Nerd Boyfriends
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thanks to my nerdy boyfriend i now have copies of alice in wonderland i a variety of languages ^.^
[if you knew me better, you'd understand why this is so cute]
[if you knew me better, you'd understand why this is so cute]
didnt know you could get boxes that small...Daveman said:this when I get one
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2GkTu7JLLNk
I'm single incidentally, ladies,
This may sound weird but me, my girlfriend, my friend and his girlfriend all play Runescape (we're from the same town), and we often do raids on Bandos and such as a foursome (often means like nearly every other week). The most romantic thing I've ever done? I spent a shitload of money on presents for her birthday, including a giant teddy and a pair of earrings. I was practically in poverty for weeks.
I'm afraid I don't have a girlfriend, and I haven't really had enough time to plan something really awesome. I did, however, decorate sugar cookies on more-or-less a date with a pretty, cool girl. I consider that nerdy.S4rdonyx said:
Also, I would agree that most people who are nerds would be more prone to romanticism; however, (and here's the caveat) the people of whom I speak also have to have accepted their nerdiness first. In order to achieve that thing known as romance, I believe that you pretty much have to be yourself but be yourself in such a way that goes the second-extra step for whomever you're walking.
Self affirmed, confident nerds (it's not a contradiction of terms, I promise) have both a wealth of knowledge and skills from which to draw in order to make their romanticism known.
For example, I consider myself a nerd because, yes, I do the cliche things like play videogames (everysooften), participate in an online community (hello Escapist!), and typically have not much of an idea when it comes to girls. However, I also believe I'm a nerd because of several other silly things like writing poetry (def jam, slam style), practicing martial arts, calling myself a ninja (and so many people agree, it's weird), writing papers about Walt Whitman and Quantum Mechanics (be jealous... not really), overall just being kind of odd but trying, and, finally, loving myself in spite of (nay because of) all of these awkward, awesome things that have amalgamated to make... me.
To quote the end of my "Nerd Poem":
"...being a nerd is about the affirmation that
intelligence, integrity, and individuality is
imperative to MY spiritual survival.
So, join me;
join me with your own personal nerdy proclivities and proclaim,
?I AM NERD,
and I proudly pronounce intelligence, integrity, and individuality
to be tools with which I?ll
carve a niche in this world.?
So throw yours arms to the sky,
hold on tight, and never, NEVER
let go the ideal of individuality embodied
by this proud. Nerdy. position.
The world will thank you for it.*"
*It adds to awesomeness if you yell this like you're trying to rally troops for the final assault. Also, think of "I AM NERD" as "THIS IS SPARTA" and you'll be in the right mindset.
I gifted my girlfriend Left4Dead 2 on steam so that we could play it together because she really liked the demo. Now her steam rating is always higher than mine...
EDIT: Oh crap I totally forgot! It was quite a while ago but yeah. She was going through some tough shit at home and was feeling down quite a lot and I always felt kind of helpless because it was never easy to see her (her dad's a dick). So anyway, because I couldn't physically be there for her all the time I wrote her a letter with a list of reasons why she was special to me. I spent a long time colouring the whole thing in with rainbows (she loves rainbows) and then gave it to her so she could stick it up on her wall by her bed and she could read it whenever she was feeling down. She's over it now and she's back to her smiley self but the letter is still there on her wall for whenever she feels stressed or something
EDIT: Oh crap I totally forgot! It was quite a while ago but yeah. She was going through some tough shit at home and was feeling down quite a lot and I always felt kind of helpless because it was never easy to see her (her dad's a dick). So anyway, because I couldn't physically be there for her all the time I wrote her a letter with a list of reasons why she was special to me. I spent a long time colouring the whole thing in with rainbows (she loves rainbows) and then gave it to her so she could stick it up on her wall by her bed and she could read it whenever she was feeling down. She's over it now and she's back to her smiley self but the letter is still there on her wall for whenever she feels stressed or something
I am a nerd (or geek, I really don't care what the difference is supposed to be), and this is absolutely true. Not all, but most. The main trait of geekdom is the ability to rattle on incessantly about whatever you love, oblivious to whether or not the other person wants to hear it. (I have this) The other trait is complete social ineptitude.Xpwn3ntial said:
I don't know, I don't really see the value of a nerd boyfriend. They're usually not worth the trouble. You have to drag them kicking and screaming in order to get them outside and out of their hobbies. They're also fairly neglectful, not by choice obviously, but they don't always realize it when they're blowing you off to play vidya gaems.
