I can definitely understand that kind of situation, I've been in a somehow similar one. There was no physical abuse but constants arguments, being put down, etc, basically my parents made me feel worthless. I ended it trying to make it on my own and it was hard, it still is, and it sucks.
I understand what it's like to have to stay around people you're merely tolerating. However, as I understand it college usually houses you, right? So going to college means getting your education AND being away from them.
I'd do that. It will suck knowing you depended on them for that, but if you want, for your pride's sake you can start an account after you get a good job, save up in it until you reach the amount your schooling cost, and then give it to them.
I would still get a job because you might need to get away at any time, or your dad might change his mind or something, and then you'll need to be ready for plan B. But please let the taking a loan and trying to make it on your own be your plan B. You degree will still be yours. You will have earned it through your studying and your efforts. And if the fact your dad paid makes you feel like you owe him, which you don't want, then pay him back. At least there will be no interest and no obligation to pay back if you can't find a good job once you get your degree.
But really, you have the upper hand if you make them pay. I know, as long as they're paying for you you're under their power. I get how it feels. I get how it sucks. But if you can live that way for a little bit, not even your whole degree, the more you can do it, the better in the long run. If you take a student loan after two years, you'll have less debt for instance, and you'll have had more time to save money for part of it, too.
Do look into scholarships though. Looks carefully in your area and apply for every little thing you can. It might help too.
