My Gf's Bet

[Nanaki316]

Uh I would say this is a test of loyalty tbh
No person in the world, man or woman could ever be truly comfortable with an open relationship I honestly believe that. She'll feel betrayed if you go off with someone else I imagine.
I wouldn't say it was worth it, you're lucky to have a girl - and a girl that clearly thinks you'd have no problem finding a lay elsewhere. Sounds like she values these qualities you have as something other girls would want. I'd stick with her.

 

[TheSeventhLoneWolf]

Somethun' like this happened to me once. I ended up single.

 

[Lyri]

exactly, i already went through my briarpatch of psycho bitches to get to my current gf, and i dont wanna go back in

Seems like a test to me, in all honesty.
She says you have no self esteem, well perhaps she's thinking that you want out of the relationship. So she's given you free run for anything you want, if you want it.
However, if you stay loyal she truely rewards you with a truck repair. Something you had prior claimed to be of great expense.

My advice is to do nothing, get the truck repaired and take your good lady out to dinner.
(Still, ask for a sandwhich though. Sandwhichs make a man feel good)

 

[LongAndShort]

My money, it's a test of your faithfulness, or at least it will turn into one. That's why the reward for failing is so great.

 

[shadowstriker86]

Ask for a sandwhich though. Sandwhichs make a man feel good)

true that, she's the only other person on this planet that knows how to make my ultimate sandwhich

 

[Lyri]

true that, she's the only other person on this planet that knows how to make my ultimate sandwhich

Then allow me to be blunt & literal.

Don't be a dick.

 

[josetaco]

all right this is total lunacy
but what kind of truck are we
talking about here? Are you
a eighteen wheeler driver?
If so than I would seduce
any dirty slut you had to
to get your repairs.
If your driving a ranger or
a tacoma...screw this chick
she is playing head games with u.
If it is the second scenrio get a
a job, or do it yourself
cowboy up

 

[Kaboose the Moose]

Man, I can't even understand your current relationship!. The gf that you already have wants you to meet other girls as a bet to prove you have self-esteem, if you fail - you get your truck repaired, if you succeed - somebody's going to get hurt (Russel Peter's style)?. And the only thing you're concerned about is making money off this bet?

The fuck?.

 

[Smokeydubbs]

I think I understand it now. It's all about perspective and context.

So she bet you that you CAN get women. If you do, you will have pain, and if you don't you get a fixed up truck.

Saying that you think your not charismatic threw me off. It makes it sound like, to me, that you don't even want to try talking to other women. But SHE thinks that you can, and you will naturally and without putting much of a conscience effort into it, right? (perspective)

Well her making this bet still doesn't make sense. Does she want to be cheated on? Does she want to test your loyalty through underhanded methods? I just think she doesn't trust you or she has money to burn.

EDIT: There has got to be something not being told here.(I'm sure there's a reason for that and I respect that). No one would come up with a bet like that just from an argument over your self-esteem, there is a missing piece here.

I don't know... all that was a lot of thought process...

 

[Ignignokt]

I think I understand it now. It's all about perspective and context.

So she bet you that you CAN get women. If you do, you will have pain, and if you don't you get a fixed up truck.

Saying that you think your not charismatic threw me off. It makes it sound like you don't even want to try talking to other women. But SHE thinks that you can, and you will naturally and without putting much of a conscience effort into it, right?

Well her making this bet still doesn't make sense. Does she want to be cheated on? Does she want to test your loyalty through underhanded methods? I just think she doesn't trust you or she has money to burn.

I don't know... all that was a lot of thought process...

And why would you make a bet with someone who has complete control over the results?

 

[Lord Krunk]

Sounds like a win-win situation to me.

I wouldn't go through with it though.

 

[Liquid Paradox]

Dang OP, your analogies are making me hungry...

OT: I am a little confused about this bet... but from what I gathered, you win by default. Basically, don't do shit. Then, you win the bet (or lose it?) and your truck is payed for.

