Open Relationships, what do you think?

[Outright Villainy]

No, I wouldn't like an open relationship, not if I had any intent to see it through. Sex can be a lot of things; to me it's a way I feel close to my girlfriend, and there's no denying it's intimacy. I could have casual sex, but I'd never do it in a relationship.

Sure, threesome fantasies are fun and all that, but there's no way in hell I'd risk the relationship for it.

 

[TheTaco007]

An open relationship can never be sustained. Anyone who says it can is lying or watches too much TV. At one point or another one of the two people in the open relationship will start to feel jealous. If its the friends with benifits type of thing then eventually feelings will start to emerge. I dont see why anyone would have an open relationship. If your girlfriend isnt doing it for you find a new bloody one and stop being a manwhore

Listen to him.

Eventually either one of you will get jealous, and try to make the other be exclusive, or you'll end up never seeing each other, and just ending up maybe running into each other once a month for a quickie.

 

[Happy Sock Puppet]

Monogamy F T W.

'Open' relationships lead to herpes, and worse, and are only for people not mature enough to control their urge to shag everything within arm's reach.

 

[Paksenarrion]

Open relationships? Sure! I think both partners should be open and honest with each other about how they feel.

...open relationship means what?!

I believe this applies to this thread:

 

[Altorin]

If two people are willingly in an "open relationship" then they may as well not even call it a relationship.

 

[Kagim]

Not fond, at all.

I know for a fact several of my wife's friends like her more then just friends.

I desire to pound them to pieces. Fortunately, the disrespect they showed me and our relationship made her distance herself from them completely. So I don't have to worry about that.

So yeah, just knowing other men were after my wife pissed me off something serious.

I don't think i would handle it well if she fucked someone else. So no to open relationships to me.

 

[CaptainREBell]

Does being in an open relationship only effect sex?
My boyfriend and I are going off to different universities, and we considered an open relationship. It would have been based on honesty; that however far we went with someone else, we would tell the other person and they would decide if that was too much of a betrayal to still be in a relationship.
I don't really have morals regarding it, if the couple understand what they're getting themselves into. You have to think, if I want to sleep around with lots of other people, am I happy being in a form of relationship? If you commit to a relationship, even if it is open, doesn't it show a commitment which sleeping around undermines?
Fuck buddies are bad, if that's what we're getting at. But careful people who are prepared to accept consequences can do as they please, t'is their life/problem.

 

[Kenko]

About relationships all I can say is. Do whatever floats your boat, be honest about it so no one gets hurt needlessly. Then go on about yer business and enjoy life the way you want too

 

[clipse15]

My relationship hasn't been based on sex in a long time. If my girlfriend wanted to have sex with someone else i wouldn't have a problem with it. The love in our relationship doesn't come from putting my penis in her, it comes from being with her and hanging out with her and talking to her. Sex to me is a complete physical act that you do because it feels good. Sorry but I don't have this stupid fantastical attachment to it.

 

[Cody211282]

Well I believe sexual intercourse is one of the strongest displays of emotion, therefore just screwing around with anyone you want is rather deceitful to me.

So monogamy for me

Wow nailed on the first post! When I'm with a girl I love I don't think about damn near anyone else, and i wouldn't want to do anything to hurt her, so why would I screw around with someone who isn't nearly as good as her.

As Paul Newman once said "I have steak at home, why go out for hamburger?"

 

[Vuljatar]

I think... meh.

If it works for them, good for them. It wouldn't work for me, though.

 

[Miumaru]

Could it work? Yes. Will it likely work? No.
If both people are aware and fine with it, I see nothing "wrong" with it, but it seems a set up for unhappiness in the long run. Just do not be surprised if anyone you do this with has second thoughts.

 

[ultrachicken]

Your brain releases chemicals that cause you to grow a bond with your partner during sex, so there really is no such thing as sex without attachment. One time won't have too much of an effect, but being "fuck buddies" will cause a bond. Therefore, I do think it's wise to associate love with sex in most cases.

 

[ALuckyChance]

I don't see why anyone in a committed, loving relationship would need someone else for sexual urges. A relationship only needs sex if it isn't much of one to begin with, in my opinion.

Just masturbate or something, geez.

 

[101194]

Sex isn't love, But love entitles sex. Therefor love is sex. But Sex isn't love.

 

[NoNameMcgee]

I simply think everyone is different and therefore the same 'rules' don't apply to everyone. For some relationships it can work, depending on the levels of trust and levels of jealousy and other personality traits. For other relationships it just won't work.

As for me personally, either situation is fine for me.

 

[Betancore]

Don't know about other people, but it wouldn't work for me. I mean, do whatever you like, I don't disapprove, but I wouldn't enter into any kind of friends with benefits thing myself. I'd end up developing feelings for that person, or I'd feel jealous, or just something like that. Would just be a load of drama.

 

[RagnorakTres]

I just apply Valentine Michael Smith's reasoning: I am God, Thou art God, through sharing our bodies and the water of life we grow closer.

That's all that's important, in my opinion. I'm not gonna sleep around with just anyone, we have to be.....well, water brothers. If you've read Heinlein, specifically Stranger in a Strange Land you know of what I speak, and there's really no word in any language that can express that bond, unfortunately.

 

[latenightapplepie]

I'm not sure if I could do it personally, but I understand that other people can easily. I'm sure that it works in some circumstances. There just has to be honesty and communication between all the parties involved.

It is worth noting that there a varying degrees of 'openness' in relationships. Imagine it like a door. You could have the door open a tiny crack, or it could be wide open.