I think sex is the most intimate experience you can have with your partner. If you truly love her then you wouldn't want to be with anyone else.
Open Relationships, what do you think?
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Kinda like how a square is a rectangle, but a rectangle cannot be a square, but this is more of a less deep, bland, and over simplified version though...101194 said:
I don't agree with it. Not only does it increase the chances of STD infections but it also increases the probability that your partner may find someone else who emotionally connects with them better.
Well, those reasons and my own private religious beliefs but lets not open a can of worms. This isn't the religion/political forum after all.
Well, those reasons and my own private religious beliefs but lets not open a can of worms. This isn't the religion/political forum after all.
I actually had this conversation yesterday with a few people in the Asylum group.
I associate sex with love. I honestly don't even want sex.
I'm mainly looking for love and if sex comes with that love, right on, it's just not a priority of mine.
So it's completely ridiculous in my opinion to think it's acceptable to fuck someone on the side, while "loving" another. It doesn't make any sense to me.
I only want one person I can love unconditionally. Sex is secondary in relationships for me. Love is always primary.
I associate sex with love. I honestly don't even want sex.
I'm mainly looking for love and if sex comes with that love, right on, it's just not a priority of mine.
So it's completely ridiculous in my opinion to think it's acceptable to fuck someone on the side, while "loving" another. It doesn't make any sense to me.
I only want one person I can love unconditionally. Sex is secondary in relationships for me. Love is always primary.
Perfectly acceptable.
Just because it's a social norm to have a monogamous relationship only makes it a better reason to be in an open relationship. People go around talking about society like it's a great thing, but in the end it's just a pile of ants doing the same shit over and over again. You can be a good ant and do what other ants do, or you can be a bad ant and don't. Either way you're going to die eventually... So would you like to be a part of system that will not provide any benefit to you beyond your lifespan aside from a very general unsophisticated survival of the species that still won't personally affect you at all or would you like to be against it, I don't quite give a damn.
You're gonna die, I'm gonna die, and eventually heat death will wipe out the entire universe and everything that's been "accomplished". Do whatever you want.
You can contribute or watch the world burn, on a long enough time span it's all irrelevant.
Or in a less cynical way, there are plenty of shitty traditions that we've overcome now but wouldn't dream of overcoming just a few centuries ago. Just a few centuries ago most people would laugh at the idea that races are pretty much equal. Same thing for any big social change, whether suffrage or gay rights or religion or whatever. Unmarried couple having sex would be a horrible thing in general opinion not even that long ago, and now everyone's doing it and it seems okay. Same for interracial stuff.
I'd say you'd have to try pretty hard to break something hard enough to make the whole card house of civilization to collapse and not have everything, you know, adapt and turn out for the better.
Just because it's a social norm to have a monogamous relationship only makes it a better reason to be in an open relationship. People go around talking about society like it's a great thing, but in the end it's just a pile of ants doing the same shit over and over again. You can be a good ant and do what other ants do, or you can be a bad ant and don't. Either way you're going to die eventually... So would you like to be a part of system that will not provide any benefit to you beyond your lifespan aside from a very general unsophisticated survival of the species that still won't personally affect you at all or would you like to be against it, I don't quite give a damn.
You're gonna die, I'm gonna die, and eventually heat death will wipe out the entire universe and everything that's been "accomplished". Do whatever you want.
You can contribute or watch the world burn, on a long enough time span it's all irrelevant.
Or in a less cynical way, there are plenty of shitty traditions that we've overcome now but wouldn't dream of overcoming just a few centuries ago. Just a few centuries ago most people would laugh at the idea that races are pretty much equal. Same thing for any big social change, whether suffrage or gay rights or religion or whatever. Unmarried couple having sex would be a horrible thing in general opinion not even that long ago, and now everyone's doing it and it seems okay. Same for interracial stuff.
I'd say you'd have to try pretty hard to break something hard enough to make the whole card house of civilization to collapse and not have everything, you know, adapt and turn out for the better.
I think it's alright to have sex with whoever, I mean, I sleep with on average 4 girls a week but me and my girlfriend are still happy. It's just good times man, fun for everybody. Don't take dating and stuff so seriously guys.
I call complete bullshit everyone in this forum is putting the pussy on a pedastal. There is no magic switch that commands your body to stop finding other people attractive and suddenly stop the desire to have sex with someone just because your in love. Why do we use sex as the marker for love? We might as well say "You shouldn't eat a sandwich with anyone else but the one you love" it is completely a social construct that we are monogamous which is fine and good but your acting as if we are biologically programmed to stop finding others attractive once we are in a relationship.RandomWords said:
I stick to monogamy. I'm a silly romantic, and I think sex should be an intimate part of the relationship with the one you love. Sure, having sex can be fun, but I'd rather have sex with someone I love.
But if that's your thing, go for it.
I'm pretty much of the same mindset. My girlfriend is currently in America and will be for another year at least. While she's had more than I have, we still keep each other in the loop and there are certain things we only do with each other.Jaranja said:
There is a difference between sex for fun and making love, in my opinion but I really can understand why other people persue monogamy. I've been in a monogamous relationship and it was all fine and dandy (we parted on good terms too).
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Other people can have them and that's fine, but I would hate to be in one.
The whole "the woman I love fucking other men thing" ya'know
The whole "the woman I love fucking other men thing" ya'know
Open relationship? No thanks, I would be too worried about whether my partner was actually okay with it or not.
Sex with no emotional ties? Heh, why not? If it doesn't mean anything and you're both just in it for the sex then I guess there's no emotional harm done.
Sex with no emotional ties? Heh, why not? If it doesn't mean anything and you're both just in it for the sex then I guess there's no emotional harm done.
No it's about probability. As the number of sexual partner increases, the chance of you getting STDs approaches 1. Remember you're not only having sex with all the girls you sleep with, but also all the guys those girls have slept with (or girls).Billion Backs said:
