No sex for a year.

[Jaythulhu]

*shrug* I've had no sex drive for years. Hasn't affected my life in any significant way at all.

 

[Anarchemitis]

If that occured to me, it would solve one of the largest thoughts, concerns and worries of mine that have ailed me since I was 15. You have no idea.

 

[TomLikesGuitar]

I don't want to count out anyone who hasn't had sex so this is quite a general topic. I was thinking about sex the other day, no real reason, just wishing I was having some at the moment. And I had a bit of a revelation. I understand that the human mind is somewhat geared towards sex. I've heard the male mind is cued up to think about sex every ten seconds or so. But what if you could turn that off? What if you decided to completely cut out sex from your life. How would your life improve and how would it get worse. Think about that. No sex drive at all. No thoughts, no urges, no need for sex. Nothing. How will it change your life.

I began thinking about this question from a bit of a logical standpoint. A lot more money in my pocket because of no sex. I thought about the amount of money I had spent in the last year simply going out to clubs hoping to get lucky that night. I thought about the money for dates, cabs and condoms. I thought about long distance calls to old flames, or new booty. Let me tell you, I spent a lot and really didn't get much sex in return. So without sex in my life I'd be a richer man. Though I once heard a great little quote "I've spent 90% on liquor and women, and the other 10% I waste". I don't plan on ever being rich because I ignore the fairer sex. And that isn't going to change.
Moving on, I thought about time. Time spent stressing over a girl I liked. The time spent making plans, hanging out, and the amount of time in the bedroom (Which, compared to the other two, is hardly worth mentioning). This one is a little odd to me though, cause without the time in the bedroom, it's a lot like making a new friend. So without the sex, there is no change to my time. It's neither better nor worse from the hypothetical standpoint.
Lastly I've thought about motivation. What kinds of things have I done that have been motivated partly or entirely by sex? Well, I've driven over 30 hours in one weekend to see a girl. I've learned how to surf, play guitar, and sing all in an effort to impress various individuals. I've fought and won fights, I've also been a gracious looser of a majority of them too. All because someone was offended that I would ever talk to their lady. I've moved to a new city twice in one year. I've seen a concert of a lifetime I would have never gone to had my interest not wanted me to go. I've watched the sunset three times in the last year next to someone important. Maybe those things aren't all about sex, but it had something to do with it. And I'd never give up any of those moments. So no sex, would really make my life miserable.

So I want to hear your thoughts. Make it short, or make it long. Just be honest

I lost my sex drive for a long time when I was smoking a LOT of weed and was depressed (it was probably a mix of both)...

It really sucks; you still crave the companionship of a female, but screw up ALL your relationships. Women need sex as much as we do, and if they aren't getting it, they GTFO.

But yeah, I wouldn't want to go for any amount of time with no sex drive.

 

[Biosophilogical]

Sounds convenient. Given the choice though, I'd go with a low-sex-drive bisexual/pansexual (given the choice). My reasoning is that, if you have a low (and therefore easily ignored) sex drive, then you can view everyone as people, not as potential sex-buddies. Then you can fall in love with anyone (liek an asexual who isn't armoantic) and yet not face anything awkward when they want to have sex (as you can just stop ignoring it). So it means your sex drive isn't either pulling you around looking for a lay, and it isn't leaving you unable to have a 'normal' romantic relationship. Win Win.

But yeah, I've never been bothered much by a sex drive (I'm still figuring stuff out I guess :|), so yeah, I'd take the 'turn off the sex drive' thing, I mean, it isn't too different from the stage I'm at now, and it would mean I won't have to worry about which way (if any) I will turn out so yeah ... simplicity without any real change.

 

[Axzarious]

On an individual scale, its a waste of time and energy. On a species scale, it could potentially be detrimental to the human race... then again, people would probably go through with it to keep the population up when neccecary.

If you had no sex drive, you probably wouldnt even care, and I dont think you would care about going 'back' to having one. One would probably also begin to judge others more on what they can do rather than appearance. (Believe it or not, how attractive one finds another has a big impact on how highly you regard them regardless on how competent or intelligent they actually are).

In essence alot of things would change, and you probably wouldnt care. Then again, this is coming from someone who forgets that humanity exists sometimes. There's so many things more interesting than people out there.

 

[TimeLord]

I haven't had sex in a year and a half.....

I haven't lost my sex drive....

Yeah.... I wish I could turn it off!

I'm 24. Never had any form of intimate relationship whatsoever.

Couldn't care less.

Keep it like that! I was like you before my first intimate relationship.
I actually wish it had never happened now so I wouldn't feel this way after being without it for so long.

 

[newuseforvintage]

Even in the best of relationships, I doubt you will ever get all the sex you want/need specifically in the way you want/need it. So you find yourself timesinking so much into trying to get it, that you realize there is far too little return on your investment.

I'm going to, in a sense, disagree with you here. Arguably in the best relationship you do. I count my self lucky every day to have my girlfriend in my life and a portion of that goes to having a girl whose sex drive/preferences matches mine ideally.
So there

OT: I think, without sex, the biggest difference in my life would be the number of my really close friends I wouldn't be friends with now. In fact 2 of my absolute closest friends stemmed from me 'picking them up' for sex. So there's that. Also, now I am in a relationship so not looking for it I definitely go out less. And I've fallen out of touch with male friends who I would go out sarging with but now don't have a real reason to see.

 

[Signa]

Full disclosure time.

I've never really had much of a sex drive. It just feels pointless to me. I didn't even start masturbating until the end of my 25th year, and I only continue to do it since it works as a sleep aid. I suppose there are some health benefits too, but I'm not actively experiencing those. Don't get me wrong, I experience hornyness just as anyone else, but I have no drive to do anything with those feelings. I actually feel more motivated to take a nap to sleep it off instead of finding a soft hole to fill somewhere.

I think many would look at my life and find it hollow. I really don't do more than play games, and the only companionship I seek is that with my guy friends, just as any other straight guy would do. That is all I need. As a result, I've managed to save a lot of money and been surviving well these last 7 months with no job. I do often consider what it would be like to find a girl that would motivate me to be more normal, but every time I watch for some one of the opposite gender, I'm actually put off by their behavior or attitude so thoroughly that I'm glad I'm the way I am. I think I've seen 2 girls in the last 10 years that I could say that I'd be willing to try a relationship with, but they have both been taken.

 

[mrmostlymittens]

I donate Apheresis every two weeks at the local blood bank. As part of the screening process they ask you if you've had sex with (blank) during the past year. Aside from the fact that I know myself that I haven't had sex in almost three years...I have to tell a random nurse this...every two weeks.

(heavy sigh)

 

[NeuroticDogDad]

Though I once heard a great little quote "I've spent 90% on liquor and women, and the other 10% I waste".

"I spent a lot of money on booze, birds and fast cars. The rest I just squandered." - George Best

Sorry, but this name isn't one you can leave off of quotes.

OT: Put a lot more time in my day if I wasn't spending a good amount on masturbating to satiate my sex drive.
More to the point, sex (with a good partner) is good fun, great exercise and a fantastic source of endorphins. Sometimes it takes more effort to organise than other forms of exercise but I feel a lot happier after sex than football (usually, not always). So, to be honest, I think we'd all be missing out.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

I think that if a guy had no sex drive he just wouldn't have any reason to have anything to do with girls.

With my friends, when they communicate with the opposite sex it's almost always sexual jokes and slight flirting and that sorta thing.
Take that away and both sexes would just be...dead to each other.

I think that might just be your friends there. Although you are right to an extent.

 

[Da Chi]

Though I once heard a great little quote "I've spent 90% on liquor and women, and the other 10% I waste".

"I spent a lot of money on booze, birds and fast cars. The rest I just squandered." - George Best

Sorry, but this name isn't one you can leave off of quotes.

OT: Put a lot more time in my day if I wasn't spending a good amount on masturbating to satiate my sex drive.
More to the point, sex (with a good partner) is good fun, great exercise and a fantastic source of endorphins. Sometimes it takes more effort to organise than other forms of exercise but I feel a lot happier after sex than football (usually, not always). So, to be honest, I think we'd all be missing out.

Thanks man. I've been trying to find that quote for years now. It really didn't help that I've been saying it wrong the whole time.

 

[AhumbleKnight]

I think that if a guy had no sex drive he just wouldn't have any reason to have anything to do with girls.

With my friends, when they communicate with the opposite sex it's almost always sexual jokes and slight flirting and that sorta thing.
Take that away and both sexes would just be...dead to each other.

That is kind of a shallow and degenerative way to look at things. I have many female friends that I have no sexual interest in. I know I am far from a unique case.

 

[The Wykydtron]

Meh whatevs i don't see the point of spending all that time and money trying to "score" with teh ladies... I mean that would take away valuable resources from my anime and games money.

 

[jamesworkshop]

Sounds like it would be quite useful every scrap of money I have spent on either dating or random sex has been entirely wasted, since I can get first dates but never get a second, this has only taught me that I am less impressive than I might at first appear and even then few are impressed to start of with, have not been on a date in 2 years.

 

[badgersprite]

I actually chose to abstain and not get involved in any relationships so I could focus on my studies in the last year of high school. It paid off. Everyone I get involved with tends to be very high maintainence, emotionally needy and pretty demanding - like people who'll freak out and burst into tears if you don't talk to them for one day. I really didn't need that when I wanted to focus on qualifying for law.

That's over now, though. Just saying.