Poll: Are Relationships for Everyone?

[Eclectic Dreck]

Relationships are for everyone if by everyone you mean "well adjusted human beings" and relationships mean exactly that: various types of association and interaction with other people. Sexual relationships might not be for everyone (even if I find that to be incredibly odd, but then some people are intensely aroused by things that nauseate me), but I'd go so far as to say intimate relationships are.

 

[varulfic]

Nothing is for everyone.

 

[Megacherv]

No.

This whole idea that everyone needs to be with someone is stupid. Like everyone is so fucking codependent that anyone who is without something to mash genitalia with is in serious mortal danger.

Half the reason people are so fucking distressed that they haven't had a girlfriend or boyfriend at sixteen or whatever is because of this societal obsession with romance and relationships. We are fucking raised to think being with someone is the only way to be, the ultimate fucking goal. All of these depressed whiny nerds we get bitching on the internet about VIRGIN FOREVER FML caused by this bullshit.

It isn't important. It will never be important. I will enjoy my life just fine without someone leeching off my energy and patience just so they can fill a nonexistent void.

I understand your point, but... cynic much?

OP: Are they for everyone? Well... I dunno. I think everyone should probably try their hand at it when they're ready, but eventually some people are bound to go on with their lives without a significant other to share it.

It's not cynicism. It is targetless venom spewing at whatever presents itself.
There is a difference. One is bitter whinging. The other is just throwing a tantrum.

Maybe I should have put it all in capslock and periodically embedded a scowling face.

Well, you do already have the scowling face

 

[Vern5]

i guess i should explain the title

i have never been in any sort of relationship beyond friendship with a girl, and i don't really have a compulsion beyond the biological urge to seek a mate.And the very idea of me being in a relationship just seems ridiculous, i'm not sure why

do i need to be in a relationship to understand the true benifits? do some people just not require that kind of intimacy or dependance with another person?

Do you know what relationships are? Gifts, Delusions of a deep spiritual connection and consistent Boning. Frankly, that's not exactly a bad thing. If you're just in for the biological fulfillment then just do it. You're definitely not the only person on Earth who's like that and you will not be the last. Revel in it.

Also, dependence has nothing to do with a 'healthy' relationship. You know those couples who keep saying things like "I wouldn't know what to do if he/she left me"? Those are the dependent couples. They are also the couples who end up killing each other if they suspect a break-up is coming

Honestly, if you're feeling brave or invested, latch onto the least annoying but most attractive girl you know and see how that plays out. You'll find out if you want to pursue relationships or not. And if you do, you'll have a better idea of what you want out of a relationship. It's a learning process. An expensive and emotionally taxing process.

 

[vgmaster831]

Consider the possibilities here. A relationship doesn't have to be with a certain gender. You could have an "alternative sexuality." Though I prefer to say that you might be gay.

In any case, I think relationships are something that are fundamental to the human experience. However, that is not to say one must always be in a relationship or even seek a permanent one.

 

[gazumped]

I'd have thought if even one person said 'no' the answer would be 'no'.

Of course it may depend on your definition of a relationship, I was with a guy once for four months, he was one of my best friends, there were dates, sex, emotional support, arguments, everything involved in a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship (well, an open relationship, we were allowed to get with other people) but he refused to classify it as a 'relationship' and was all 'I'm not romantically interested in you' and 'I don't really want a girlfriend'.

Whenever I've talked about him, people assume he was my boyfriend. I say he wasn't, technically, and they say well, he was for all intents and purposes. I agree, but I don't think he would at all.