No sex for a year.

[Da Chi]

Stop trying to impress the girls and do something because you want to do it. I can tell when a guy is doing something just to impress me and it puts me off to be honest.
You'll run into Mrs Right when you least expect it, that's what I always did.

I guess I should clarify. I didn't learn to play guitar, to sing, or to surf merely to impress someone. They have been things I've wanted to do my WHOLE life. But, being a busy person with school, work and friends I never really had time for them. When a girl I was dating asked me one thing I've always wanted to do but never have, I said, play guitar. She asked me why I never had. Now, any friend could have asked me the same thing and it might have turned out the same, but because SHE asked me about it, it made me really consider it. So I got a guitar and began learning. It's not about impressing her, per-se, but more about her influence on me because I was attracted to her. If I never had a sex drive, or attraction, would it be different? I don't know, and that's why I'm asking for others ideas on the subject.

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

I've even told my married friends back home to be on the lookout for cute single girls in their mid- to late 20s...the running joke goes that when my plane lands at Logan Airport there will be a dozen women waiting at the gate saying "Are you Fox? Because my friend (Ellen/Louise/Laurie/about five other married women I know) said I should meet you."

Hehehe, you should have a t-shirt printed for that day saying: "Yes, in fact I AM Fox".

On a sidenote: your last name isn't Mulder, right? : /

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

I know, and if you'd read my previous post in this thread you'd know I agree on that. I just thought your example was a bit... typical. That's all.

That was intentional, mate.

I thought I'd pick something that would most likely be easy to relate to in order to get my point across.

 

[sycoesis]

i think if it was turned of i would live a more peaceful if someone more boring life so as long as i could turn it back on at some point then ya id turn it off for a good while

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

I guess I should clarify. I didn't learn to play guitar, to sing, or to surf merely to impress someone. They have been things I've wanted to do my WHOLE life. But, being a busy person with school, work and friends I never really had time for them. When a girl I was dating asked me one thing I've always wanted to do but never have, I said, play guitar. She asked me why I never had. Now, any friend could have asked me the same thing and it might have turned out the same, but because SHE asked me about it, it made me really consider it. So I got a guitar and began learning. It's not about impressing her, per-se, but more about her influence on me because I was attracted to her. If I never had a sex drive, or attraction, would it be different? I don't know, and that's why I'm asking for others ideas on the subject.

You sure you're not just saying that to rationalize your suden impulse to start playing the guitar? That you in fact DID do it to impress her, but don't wish to seem like you're the kind of person who'd do such a thing just to impress a woman?

I mean, attractive as the gal may have been, you're not a person that don't do anything on his own volition, right? If you have started hobbies or activities on your own before, without any outside input from others then why suddenly start because a girl tells you to?

 

[EeveeElectro]

Stop trying to impress the girls and do something because you want to do it. I can tell when a guy is doing something just to impress me and it puts me off to be honest.
You'll run into Mrs Right when you least expect it, that's what I always did.

I guess I should clarify. I didn't learn to play guitar, to sing, or to surf merely to impress someone. They have been things I've wanted to do my WHOLE life. But, being a busy person with school, work and friends I never really had time for them. When a girl I was dating asked me one thing I've always wanted to do but never have, I said, play guitar. She asked me why I never had. Now, any friend could have asked me the same thing and it might have turned out the same, but because SHE asked me about it, it made me really consider it. So I got a guitar and began learning. It's not about impressing her, per-se, but more about her influence on me because I was attracted to her. If I never had a sex drive, or attraction, would it be different? I don't know, and that's why I'm asking for others ideas on the subject.

Ohhh, I see. >_> Well the want for sex makes us do all sorts of things (like people in relationships sleeping around because they don't get enough sex), so having no sex drive would probably mean you wouldn't bother spending all your money in the hopes of getting sex.
I still stand by what I say though, you'll find someone eventually and you won't have to spend money on trying to meet her.

 

[Droppa Deuce]

I'd have more time to write my novels, and more money in my pocket.

But it wouldn't be fun

 

[TheHecatomb]

That was intentional, mate.

I thought I'd pick something that would most likely be easy to relate to in order to get my point across.

