Odd Bisexual to Gay Escapist Demographic

[Jodah]

For some reason bisexuality tends to be more accepted in our society then homosexuality. Thats likely part of the reason.

 

[zefichan]

There are more bi people saying they are bi because there are more bi people than gay people. It's...pretty much common sense. Why do people suddenly think it's the other way round? Where did you get that from?

By the way, if you think "I'm bi, and..." is odd for mentioning sexuality, notice that if you say things like "...my girlfriend" or "this character is sexy", so did you. People mention sexuality all the time, but you only really notice when it's non-straight sexuality being mentioned, because you're conditioned to think that as "odd" and that's why you notice in the first place. You may want to think a bit about this.

agreed I dont really see why gay's and bi's need to let everyone know all the time I mean I don't go around telling people I am straight.

You just did. You also are most likely saying this a lot in various ways. You just don't realize you are. Most straight people don't.

That's why these discussions always weird me out. They're so hypocritical. It's like people complaining about same-sex PDA and completely ignoring the constant, more vivid straight PDA in the same area.

who will make their sexuality a talking point and introduce themselves as such.

Actually, this makes sense. See, a lot of people are homophobic. And this can get you into pretty severe trouble if you a)don't notice it quickly, and b)they notice it later.
Why? They might get very, very violent for being "betrayed". This actually happened to a friend of mine, and got him hospitalized when the new friends found out he was gay from gossip.

In a perfect world, we wouldn't have homophobia, and people would take "I'm gay" or a guy in guildchat saying "my boyfriend" without flipping out. It wouldn't be an issue then.
We just aren't in that world.

 

[Riff Moonraker]

Can't speak for everyone, but I feel somewhere along the lines Bisexualism devolved into a middle-school level of fad. It carries the ring of someone who is either a wagon-rider or just insecure about their sexuality.

You are probably going to catch flak for saying that, but in all honesty, I agree with you.

 

[OmniscientOstrich]

There are more bi people saying they are bi because there are more bi people than gay people. It's...pretty much common sense. Why do people suddenly think it's the other way round? Where did you get that from?

By the way, if you think "I'm bi, and..." is odd for mentioning sexuality, notice that if you say things like "...my girlfriend" or "this character is sexy", so did you. People mention sexuality all the time, but you only really notice when it's non-straight sexuality being mentioned, because you're conditioned to think that as "odd" and that's why you notice in the first place. You may want to think a bit about this.

agreed I dont really see why gay's and bi's need to let everyone know all the time I mean I don't go around telling people I am straight.

You just did. You also are most likely saying this a lot in various ways. You just don't realize you are. Most straight people don't.

That's why these discussions always weird me out. They're so hypocritical. It's like people complaining about same-sex PDA and completely ignoring the constant, more vivid straight PDA in the same area.

who will make their sexuality a talking point and introduce themselves as such.

Actually, this makes sense. See, a lot of people are homophobic. And this can get you into pretty severe trouble if you a)don't notice it quickly, and b)they notice it later.
Why? They might get very, very violent for being "betrayed". This actually happened to a friend of mine, and got him hospitalized when the new friends found out he was gay from gossip.

In a perfect world, we wouldn't have homophobia, and people would take "I'm gay" or a guy in guildchat saying "my boyfriend" without flipping out. It wouldn't be an issue then.
We just aren't in that world.

I want to hug you right now This is such a brilliant rebuttle to the 'why do they flaunt their sexuality' bullshit that crops up so often.

 

[Saelune]

Well, I theorize we are all bisexual physically, and orientation is just a scale of preference. Ie, it feels good no matter who, though some people like it better when its from one or the other.
But then again, people also like to act popular. And since I think most MLP fans on here are posers, its not farfetched to think saying one is bi is the same...likely by the same people.

 

[Denamic]

Perhaps they've just noticed the generally gay-friendly atmosphere around here and feel comfortable enough to come clean.
Maybe it's some sort of outlet, a relief to let people know without being burned at the stake.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

In all seriousness, I've noticed people like to point out irrelevant facts about themselves on here a lot.

I like Rhubarb crumble, it is the best!

OT: I've never seen someone bring up their sexuality in a discussion about food but the Escapist has it's fair share of members who broadcast their lifestyle to everyone in all their posts. Several names come to mind but I'm not about to share them.

