Poll: Are Relationships for Everyone?
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They aren't for me, apparently. I've never had one, never will. I'll die alone in a hotel bath tub, wrist open, heart closed. XD
I think you may be seeing "romantic relationships" as this separate thing from other types of relationships.RabbidKuriboh said:
The heart of a romantic relationship is friendship. Can you imagine being friends with someone, hanging out with them all the time?
Just add in sex, and you're there.
Reasons for wanting a relationship:RabbidKuriboh said:
-Fun
-Someone to be emotionally supported by.
-Sex.
-Getting money.
-Someone to just hang with.
-Someone to marry.
-Someone to start a family with.
-Gives an ego boost.
-Enjoy a persons presence.
-To get new friends through the other person.
-They are forced into it(if you count "marriage" as a relationship in this case)
Reasons for not wanting a relationship:
-Don't want to be "attached" to another person, independent people.
-Don't have enough time.
-Are mentally ill.
-Just want sex with no strings attached.
-Have trust issues.
-Haven't found the right person.
-Doesn't want to get married.
-Doesn't want kids.
-Don't think of them as enjoyable, both for the above reasons or just for no reason in particular.
-Can't get the courage to start one.
So yeah, they aren't for everyone.
I think *some* kind of relationship is right for virtually everyone, but what kind of relationship varies by the individual. You might be asexual (no, Korolev above me, asexual doesn't mean agender, they're two separate things) but not aromantic, or vice versa. But even most asexual and aromantic people I've known tend to have very intense friendships where they really feel a bond with their friend (and often like to cuddle with their friend) even though it's not sexual and not really romantic as such.
Libido also varies all over the place, you can also be sexual but very low-libido.
But yes, I think people need other people, we're a social species. Maybe not to reproduce, maybe not to have sex, maybe not in a romantic way, but I think humans benefit from close bonds with other humans.
Libido also varies all over the place, you can also be sexual but very low-libido.
But yes, I think people need other people, we're a social species. Maybe not to reproduce, maybe not to have sex, maybe not in a romantic way, but I think humans benefit from close bonds with other humans.
I think it depends on the person, but all I want is a soul mate that can make me happy every way possible and that we are pretty much the same.
You shouldn't find the people that fit the relationship, you should find the realtionship to fit the people. If that makes sense. Everyone has some relationship-potential, but what that actually means, in terms of "what does the relationship entail", varies from person to person. If everyone is 'custom made', so to speak, then surely that which fulfills their emotional needs has to be 'custom made' as well.
Relationships are pretty important, they're unavoidable.
Romantic relationships are as well, for most people, a necessity.
Monogamy... Not so much.
Romantic relationships are as well, for most people, a necessity.
Monogamy... Not so much.
I don't know in all honesty.
My mindset on the matter is a confusing one. I think I want a girlfriend, but I have high standards for one, thus disregarding anyone who I don't find to be amazing. I'd have to properly like the girl to be officially going out with her.
At the minute, if I like the girl I'll see her more, date her, then ask her out or something.
My mindset on the matter is a confusing one. I think I want a girlfriend, but I have high standards for one, thus disregarding anyone who I don't find to be amazing. I'd have to properly like the girl to be officially going out with her.
At the minute, if I like the girl I'll see her more, date her, then ask her out or something.
Some people move in and out of relationships like they're nothing. Some people only get in relationships that they feel will last a long time. Some people never get in relationships. Everyones different. You might just not be ready to open yourself up to someone or havent found someone you really wanna be with. I wouldn't worry about it either way, if you're meant to be in relationships you will be.
I think it's pretty simple... if you don't have any desire for it, nor any desire to find out what the deal is, then don't. Everyone has their own tastes, even when it comes to having or not having certain kinds of relationships. Some people are asexual, or aromantic, or a- anything, and there's nothing wrong with that.
The problem is it's a mutual activity that can demand a certain level of commitment. If you do want to try it and see, make sure you find someone who accepts that and is only looking for something short term.
The problem is it's a mutual activity that can demand a certain level of commitment. If you do want to try it and see, make sure you find someone who accepts that and is only looking for something short term.
Usually one day you just wake up and think, "Holy hell, I think I need a woman to love!". Which is usually followed by intense loneliness, maybe a bit of depression at first of not having someone to love. Basically, love sickness.RabbidKuriboh said:
But on topic, I don't think relationships are for everyone, BECAUSE it depends on the person. Some people just cannot handle another person in their life, or don't deserve one.
As to what you were talking about with yourself, however, I don't think either of those are the case and either you're not big on the idea, or you haven't been bitten by the love bug.
All my relationships have ended terribly and left me worse of than I was before, so I just gave up on them.