Poll: Are you happy with your social life?

[Robyrt]

I chose "It's OK" not because I have too few friends, but because I am so bad at connecting with the ones I already have. It's tough for an introvert to find some place to hang out on a Friday night, but when I do it is always a fabulous time.

 

[Lineoutt]

I want a better social life, and try my best to improve it. Though it takes a while, for a lot of reasons.

I'm mostly limited by my own lack of initiative (for actually going out to meet people or friends), the lack of people I can relate to, and my own laziness (or preoccupation with other endeavors). Although the real reason is probably a lot deeper within me.

I have the exact same problems. It's a ***** aint it.

(aaaaaahhhhh nooo waaannnttt looowww coonnttteennnttt)

 

[archvile93]

I stopped having one around middle school, and I've never been happier.

 

[Scoffy89]

I enjoy philosophical and intelligent conversations, but whenever I try to start one, everyone looks at me like "Dude, are you gay?"

I know exactly what you mean. When I was about 16 all of my friends where like that and I live in Ireland where drinking seems to mean the same thing as in Finland. However, I don't drink and whenever I didn't want to go out all my friends would ask stupid questions like "Why not? We're all going to get wasted." I never understood the need for me to be there watching them vomit.

However now they seem to have grown up a bit and do not constantly want to go out. I never cared for their drinking but always wished that it would be casual drinks with some decent conversation. Maybe not something exceptionally deep or philosophical but something that would be at least midly interesting.

However, now I've realised that I actually find people a bit too exhausting and boring. Very few people I know are genuinely interesting or are capable of a decent conversation so I don't bother with socialising.

 

[Grimsinger]

Very, I have good friends at uni, an amazing girlfriend, fantastic prof.s and classmates. not to mention all my great friends back home.

 

[natster43]

It's okay. I could be more social, but I talk to people at school, and hang out with some friends every now and then.

 

[Jedoro]

I don't like people, but I'm fond of individuals. I keep very few individuals close, avoid the rest, and am too used to it to have any desire to change it.

OP, how are you in-between friends? I've had the same best friend literally my whole life, and don't understand what you mean.

It's pretty simple really.

Spoiler: long winded explanation of my predicament

I've grown up in a school system where It's basically the same 20 people all the way through preschool, kindergarten, elementary, middle, and high school (well about 10 new people joined up in high school) Within this group I had made a group of friends (all guys) because we had similar interests and they were fun to hang out with. Unfortunately, the more we hung out the more they treated me like shit and the more I realized how immature they were. I basically separated myself from them and also switched schools. It's been about a week and a half in the new school and I am totally out of my element, there are about 60 people in my class which is big for me and I can't tell if anyone is at all interested in what I am. So I am slowly warming up to people and right now i lack a close group of friends (i still have individual friends, that arent as close but i still hang out with them). It is a new feeling and it makes me feel lonely and I tend to be a bit shy at times (though, not once I get to know people, or when i don't know them at all.) but I am really judgmental of myself and THAT is what I'm talking about.

Being a teenager sucks. Going through puberty sucks. Nuff said.

It really does. People have grown up a little bit since entering college/university/whatever people want to call it, and it's nice to see.

OP, how are you in-between friends? I've had the same best friend literally my whole life, and don't understand what you mean.

You're lucky... Growing up, every time I'd get a "best friend", they'd move away... Right now I have like 2 friends that are actually friends and they live 40 minutes away.

Ouch. Yeah, he's never been farther than a town away, and now we go to the same university, so I don't see him going anywhere anytime soon.

 

[Doclector]

I have a few real friends on xbox live, but I don't really have any friends in real life, only a few "aquaintances", as although I'd like to refer to them as friends, I doubt they would say that about me. It's always seemed to me like "normal people" are a completely different, and largely hostile species to freaks like me. I've tried to be normal, but I never seem to quite pull it off. I've tried to understand the "normal people". I've theorised why they hate everyone who isn't normal, everything from the influence of popular lifestyle magazines like hello, to the remnants of some kind of caveman instinct that tells them anything that isn't like them is probabally hostile.

