friends think that pot is a lifestyle, that kinda puts us in separate spheres.

now, ignoring the fact that i don't really get the whole 420 culture and all that stuff. I have a couple of reason that would make it very very detrimental for me to get caught anywhere close to an illegal drug. and if you agree or not, pot is an illegal drug where i live.

so, how would you guys play this?
do i just go with it and hang out with her and her pothead buddies doing what ever it is potheads do when they are not playing hacky sack and talking about evil corporations?

or do i just insist that she respect my reasons to not want to associate with something that could really really screw me up worse than the average person?

talk to her about it! she doesn't need to quit immediatly, but she needs to see its a problem and come off it slowly. try getting high every other day or whatever.

mainly: TALK TO HER! DON'T COME TO THE INTERNET!!

 

[TheTim]

Every once in a while is fine, but i can't stand stoners, i wouldn't date her if i were you.

 

[sdafdfhrye3245]

Dump her there are far more better girls in the world that don't do illegal drugs.

 

[Srkkl]

I could take her off your hands.

Seriously though, if she's actually forcing you to hang with her friends then dump her, if she's not doing that and you care about her I don't really see what the problem is. Unless you're working a government job or a job that tests regularly then I don't really see how it's going to "mess up" your life.

 

[Composer]

you cant help people if they dont want it. its not like youll cause her to have a revelation of where this lifestyle could lead her. id say dump her.

 

[hypovolemia]

Pot isn't dangerous.

It's about as dangerous as eating junk food. It's not addictive and consuming it once doesn't do much but it's not exactly improving your health. So like junk food the cumulative effect of years of consumption might not be that nice. Turns out smoking can cause lung cancer, for example.
Though unlike junk food it does have some medicinal uses, so it might actually be less dangerous. Also it's definitely healthier than both tobacco and alcohol.

I kinda forgot where I was going with this.

 

[captaincabbage]

Just dump her. I know it sounds cruel, but it's the best thing to to for your own sake. If you weren't too interested in a relationship to begin, I don't see the problem in breaking it off.

So yeah, just break it off before you get in too deep.

 

[jrb_brownie]

Hate to say this, but get rid.

Dope as a one-off is a part of the lifestyle. If it's become the lifestyle, then she will be stealing from you, sleeping with others and other things to get her fix before long.

Sad but true.

If you really care for her, try to make her see what it's doing to her. Ask her to go for a week without, and you give up something (like gaming) for the same time.

I think you are very much mistaken. As a smoker and a functioning member of society I stand as testament to proof against your assumptions. If she is a cheater she will be a cheater with or without pot, if she is a thief, same deal. Marijuana does not create social retards, criminals or imbeciles.

Topic at hand. This is what it comes down to. Are you happy with her? Does the fact that she smokes pot bother you enough to end the relationship? If it doesn't and you want to continue to see her but are still concerned for her just ask her man, find out where she is at. If you see signs that she is heading further down the rabbit hole (metaphorically speaking) then confront her, and go from there. But know this, Marijuana is neither a bad thing nor a good thing. It all comes down to the way in which you deal with it. I can smoke every day, maintain an 85 average in University and work two jobs while still maintaining healthy social relationships that do not revolve around pot, whereas many people cannot. It is no different than having a drink or two at night to relax. Marijuana can be abused, true, but the onus falls on the user to set limits, if your girlfriend is still functioning and you are happy with her, I say stick with it.

 

[Retardinator]

While it's true that pot isn't near as dangerous as advertised (and not a gateway drug, mind you), getting high several times a day, every freaking day, should characterize a person with a lack of grip on their life, and thus, a person with bad prospects for the future.

But mainly, yeah, if you get along, talk to her about it. If she outright obsessively refuses to leave it alone, dump her.
(Also, as someone mentioned earlier, it smells awful)

 

[zelda2fanboy]

Contact highs can probably get you disqualified from a job based off of the drug test (shit, even poppy seeds can). Drop her like a bad habit.

 

[DudeistBelieve]

Nothing good comes out of drugs, I would advise getting rid of her as you don't have much in common. Also, you seem to have already made up your mind from the way that you have written that.

a rebuttal.

"I?m not telling you anything new?I?m far more creative now, you know. I?ve been writing this Batman: The Widening Gyre miniseries, and I?m stoned all the time when I?m writing it. And, I swear, I?ll write it, and then, it?s not so much blackout, but forget, so much so that the next morning, I go to read what I wrote, and it?s, like, I?m that cobbler and elves came and wrote it in the night, because I?m, like, "This is better than anything I?ve ever written before." I mean, like, I?ve done comics, but this is way better."-Kevin Smith

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Red_State

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Batman:_Cacophony

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Batman:_The_Widening_Gyre

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