Other People's Sex Lives

[DeepComet5581]

I have no idea why men are so eager to lose their virginity. In the other thread about virginity there were sixteen year olds acting as though they were too old to be virgins, which is just ridiculous. I would never judge a man on the basis of his being a virgin. Do people really care about that? I always thought virgin shaming was something that goes on among pubescent males. Although, seeing as you have done the research, have you seen many women perpetuating those ideas too?

Steve Carroll starred in a movie along those lines.

Believe it or not, I have more girls than guys concerned about my lack of sexual activity. The only guy who cares is my best friend (And that's only because he talks about it every fucking time we meet), whereas almost any girl who finds out actually asks "Why?".

Fuck do I know?

I'm 19 by the way.

 

[Naeras]

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Okay man, I don't know if you're trying to be pedantic or obtuse, but doing something twice doubles the chances of a thing happening compared to doing something once. It cannot be stated simpler than that.

Sorry, your understanding of probability is flawed here.
Given that we're talking about a population where 1% of the people have an STD, and not a population of 100 people where one person has an STD(thus the 1% chance is constant), the chance of getting an STD if you have unprotected sex with 100 random people is 1 - (99/100)^100 = 0.63. In other words, a 63% chance.
Keep in mind that this number is provided that you're not using condoms(which anyone with half a brain will) and that the STD has a 100% transmission rate.

I get the feeling you're arguing with me at this point for arguments sake. I'm not a very confrontational person and to be honest (and I'm not trying to be rude here) it really doesn't matter if you disagree with me. Maybe it's a generation or cultural thing that promiscuity is perfectly acceptable to you. As you like it. I clearly can't convince you that it's an unhealthy lifestyle so I'm not going to expend any more words in trying.

Sex is overall good for your health, and not everyone likes monogamous relationships. If you use condoms every time, you drastically reduce your chance of contracting STDs, and if your partner(s) have the same standard for safe sex, the chance is even lower.
Bottom line: if someone ever says "you don't need a condom" or "I don't wanna use condoms" on a one night stand, throw them out. That's common sense, thankfully.

 

[The Almighty Aardvark]

Yea. It's pretty hot. And btw, what gives you any right to inquire into your partner's number of sexual partners?

If I was going to marry someone or be in a long term relationship with them I would be bothered if they didn't want to mention how many sexual partners they had. Not that I'd have any issue with whatever that was, but it would bother me if they didn't feel comfortable enough to talk about it.

What, how, I don't even... So you manage to get women to sleep with you somehow, tell them you don't really want to continue the relationship beyond that, and they do it anyways? This is more abstract to me than if you said you were into the frying pan thing someone was talking about on here. I desperately want a girlfriend (I know it ain't attractive, but this is semi anonymous), I desperately miss my old girlfriend, and I sure as hell never want to have sex again without the possibility of an ongoing relationship of some kind. This little seed of jealousy / resentment that I'm feeling right now is exactly what I was talking about in the OP.

Seriously, where/how do you make this happen? I can't even imagine being in a mental state healthy enough to be able to do that.

It's actually quite easy to understand. Not everyone sees sex as something hugely important or sacred. A lot of people just see it as something that's just enjoyable to do. There's no reason why it needs to be more important than it is. You can make it all you want it to be, and by all means, do that if that's what you want. There's just nothing about it that needs to have a greater meaning tied to it.


I'm one of those few weird people who doesn't have any issue with talking about my sex life or others. The only reason I generally don't discuss my own is because having only had one partner, anything I say can quite easily be traced back to her being on the other end. I'm usually not judgmental about other people's sex lives in terms of everything just regarding the sex. How people go about it can bother me though. I could care less about one night stands so long as both parties are fully aware that it is just that. If someone is manipulating someone into bed and leading their partner to believe that there's going to be a lot more coming of it, then I have an issue because people are being used and hurt.

 

[Something Amyss]

this has always baffled me....why would I "naive" because because I havn't had sex? does that automatically mean I see the world through a rainbow filter? particually high school

or not havign sex implys some kind "sweet and inocent" thing....

The latter, mostly. I'm not sure if you're familiar with the virgin/whore complex, but we have a very binary way of looking at women and sex in our culture. Virgins representing good things, whores representing everything bad and the only real distinction is if you've had sex. Because sex totally changes a girl forever. Or something.

 

[ElPatron]

Doesn't matter to me, but if you're a shitty person don't mind if I do call you offensive names based on your promiscuity.

Almost all of male interaction is geared toward sex, learning, or companionship. And Companionship is rarely utilized toward a human female.

Not true. First, we also strive for competition and dominance. Second, pretty much every male I know has female friends, including me. I don't know why people like to imply that there can't be companionship to females even though it's "bros before hoes".

Just because your life experience gave you an insight on your culture doesn't mean the whole world is like that.

Futa.

The japanese don't consider anal sex "real sex" and many are still insecure if it's "gay or not gay" so they draw girls with cocks and pussies.

I don't see anything wrong with that.

 

[Sandernista]

Yea. It's pretty hot. And btw, what gives you any right to inquire into your partner's number of sexual partners?

If I was going to marry someone or be in a long term relationship with them I would be bothered if they didn't want to mention how many sexual partners they had. Not that I'd have any issue with whatever that was, but it would bother me if they didn't feel comfortable enough to talk about it.

I make a habit of not asking about my partners sexual past. It's only pertinent if they offer the information themselves.

I find it weird that it would be important to anyone, I don't want to hear about their exes, and most people don't want to hear about my exes. (Unless they're a sitcom writer *rimshot*)

 

[BOOM headshot65]

What you do in bed, I dont care. However, I still get mad at one night stands and polygamy, consensuallity be damned.

And people who are in a relationship only for the sexy time....not cool. You should be in a relationship because you enjoy spending time together, have similar interest, and most importantly, are friends. Sex should not even be ON the list of reason to date someone.

And the more I look at this tread, the more I think the Midwest US is on some other planet because most of what you guys are saying just doesnt happen around here.

 

[StylinBones]

It's not anybody's bidness unless you want it to be, so SHH! about it. No one wants to hear it!

 

[The Almighty Aardvark]

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If by SCA you are referring to Sexual Compulsives Anonymous then I can understand their fixation on the subject. Otherwise I can imagine why that'd be irritating. While I do like it as a topic that can be talked about, I like there to be emphasis on the can part of the statement. It isn't the be all end all of conversation and there's by far many other more interesting topics that could be discussed.