Be mindful, however; the female mind is a fickle thing, and she is likely testing you. As in, she is rewarding you for failure, and I am sure she has a reason for that. Here are my theories:

1. She believes in your abilities to pick up girls, ie she has faith in your self-confidence. Further, she trusts you enough to think that you will still respect her as a woman while you are discovering yourself through other women. If this is the case, then you should definatly try to let her win, as she will likely lose respect for you otherwise. Even so, remember that no girl, whatever the circumstances, wants to have a boyfriend who fools around with other girls. In short, show her you have what it takes to be a man, and then prove that no woman matters to you except for her.

2. She is testing your obedience. While she says "I want you to find another girl" what she really means is "You better not though." I have seen this particular maneuver in action (so to speak) and the best way to handle it is to remain completely faithful. Prey that this is not her goal, as it would mean that she is a conniving, manipulative, overly sensitive *****. I doubt very much that this is her motivation, but you know her better then I do.

3. She's cheating on you, and using this "bet" as an excuse to leave you for another guy, yet justify it with "but we agreed to be open, and this was bound to happen". keep an eye open for "the signs" but don't assume anything, and especially don't confront her about it. Not trying to scare you, though; out of my three ideas, this seems the least likely.

4. none of the above. I am certainly no expert on female motivation, and my experience in dating them is hugely stunted by my homosexuality. In the end, you know her better then any one of us. Your best option is to go with your gut instinct, and to have faith in yourself (after all, that's what all this is really about, right?). If you can improve your own self-confidence and self-image, then whatever happens, you win.

 

[Soulkiller3]

pick up a girl and take her to your G/F house and be like "have picked up a girl you two fansy a 3some" and if there dont agree get the girl a taxi and have best sex ever with your g/f.

You get to prove you can pull as well as your not willing to sleep with someone else behind her back, its best way IMO.

 

[Winter Rat]

Take a dive, get your truck fixed. Eat not of the forbidden fruit. And grow a pair of balls while you're at it.

 

[Snork Maiden]

sounds like an unhealthy relationship, but good luck whichever way it turns out.

Yeah I was going to go with this, I'd actually be really hurt if my girlfriend did that. Then again that's me, emotions like frigid glass...

The best relationships are the ones that are nominally open yet which no-one feels the need to act upon. As far as I can make out the OP has achieved this state, and is in all likelihood going to get a truck fixed to boot, if he plays his cards right.

 

[DemonicVixen]

So me and my gf got into a really bad argument recently about the fact that i still have a low self esteem and outlook of myself (i firmly believe that i have the self esteem of a toaster and the charisma of a half eaten bagel). So out of nowhere she made this bet with me. She's making my half of the relationship "open", meaning i can go out and meet other chicks. Why? To apparently prove what she says is true as far as my looks/heart.

Considering i have a low self esteem that drives my boyfriend up the wall and causes him to "flick" me everytime i say something like "i look ugly" but i don't see him giving me an open relationship to prove other wise. If you were smart you wouldn't need that deal. Instead you should be able to have girls asking you out anyway and turn them down. I get tonnes of lads asking me out but you don't hear me saying yes to them all just so that i know im goodlooking (urgh) and "popular". I really don't think my boyfriend would appreciate me purposly going out with them just so as to prove his point that im "sexy".

This is how i know he wouldn't like it:

Its one of those; "I'll let you do it and rip your friggen heart out for it later" deals.

Watch your back.

And yes i agree on this also because if he dared it (which he doesn't need to) then i would claw his eyes out and stamp on his pride.

 

[InsanityRequiem]

Alright, there's something wrong here. I think you should call this radio-talk show guy by the name of Dr. Drew. It's late night, on 10:00 PM -12:00 AM here in Los Angeles. The show's called Loveline. I'm sure they can figure something out, plus if you're lucky, you'll get Adam Carolla as well. I could give you the number if you want.

And while it may seem like a good thing, all sorts of bad can and may happen.

 

[shadowguardian62]

Admiral Ackbar says: it's a trap!

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[_Cake_]

Your both crazy.