Aye, I understand, I just don't think it's the best example because quite frankly when I think about things that add absolutely nothing of value to my life, playing videogames is one of the first things that come to mind. But you're right, this is supposedly a gaming community, most people probably feel differently about it. Anyway, I get your point, you probably get mine, so let's drink beer and talk about the weather.

 

[SimuLord]

Hehehe, you should have a t-shirt printed for that day saying: "Yes, in fact I AM Fox".

On a sidenote: your last name isn't Mulder, right? : /

You do know that got old in, oh, about 1997, right? And even though I picked up the nickname during the height of the X-Files' popularity (November of '96, to be exact), it had absolutely nothing to do with that character---the nickname was due to my resemblance in habit and social attitude to genus Vulpes. Foxes tend to be mainly solitary creatures, emerging from their dens only to hunt for food or find a mate. Someone cracked that "hey, that's just like you" when we were all watching a nature show (don't ask) and initially derisively the group started calling me Fox. But then it stuck to the point where now I'd say about 75-80% of people who know me don't realize it isn't my legal name.

 

[affinsaff]

Newcomer, old time visiter, this thread gave me the final push to get an account...

Anyway, I'm 19, and never done anything with girl. Lately I have decided I want to life the rest of my life not being with anyway, for sex or for an emotional experiance. This feeling of resolve is, to me, a massive source of pride and self confidance. I simply feel like I've just followed what I believe to be best for me, and that is really satisfying.
Not having the sex drive woudl mean I wouldn't feel like the way I do, but then again, it would never have been an issue that way. I don't see how not having one would effect me all that much in a bad way, but I can see why to others, it would be essentially devistating.

Also, there are asexual people, and they live a perfectly fullfilling life.

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

Anyway, I get your point, you probably get mine, so let's drink beer and talk about the weather.

... Speaking of things that add pretty much nothing of value to our lives. XD

"I lost THIS many braincells today, but the taste of the process was kind of nice."

 

[Da Chi]

I guess I should clarify. I didn't learn to play guitar, to sing, or to surf merely to impress someone. They have been things I've wanted to do my WHOLE life. But, being a busy person with school, work and friends I never really had time for them. When a girl I was dating asked me one thing I've always wanted to do but never have, I said, play guitar. She asked me why I never had. Now, any friend could have asked me the same thing and it might have turned out the same, but because SHE asked me about it, it made me really consider it. So I got a guitar and began learning. It's not about impressing her, per-se, but more about her influence on me because I was attracted to her. If I never had a sex drive, or attraction, would it be different? I don't know, and that's why I'm asking for others ideas on the subject.

You sure you're not just saying that to rationalize your suden impulse to start playing the guitar? That you in fact DID do it to impress her, but don't wish to seem like you're the kind of person who'd do such a thing just to impress a woman?

I mean, attractive as the gal may have been, you're not a person that don't do anything on his own volition, right? If you have started hobbies or activities on your own before, without any outside input from others then why suddenly start because a girl tells you to?

I've started many hobbies before because of my own interest. I've written a novel that no-one has read. I've spent countless hours drawing, painting, and creating various forms of art. I've stripped and re-built RC cars. But these hobbies are nothing compared to music. It isn't a matter of "Why I decided to start playing guitar then", it's more about why hadn't I before that. And that's far too long of a story to post here.

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

You do know that got old in, oh, about 1997, right?

Classics never get old.

And even though I picked up the nickname during the height of the X-Files' popularity (November of '96, to be exact), it had absolutely nothing to do with that character---the nickname was due to my resemblance in habit and social attitude to genus Vulpes. Foxes tend to be mainly solitary creatures, emerging from their dens only to hunt for food or find a mate. Someone cracked that "hey, that's just like you" when we were all watching a nature show (don't ask) and initially derisively the group started calling me Fox. But then it stuck to the point where now I'd say about 75-80% of people who know me don't realize it isn't my legal name.

Hehe, a friend of mine kind of had a similar episode. Basically it was when we'd first met and he introduced himself with his nickname since that's what everyone knows him by. Months passed and then me and my gang of friends suddenly asked ourselves: "Wait, what's his real name?"

