One of my best friend left me! please help!

[funksobeefy]

Dropping him as a friend is foolish thing to do. Give him time, its just as difficult for you to come out as gay as for friends to accept you as gay.

just let it go for now, if he is a true friend then he will accept you. If in time he doesnt then move on. No reason to go on a fucking gaming website and complain about it.

give him time yo, your not the only being in the universe

 

[Halceon]

Suck it up, move on, friends are replacable.

 

[TheRaider]

did you make a move on him? cause that probably changes things a lot.

 

[TheLaofKazi]

Dropping him as a friend is foolish thing to do. Give him time, its just as difficult for you to come out as gay as for friends to accept you as gay.

just let it go for now, if he is a true friend then he will accept you. If in time he doesnt then move on. No reason to go on a fucking gaming website and complain about it.

give him time yo, your not the only being in the universe

Good point. Although there's a chance of him simply being intolerant of gay people, but it might just be out of shock, or maybe out of fear. He might not have anything against gay people or you for being gay, but it might just feel weird to him. Maybe he was intolerant of gay people before, but now that his best friend came out of the closet, his stereotypes of bigotry towards gay might change. That kind of stuff doesn't happen overnight, and there's tons of possibilities. Just give it time, don't act like it's some sort of crisis and panic and desperately try to talk to him, because that might make the problem worse. Ease your way back into your friendship, and then if explicitly just doesn't want to be friends with you for being gay, then maybe he's not worth having as a friend.

 

[InnerRebellion]

I have to agree with Hubilub here. It may be because he thought you didn't trust him.

 

[DC_Josh]

When I found out my friend of 8 years was gay, my first reaction was to say

"So your a gay man now?" in an Irish accent. (get the quote, win a prize)

But, I didn't really care, he's now in a really good relationship and hasn't changed a bit. Your "friend" sounds like a giant penis to me, lets hope he stays away for good.

 

[FallenJellyDoughnut]

Beat the living shit out of him. If he won't talk to you because hes homophobic, show him what it is to be truly afraid of you.

Ignorant bastard.

 

[dragonslayer32]

I am ashamed to admit this, but I stopped talking to one of my friends because he is gay. Actually, it wasn't because he was gay, it was because we had been friends since we were 4 and he only came out a couple of months ago (at the age of 18). I understand it was hard for him but he could have told me. As some people have mentioned before, it was a trust thing, he should have trusted me. Also, I didn't trust him because I didn't really know who he was. He still to this day has not told me, he came out by telling someone he barely knew and we did PE together which wouldn't have been weired if he had came out then, but looking back now it is weird to think about what he was thinking.

So, I know people like me and your friend are in the wrong, but try to look at it from my point of view. However, if your friend is a homophobic prick, beat the shit out of him.

 

[StarStruckStrumpets]

Seriously, it seems that you'll be better off without him. If your "friend" won't accept the fact that you're gay, then he's not a friend at all.

 

[Chogg Van Helsing]

If he won't be your friend that easily, he isn't worth it.. Although this is coming from the guy that seems to go on anual 'purges' of those I don't think are rreally my friends...

 

[Colour Scientist]

To be honest, he doesnt' sound like he's worth your time or effort, or anyone elses' for that matter. Your sexuality shouldn't make any difference in your friendship.

Even if it was that he felt like you didn't trust him, he should realise that this was probably a big deal for you and that you were probably afraid he would react...well... exactly how he did.

 

[V TheSystem V]

Why is everyone calling him a homophobe?

Chances are nobody here would know how to react, if their best friend suddenly turned gay over night(I know that's not what happens, but as one doesn't know anything until one day, that's what really transpires) let alone if we weren't told.

My ex girlfriend came out as bisexual 2 weeks after we split up, but I have been reassured since that it wasn't because of me. I was a bit irritated that she came out when she did, but she told me it was just a case of bad timing.

She came out as a lesbian about a week after splitting up with a guy who was considered one of my best friends until he screwed loads of us around. We think he was responsible, because even she admitted he treated her like dirt. She couldn't trust guys after him.

 

[Penguinness]

Reminds me of this scene


As everyone else as said, doesn't sound like a good mate. But if it's just been said today then you never know he might be speaking to you tomorrow or something. I wouldn't jump the gun. You do state that he's not talking to you because he found out you were gay and NOT because you told him. Would the best mate be so happy hearing it from somehow else?

 

[Colour Scientist]

Why is everyone calling him a homophobe?

Chances are nobody here would know how to react, if their best friend suddenly turned gay over night(I know that's not what happens, but as one doesn't know anything until one day, that's what really transpires) let alone if we weren't told.

My ex girlfriend came out as bisexual 2 weeks after we split up, but I have been reassured since that it wasn't because of me. I was a bit irritated that she came out when she did, but she told me it was just a case of bad timing.

She came out as a lesbian about a week after splitting up with a guy who was considered one of my best friends until he screwed loads of us around. We think he was responsible, because even she admitted he treated her like dirt. She couldn't trust guys after him.

I'm sorry, but are you suggesting that a guy turned her into a lesbian?
You're joking, aren't you?

 

[ZacktheWolf]

Agreeing with everyone else that's said if that's his reaction, he's not a good friend
BUT
give him time? You know him far better than any of us do. If it's just a knee-jerk reaction because it goes against some beliefs he's been told to go by all his life (and may have never actually encountered), or an "omgwtf, I don't know you anymore" moment because you just revealed something that IS big and game-changing, then give him time to get over it and come around. If he is as good a friend as you believed him to be, he will come around and realize you're the same person that he's been hanging out with for who-knows-how long. He might need a quick "hey, I'm still the same person" reminder, but don't beat him over the head with "if you were my friend, you'd accept me" speeches or anything. (As much as you may want to force logic into his brain, it'll either sink in when he lets it, or not at all)

On the other hand, if it seems he's only going to be a dick about it, then no, he isn't a good friend. =/

 

[Mechsoap]

hes not worth your time if he judges you for your sexuality, rather forget him and try find new friends who doesent mind

 

[Demons_Bane]

Your sexuality should not change a true friendship. End of story.