 

[zombiesinc]

So, anyone have an explanation for this?

tl;dr: You see more bisexuals on the escapist than gays. Why?

Funnily enough, there are even users within this very thread pointing out their sexuality, even though the topic isn't asking what their sexuality is. What's even more interesting is how many of those people either agree with you and/or claim to not know the answer.

There are countless reasons behind this, but I have no doubt that a majority of it stems from a desire for attention or approval. Having said that, there are undoubtedly others who express their sexuality only because of the anonymity that is 'teh internetz'. Lastly, there are those who wish to share because they're either proud, comfortable or confident in and of their sexuality. Let's just hope the majority is in the latter.

 

[TheDrunkNinja]

It's the "popular" thing right now. No, seriously, that's it.

Not saying all bisexuals are faking, but most in the teenage/highschool crowd are.

Can't tell you how many friends I had and still have who claim to be bisexual, but practically treat their "alleged" attraction to the same sex as a joke, while their attraction to the opposite sex is far more serious.

It's total bullshit.

 

[Snowalker]

My two cents? Its going to sound kinda homophobic, but I really don't intend to. Desperate times call for desperate measures. Most of us are gamers, and as such we don't exactly do well in the dating field, but by becoming bisexual, we supposedly double our chances at a relationship. At least, I think thats why theres an influx in bisexuals in gaming communities, I just know I'm going to get chewed out for this, but yeah.

So wait, you just explicitly stated a) that bisexuality doubles chances and b) sexuality is a choice. Approximately 3.5 percent of Americans identify as being part of the LGB community. So, that's not quite the 'doubling ones chances'. If you go to a club with 100 people, if you're bisexual you don't have the option of taking back every man and woman in that club, because such a minuscule percentage of them will be interested in you.

Secondly, as for implying people can just switch their sexuality on and off so that they can get more dates, I do not even know where to begin with that one.

OT: I'm not sure why it is, but from the reading the posts in this thread, it's pretty obvious some of the ones that agree with you and are even implying for disdain for people being so outspoken about their sexuality, are in fact doing the exact thing you talk about in.

Also, there are a scary amount of posters pulling the 'Bisexuals are just gays in denial!' card. Seriously, people?

Sure, I implied sexuality is a choice, I figured I'd get called out on it. I guess I feel that in some regards it is, but for the most part no. For instance, I know a lot of guys I could have a far better emotional relationship with even though I have no physical pull towards them. So, its my choice to not go after them, because a relationship is has to be somewhat physical in my eyes. I think some people decide that the physical doesn't matter at all and choose to go bisexual, some, not all. And while you're right that it doesn't exactly double your chances, hell it may even lower them if your accurate and I have no reason to dis-believe you, I just think, as stated amongst gaming crowds, bisexual present more options sometimes, and this is more from personal experience rather than actual figures or numbers.

 

[Irony's Acolyte]

But then again, people also like to act popular. And since I think most MLP fans on here are posers, its not farfetched to think saying one is bi is the same...likely by the same people.

Oh boy... you'd best not be opening up that can of worms...

Of course you're comment just reinforced what I said earlier, that it seems like everyone here is too cynical to comprehend that people genuinely like things.

 

[killcannon71]

Perhaps they've just noticed the generally gay-friendly atmosphere around here and feel comfortable enough to come clean.
Maybe it's some sort of outlet, a relief to let people know without being burned at the stake.[/quote

Perhaps they've just noticed the generally gay-friendly atmosphere around here and feel comfortable enough to come clean.
Maybe it's some sort of outlet, a relief to let people know without being burned at the stake.

It's not gay or bi friendly. Everyone is just afraid of the ban hammer of disagreeing with anyone who identifies themselves as a minority. Remove any chance of getting banned and see how many people are Gay/Bi friendly on a forum. People in general fear to say things in public that are no longer socially acceptable. How many times have you seen people be nice to someones face, then turn around and say something behind their backs? Of course people can't say how they really feel, because someone else is always going to be butthurt about it.

 

[Saelune]

But then again, people also like to act popular. And since I think most MLP fans on here are posers, its not farfetched to think saying one is bi is the same...likely by the same people.