To make matters worse, there are popular movements that claim to celebrate individuality...by dressing, talking, and even acting the same as each other. It annoys me with my 20th birthday in just a couple of days time, and university not far away, I am no closer to discovering a way to live peacefully, openly, and happily alongside them, apart from trying to stay out of their way and sight.

 

[Brainsaw]

Have quite a few friends IRL. We hang out on occasion and help each other out at times. As for me I'm not the world's biggest people person. I can go to a party but I just can't stay on the account I don't like large masses of people and thus I can only be around them for limited amounts of time.

 

[Kae]

I'm not happy with it but I just cannot talk to people even if I try it is very hard to me to talk to someone.

 

[sheogoraththemad]

I have a lot of good friends and a good family, could have been worse, could have bean better..

Captcha: count your change and a Suzuki advert, what the fuck is happening

 

[OniaPL]

However, now I've realised that I actually find people a bit too exhausting and boring. Very few people I know are genuinely interesting or are capable of a decent conversation so I don't bother with socialising.

Actually, I found that you need to look for these interesting people. If anyone seems interesting in any way, I always go and learn more about him/her. Sadly, it still is rare.

The core problem with our society, at least in my opinion in Finland, can be explained by the song Working Class Hero. Okay, maybe not that extreme, but still. Our society despises fools and hates the clever ones. Everything has to be "average", everyone wants to be just like the others. People are just a gray mass nowadays. All the girls (again, I can only speak about people in my age group) look the same. They wear same style clothes, have same kind of hair, and have pretty much the same interests. All the guys are either the "quiet studier"- or the "Cool/tough guy"- type. More than often it feels like people are losing their ability to think for themselves. Everyone does what others do, and if you dont be a part of that mass, you will be shunned, unless you do something to earn their respect.

The pinnacle of idiocy seems to be that people vote Big Brother- celebrities in elections.

 

[MrSean]

My social life is awful.
Only people that really speak to me / I speak to are in my class at college.
When I leave that we will probably never talk again.

Any old friends I have on facebook or MSN don't speak to me and if I send them a message they will reply with "conversation enders" e.g. Me: "Hi, how are you?" Them: "Fine."

 

[TonyVonTonyus]

I like my social life. Enough people like me, the people I want o like me anyways. I hate most people anyways because they generally annoy me.

 

[Nouw]

I love my social life. I have heaps of friends and regularly talk with them over Facebook. (Although I did delete Windows Live Messenger to make my computer run faster >.>)

Hell I'm about to go to the beach right now with my friends.

 

[PatchlingZoon]

I don't like people, but I'm fond of individuals. I keep very few individuals close, avoid the rest, and am too used to it to have any desire to change it.

Ditto. I'm more of a one-on-one type communicator. But, if I do somehow end up in groups, I prefer them no bigger than 4. Too much drama, conversation topics deviate, greater chance of someone being left out, etc.

 

[CrystalShadow]

I have no social life, and I'd like to keep it that way. ;p

In all seriousness, it's a lot better than it once was. But I still don't really care.

 

[Knusper]

I'm about meh. I don't really have a social life, but I don't really enjoy having to pay the ridiculously expensive rail fees where I live to go out with friends and I don't enjoy parties, mostly because most of my friends have very different tastes to what I have concerning hobbies and music.

I recently realised though, that if I don't start getting one soon, I might struggle with it for the rest of my life, and that is also very applicable with girlfriends (or rather, the absence thereof).

Maybe later.

 

[eatenbyagrue]

Not really. My only choices are "people who I don't really like, and don't quite like me either, so we make awkward conversation for a few minutes" (most people at school), "people from my major who pretty much either ask for my life story or for help with linguistics and mythology", and "the jerks I spend my saturdays with" (my friends).

And when you realize that the people you call "friends" are selfish, stand-offish jackasses, you know your social life kinda sucks.