I wouldn't want to, but if I'm still a virgin by the time I meet the love of my life, and she wants to stay abstinent until marriage, I'll go with it.
Poll: Are Going To Try to Stay Abstinent Until Marriage?
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As a Christian I'll wait until marriage. There's a lot of people trying to post rationalise their decesion not to wait. All I'll say is I'm sure that God knows best. If he wants me to abstain until marriage I'm damn sure there's an excellent reason for it.
ps. I also won't get any STIs.
ps. I also won't get any STIs.
"I don't know why but I'm sure there is a good reason for it" isn't the soundest of reasons. If I were to have a stab I would argue the biblical reason is, that in a time with no pill etc, its the only way too be sure you pass your earthly belongings on to your own children when you die.ben---neb said:
Too much emphasis is put on sex, when you feel ready go out and have fun, just be safe when you do it.
I've read that people who wait until later in life have more sexual hang ups and issues than those who don't. It's to do with waiting so long builds the whole experience up to be something much bigger than it actually is. It's a natural part of life. Enjoy it.
1. Its called a STD, not a STIben---neb said:
2. Don't count on your partner abstaining just because shes Christian
Pretty much this. My first time was far from perfect. It was hollow, unfulfilling rebound sex that I felt I needed because the girl was willing and I was lonely after my first girlfriend dumped me, and it sucked.Cliff_m85 said:
The girl I'm with now I love very much, but we both enjoy sex together, and if we do, then why wait until some arbitrary point in the future when a piece of paper and an expensive ceremony says we're both together when we have been for years already?
It's a little late for that one. And call me selfish or heathen but I don't think I could marry a girl who is choosing to abstain until her wedding night. It's not just the religious side of the argument - though it would be a major factor - it's also a case of why wouldn't you do that. Having sex is a great way to know if you can be with someone - if its awkward then its unlikely that you'll stay together, that is unless you plan to stick it out for other reasons, which is a very commendable thing by the way. But sex is very important in a relationship - it's arguably the main (though not the only) reason to get married in the first place. So to me abstaining until your wedding night seems a little silly.
If both people want/have to abstain due to their religious beliefs that's different. But for me, not being religious or having other similar constraints, I don't see it as a viable option.
If both people want/have to abstain due to their religious beliefs that's different. But for me, not being religious or having other similar constraints, I don't see it as a viable option.
It's too late now for me, I wouldn't have minded waiting until after marriage to have sex, it's just the person who I'm with right now (who I lost it to) I trust completely, and I love them, and so on (I don't want to bore people with my long list of how I feel about them), so yeah, and I think we both wanted to do it (I did, but I dunno, I think he did...D
, soo yeah.
, soo yeah.
If I'm with someone I love enough to marry and they don't want sex until marriage I could manage it. Otherwise nope.
It depends on how she feels about it. I wouldn't make her do something, unless she was comfortable doing it.
First off, I'm single. If the girl wants to stay abstinent until marriage I'd go through with it. That said, if the mood arises at any other time, I doubt I'll be inclined to deny it.
