Poll: Asking for a kiss on your birthday.

[Marik2]

My birthday is next week and I'm getting old

Anyways, I'm going to be spending time with a female friend that knows I like her. What's between us is complicated and I'm not going to get into it here.

I'll just say that were pretty good friends, and I spent the day with her last week on what some people would call a date, but wasn't really.

I'm thinking about jokingly asking her for a kiss. I'm pretty sure she'll say no, but it's still worth a shot and I can play it off as being innocent yet still flirty.

Good idea, terrible idea?

Anybody done something like it before?

Edit: Added more detail

Id say do it, I had a couple of female friends whom I always joked that kind of stuff to (kissing, holding hands, etc) and I would get a kiss or two for that since they always told me I was a cheesy dork

So yeah if you're really close to your friend as you say you are and she knows she likes you, than I say you got a good chance.

Good luck

 

[smithy_2045]

From my extremely limited experience with the lady folk, this is a not a good idea.

 

[Phasmal]

Hm, I voted no.
If she knows you like her already and hasn't responded or made a move, she probably doesn't like you. And also `come on its my birthday` sounds creeptastic/manipulative.
If you want to go out with her, go for broke and ask her out. Dont try and wiggle your way into her life/pants.

 

[Ghostkai]

What have you got to lose? Go for it.

 

[tzimize]

Smelling a friendzone.

That's what it seems like to me. The OP did say he did go out on what could be called a date with her. From the way he sounds, he has never kissed her. Ends of dates are for just that, the end of date kiss. If it didn't get there with that so called date, then asking for a kiss for his birthday will probably screw things up.

I have been in that zone far too many times; it is really getting old.

It really isnt too difficult to avoid. I've been only once. And learned from the experience. My advice: Know your intentions, and make them known. If you want a relationship, or at least try to have one: say it. And no beating around the bush, be very clear. Then, you'll find out and you can cheer or move on as the outcome demands.

 

[Dags90]

It's either that or wait until until St. Patty's Day and say "Kiss me, I'm Irish".

 

[Maxtro]

I'm surprised at the number of posts that said, I did it and it worked.

Our friendship is already awkward so something like this won't make a dent

I'll do it in a joking way and not try to pressure or guilt her into it.

What have I got to lose?

Thanks for the variety of responses.

 

[Smooth Operator]

no pudding no life man

Wait What?

It is an ancient Chinese proverb, many layers of meaning

If she knows you like her already and hasn't responded or made a move, she probably doesn't like you.

Yes because women are well known for making the first move...
Either she does like him and is waiting for him to make a proper gesture or she doesn't, and a simple question about a kiss will clear the air quickly.

 

[rokkolpo]

Loosen up, drink a few beers, cuddle up on the couch and just do it! (not the asking, the kissing)

You will immediately get your answer.
Because screw uncertainty!

 

[esperandote]

Start by cassualy holding her hand or wraping you arm around her when you walk, then talk about you liking her, if she seems in to you then go for it.

 

[Phasmal]

If she knows you like her already and hasn't responded or made a move, she probably doesn't like you.

Yes because women are well known for making the first move...
Either she does like him and is waiting for him to make a proper gesture or she doesn't, and a simple question about a kiss will clear the air quickly.

Thats why I wrote or `hasn't responded`.
The point is she knows he likes her and she's kept him as a friend, true she could be waiting for him to make a move, but I doubt asking for a kiss is the way to go.
She could either respond, get creeped out or be creeped out and do it anyway, it doesnt really provide the answer he's looking for.
A simple conversation of `I like you, do you like me/will you go out with me?` would probably save a lot of hassle.
EDIT: Also, this isn't the middle ages, loads of women make the first move.

 

[GeorgW]

I say go for it. It's cute and hard to say no to, plus it's not really offensive or suggestive. You don't have much to lose but have a lot to gain.

 

[idodo35]

well i dont know the situation exactly but i think it might be a bad idea ive been to 2 relationships like that (one resolved fine the other one is still going on in this okward status) and i think it will only make things complicated espacialy if its your first kiss youll like it to be something spacial
i know id remember mine for a long time and not for a good reason you dont want that...

on the other hand im an idiot so you should probably ask someone else...

My birthday is next week

when is your birthday? 26th by any chance? (aka tomorrow)

 

[Cheezeypoofs]

I'd say yes, but test the waters first. If I knew more about this complicated situation, I could tell you more as I can likely relate to it. Though I would ask for it on the cheek either way, as it is seen as more friendly than romantic and would help out with any awkwardness.

 

[Maxtro]

well i dont know the situation exactly but i think it might be a bad idea ive been to 2 relationships like that (one resolved fine the other one is still going on in this okward status) and i think it will only make things complicated espacialy if its your first kiss youll like it to be something spacial
i know id remember mine for a long time and not for a good reason you dont want that...

on the other hand im an idiot so you should probably ask someone else...

My birthday is next week

when is your birthday? 26th by any chance? (aka tomorrow)

Nope, Tuesday the 30th, which is also the second day of the semester. Most likely we'll just be on campus as I have a night class.

I'd say yes, but test the waters first. If I knew more about this complicated situation, I could tell you more as I can likely relate to it. Though I would ask for it on the cheek either way, as it is seen as more friendly than romantic and would help out with any awkwardness.

For some reason, a cheek kiss seems even more awkward.

We're both adults, I won't settle for anything less than tongue, lol. Probably not

 

[Project_Omega]

My birthday is next week and I'm getting old

Anyways, I'm going to be spending time with a female friend that knows I like her. What's between us is complicated and I'm not going to get into it here.

I'll just say that were pretty good friends, and I spent the day with her last week on what some people would call a date, but wasn't really.

I'm thinking about jokingly asking her for a kiss. I'm pretty sure she'll say no, but it's still worth a shot and I can play it off as being innocent yet still flirty.

Good idea, terrible idea?

Anybody done something like it before?

Edit: Added more detail

Life is short.

A Kiss is short.

I think it wouldn't hurt.

 

[GraveeKing]

Ask for a kiss down low while you're at it. It's your birthday dammit! Even if she says no she can't hold it against you for asking it is your birthday after all! Not going to hurt trying is it?