And everyone sort of went: "I don't know. I thought YOU knew!"

He had tremendous fun at our expense when he found out that some of us didn't knew his actual name (being a crafty son of a ***** myself though; I sneaked a peek at a few envelopes from his mail that he'd left on the kitchen table when I was over to his place, before he started to grill us )

 

[Da Chi]

Newcomer, old time visiter, this thread gave me the final push to get an account...

Anyway, I'm 19, and never done anything with girl. Lately I have decided I want to life the rest of my life not being with anyway, for sex or for an emotional experiance. This feeling of resolve is, to me, a massive source of pride and self confidance. I simply feel like I've just followed what I believe to be best for me, and that is really satisfying.
Not having the sex drive woudl mean I wouldn't feel like the way I do, but then again, it would never have been an issue that way. I don't see how not having one would effect me all that much in a bad way, but I can see why to others, it would be essentially devistating.

Also, there are asexual people, and they live a perfectly fullfilling life.

I'm happy you decided to join Affinsaff. I like that overcoming your sex drive is a goal and a very deep rooted on at that. I'd hate for someone like you to lose your sex drive. It's something that empowers you, and we can all use things like that in our lives.

By the way, Welcome to the Escapist

 

[SovietSecrets]

Seems pointless and I wouldn't be able to do it. I enjoy sex, I have been with a girl for the purpose of just having casual sex. Its a good way to make both involved happy and a great way to show your loved one how much you care about them. No sex for a year? No thanks.

 

[SimuLord]

You do know that got old in, oh, about 1997, right?

Classics never get old.

And even though I picked up the nickname during the height of the X-Files' popularity (November of '96, to be exact), it had absolutely nothing to do with that character---the nickname was due to my resemblance in habit and social attitude to genus Vulpes. Foxes tend to be mainly solitary creatures, emerging from their dens only to hunt for food or find a mate. Someone cracked that "hey, that's just like you" when we were all watching a nature show (don't ask) and initially derisively the group started calling me Fox. But then it stuck to the point where now I'd say about 75-80% of people who know me don't realize it isn't my legal name.

Hehe, a friend of mine kind of had a similar episode. Basically it was when we'd first met and he introduced himself with his nickname since that's what everyone knows him by. Months passed and then me and my gang of friends suddenly asked ourselves: "Wait, what's his real name?"

And everyone sort of went: "I don't know. I thought YOU knew!"

He had tremendous fun at our expense when he found out that some of us didn't knew his actual name (being a crafty son of a ***** myself though; I sneaked a peek at a few envelopes from his mail that he'd left on the kitchen table when I was over to his place, before he started to grill us )

I put mine right where anyone who cares to can find it---just click on my username and all will be revealed. But only my mother and the IRS are allowed to call me by my given name.

 

[Cobbs]

Challenge Accepted.

 

[Ian Caronia]

First off, that whole thing about the male mind being cued up to think about sex more often is bullshit. Seriously speaking, not every guy is like that.
Secondly, nipples I can't really see how turning off the desire to have sex is a good thing. I'd just be perpetually frustrated. Now if we're talkin' thighs the desire to just screw ass period, like as in casual sex, then I can definitely breasts see that. That urge has been the cause of a LOT of mistakes heaving and I think I speak for the majority when I say ankles swinging in the air it's a pain in the ass.
In the end, it all comes down to pearl necklace.
O_O
I-I mean self-control! Without the thought of casual sex, self-control would be easier to achieve.
However, the sex drive is too important and too fantastic to dismiss. I have a friend who doesn't think about sex too often, but she sure as hell enjoys it when it comes around with her lover. I can't even imagine life without a sex drive, and I don't want to. Life without the occasional thought of loveless sex, though, would be nice.
...NIPPLES

 

[TilMorrow]

Did you take into consideration that as a child you don't actually think about sex at all?

 

[Jedoro]

I don't spend a fuckton of money on women, and when I do I can at least keep a friendship out of that. If it makes her happy, then hey, mission accomplished. I'd get bored if I never wanted sex, though, because variety is nice.