... I'm at a loss as to how to interpret that...ethaninja said:
[sup]damn my over-active imagination...[/sup]
That requires someone to declare "This is Nerdiness!" to you, so you can kick him into a huge hole full of rabid fanboysAquaAscension said:
I've done a lot over the past 12 years. Like getting a bunch of roses, rose petals and candles all and rigged so when she opened the door the current "our song" started playing. But that's been on movies since then. I've written poems, songs etc. The one I like best is I took nice thick black stock paper and cut into 40 4x5 cards. Then I took a white (well several) paint pen and wrote 40 different things I love about her and placed them through the house. Some of them were not really things I love but appreciate, or don't really like but is something that makes her who she is. I tried to place them in appropriate places. Like one on the mirror that said "I love that it takes you 40 minutes to get ready".
I cannot be bothered to quote him since his post is somewhere on the 5th page... I know im a girl but i wanted to say, the most romantic thing my "nerdy" boyfriend has ever done was get down on one knee at the Metro station and propose in front of a few people. Pity i made him do it twice because i honestly didn't think he meant it until he said he did *embarrased blush*.
OT: I think nerdy boyfriends can be affectionate, just don't cross them when they try to beat you. The other day i got my assignment back in class. I got an A, my fiance got a B even though he helped me with mine and he is so much smarter then me. I was amazed, but he was irritated that i beat him. He hates me being able to prove him wrong over things, and i love seeing his face when i do. But he loves me for it really, well, so he says lol.
again, sorry for being a girl posting on here but he decided not to say it lol so i felt i had to tell you exactly what i thought was the most romantic thing... ok so it wasn't during a romantic dinner but i don't care about that, its the fact he actually wants me as a wife.
OT: I think nerdy boyfriends can be affectionate, just don't cross them when they try to beat you. The other day i got my assignment back in class. I got an A, my fiance got a B even though he helped me with mine and he is so much smarter then me. I was amazed, but he was irritated that i beat him. He hates me being able to prove him wrong over things, and i love seeing his face when i do. But he loves me for it really, well, so he says lol.
again, sorry for being a girl posting on here but he decided not to say it lol so i felt i had to tell you exactly what i thought was the most romantic thing... ok so it wasn't during a romantic dinner but i don't care about that, its the fact he actually wants me as a wife.
My girlfriend calls me her geek :3 we also have a long distance relationship which sux but weve been together just over 7 months now ^_^ i haven't done stuff that romantic really... probably just us cuddling in our spot on a hill nearby her house.
Partial nerdy boyfriend here. Partial meaning someone who owns too many xbox games and reads all the Halo books and, of course, posts on the Escapist, but still finds time to go to the gym and out to bars. I have to say that the people who have said things about desperation in this thread are right. When you don't get much attention from girls, two things are likely to happen, and they are not mututally exclusive:
1. become mysoginist
2. get really desperate for female attention
Number 1 will occur because the guy will want something to blame for the lack of female attention, and because no girls will "understand" him he will generalize and grow a steady distrust of all females. This will change, though, in the actual presence of girls, because then the guy will become more desperate than ever, feeling his chances becoming slim. If a relationship begins, and if it's one of his first, which it may well be, it's very likely that the guy will become whipped right off the bat. This is a huge mistake for both parties involved. On one hand, the girl will pretend that she likes the guy who is whipped because "he's SooOoOoO sweet, omgggggg" but secretly she will hate it.
After about six months, the guy will invariably become non-whipped and try to revert to nerdy tendancies, and then the girl will feel betrayed because the relationship has now flipped power positions/trust positions. Thus the mysoginist cycle starts again.
tl;dr, in general relationships with desperate guys (of which nerds comprise a significant contingent) are inherently doomed to fail.
1. become mysoginist
2. get really desperate for female attention
Number 1 will occur because the guy will want something to blame for the lack of female attention, and because no girls will "understand" him he will generalize and grow a steady distrust of all females. This will change, though, in the actual presence of girls, because then the guy will become more desperate than ever, feeling his chances becoming slim. If a relationship begins, and if it's one of his first, which it may well be, it's very likely that the guy will become whipped right off the bat. This is a huge mistake for both parties involved. On one hand, the girl will pretend that she likes the guy who is whipped because "he's SooOoOoO sweet, omgggggg" but secretly she will hate it.
After about six months, the guy will invariably become non-whipped and try to revert to nerdy tendancies, and then the girl will feel betrayed because the relationship has now flipped power positions/trust positions. Thus the mysoginist cycle starts again.
tl;dr, in general relationships with desperate guys (of which nerds comprise a significant contingent) are inherently doomed to fail.
Which in turn brings up the greatest moral of the story in any tale about dating: Don't go trying to love someone else until you're pretty sure of one of two things:OpiateChicken said:
1) You're willing to be totally submissive and let the other person control you in a horrible cycle of codependency that only works because your low self-esteem allows it to, or
2) You are secure with yourself and know who you are in the world and are willing to be true to yourself while being true to someone else.
1) is easy. In some cases (a lot of marriages in the rural American South for example), it even works quite well. But happiness stems from 2).