Oh boy... you'd best not be opening up that can of worms...

Of course you're comment just reinforced what I said earlier, that it seems like everyone here is too cynical to comprehend that people genuinely like things.

Oh I believe there are some 18-30 year old men who genuinly like MLP. But the explosion of people who act like it is some amazing thing I cannot believe. But that is not the point of this thread, just an example. What is popular is not always good, or actually liked by many.

 

[holy_secret]

Just a little something I've noticed about the escapist is that you see a lot of people chiming in with the "I'm bi so this, this, and this ^.^"

The fact that I've always found this slightly annoying aside (Seriously, what the fuck does your sexual preference have to do with what kind of food you like?) Its always struck me as strange that we see more bisexuals proclaiming themselves than just straight up gay people doing it. It was my understanding that there are significantly more people identifying themselves as gay than as bisexual.

So, anyone have an explanation for this?

tl;dr: You see more bisexuals on the escapist than gays. Why?

I do it only to make things clear. When I mention a dude, people say "you go girl!". If I then mention a girl, people answer "ah dude sweet!"
I rather be straight forward with who I am and what I am. And as such, I feel the need to say that I am a bisexual man, when any confusion arises.

But dot get me wrong. The same applies when people say "oh you don't look Swedish". I then clarify by stating that my mother is Italian.
That's about it confusion and misunderstandings sucks.

That's my explanation

 

[Baradiel]

There are more bi people saying they are bi because there are more bi people than gay people. It's...pretty much common sense. Why do people suddenly think it's the other way round? Where did you get that from?

By the way, if you think "I'm bi, and..." is odd for mentioning sexuality, notice that if you say things like "...my girlfriend" or "this character is sexy", so did you. People mention sexuality all the time, but you only really notice when it's non-straight sexuality being mentioned, because you're conditioned to think that as "odd" and that's why you notice in the first place. You may want to think a bit about this.

agreed I dont really see why gay's and bi's need to let everyone know all the time I mean I don't go around telling people I am straight.

You just did. You also are most likely saying this a lot in various ways. You just don't realize you are. Most straight people don't.

That's why these discussions always weird me out. They're so hypocritical. It's like people complaining about same-sex PDA and completely ignoring the constant, more vivid straight PDA in the same area.

who will make their sexuality a talking point and introduce themselves as such.

Actually, this makes sense. See, a lot of people are homophobic. And this can get you into pretty severe trouble if you a)don't notice it quickly, and b)they notice it later.
Why? They might get very, very violent for being "betrayed". This actually happened to a friend of mine, and got him hospitalized when the new friends found out he was gay from gossip.

In a perfect world, we wouldn't have homophobia, and people would take "I'm gay" or a guy in guildchat saying "my boyfriend" without flipping out. It wouldn't be an issue then.
We just aren't in that world.

You've pretty much hit the nail on the head. I find it simultaneously irritating and humourous when people, mainly on this site, go "Oh, I've no problem with _____sexuals, I just wish they didn't rub their ____sexuality in my face." yet they openly flaunt their heterosexuality without even realising it. Then you point it out, and they say say something like "Its fine cause its normal!" and the hypocrisy just doesn't faze them.

 

[Snowalker]

Sure, I implied sexuality is a choice, I figured I'd get called out on it. I guess I feel that in some regards it is, but for the most part no. For instance, I know a lot of guys I could have a far better emotional relationship with even though I have no physical pull towards them. So, its my choice to not go after them, because a relationship is has to be somewhat physical in my eyes. I think some people decide that the physical doesn't matter at all and choose to go bisexual, some, not all. And while you're right that it doesn't exactly double your chances, hell it may even lower them if your accurate and I have no reason to dis-believe you, I just think, as stated amongst gaming crowds, bisexual present more options sometimes, and this is more from personal experience rather than actual figures or numbers.

You seem to have missed the point. What you said was that gamers choose to 'become' bisexual. Nobody becomes bisexual. You have the attraction to whichever, or both, sexes and that's that. Whether you act on them or not is completely irrelevant to your sexuality.

I disagree, your sentiment is nice and all, but I feel like if we don't make a choice, subconscious or not, about what feelings we should act on, we would all be bisexual (of varying degrees mind you), and I think Biology backs me on that aswell.