Poll: Asking for a kiss on your birthday.

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Smooth Operator

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Phasmal said:
A simple conversation of `I like you, do you like me/will you go out with me?` would probably save a lot of hassle.
So you switch it from an innocent birthday kiss to putting her on the spot requesting a relationship, unless she has already firmly decided that is what she wants it will backfire something fierce.
And there is no "I was just kidding" option in that scenario.

EDIT: Also, this isn't the middle ages, loads of women make the first move.
Oh yes the number is much higher then in the middle ages, it is probably up to a full 1%
 

Dogstile

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Are you good friends?

I mean, shit, I kiss my friends all the time. Only restrictions I have is they have to be single and its gotta be a friend kiss. Just ask with a jokey tone and smile, it'll be fine.
 

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Cheshire the Cat said:
Yup, because nothing turns girls on like desperate and subtly manipulative attempts to guilt em into physical contact.
It will go badly for you brother. Just ask the chick out like a man.
Exactly this. Just ask the girl out sometime after your birthday like a normal person. Asking for a kiss at a moment like that will make things awkward, so don't do it. Seriously, just don't.
 

Phasmal

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Mr.K. said:
Phasmal said:
A simple conversation of `I like you, do you like me/will you go out with me?` would probably save a lot of hassle.
So you switch it from an innocent birthday kiss to putting her on the spot requesting a relationship, unless she has already firmly decided that is what she wants it will backfire something fierce.
And there is no "I was just kidding" option in that scenario.
She already knows he likes her.
I seriously doubt `I was kidding` will work if she's freaked out.
Speaking from experience, its better when a guy is honest with his feelings instead of `subtly` trying to get with her.
 

Kukakkau

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Knows you like her and you spent time together that others called a date but you're both adamant it wasn't?

I'd say don't bother seems like she's put up the friend shield
 

RabbidKuriboh

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if there's a pause after you ask just laugh and say " only joking!", GUARANTEE "get out of awkward situation free card"
 

MordinSolus

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Maxtro said:
My birthday is next week and I'm getting old :(

Anyways, I'm going to be spending time with a female friend that knows I like her. What's between us is complicated and I'm not going to get into it here.

I'll just say that were pretty good friends, and I spent the day with her last week on what some people would call a date, but wasn't really.

I'm thinking about jokingly asking her for a kiss. I'm pretty sure she'll say no, but it's still worth a shot and I can play it off as being innocent yet still flirty.

Good idea, terrible idea?

Anybody done something like it before?

Edit: Added more detail
Go for it, bro. And if you think it's a bad idea, remember this: That's all in your head. It's all mental. Sometimes, you have to shoot your mind in the face and go with your gut feeling.
 

MGlBlaze

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Seems like a bad idea, but I guess if you're really set on it then you may as well go for it.
 

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If you have to ask people online so they can convince you it's not as bad of an idea as you really, deep down, know it is, you shouldn't do it.
 

Smooth Operator

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Phasmal said:
Speaking from experience, its better when a guy is honest with his feelings instead of `subtly` trying to get with her.
Really now :D
You prefer it when the guy skips the flirting part and just drops the love bomb demanding a response?
 

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Dude, if a single guy and a single girl keep seeing each other in "date-like" situations and they're not confirmed childhood friends, something is always up. They're either into each other and just a little gun-shy, or only one of them is and the other knows. Because the situation that she isn't into you and she believes you are not into her - that doesn't happen. Unless you are said childhood friends. Guys and girls of sexual active age don't just get together as platonic friends. They LAND there. Either because they're both gun-shy for too long or because eventually the unlucky one gets shot down (or lands voluntarily).

You said she "knows". Well, depending on what she really "knows" and what you just think she does, you're likely preparing to get shot down. Which is cool. If she doesn't want you by now, she won't in the forseeable future. Making a move won't spoil anything. I know this is often a fear in these situations. You'll save yourself a lot of heart-ache getting shot down now, instead of landing, i.e. finally giving up in a few years.

Asking for a birthday kiss is sweet, if you sell it right. If she's not into you, it'll make for less awkwardness than asking her out on a date - which you'd have to be pretty straightforward about after having been on these "not dates". In which case she'd have to be pretty straightforward about not going further.
 

ImprovizoR

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Don't. It will make you look pathetic. Instead, ask her if she'd like to spend that day with you. Go eat some ice-cream or a cake and go for a drink. If you show her that you're willing to spend your birthday with just her, she has to feel a bit special. It's your best bet to get her IMO.
 

Smallells

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Nope. No no no no no no, noooooooo.

Yes, at a party, if you're both drunk and you want some fun. No, if you there's even a slight chance that you want this to pan out in the future. Otherwise, it's just a moment that will suck the romance out of all the similiar future moments.

Ask her out, or leave it be.
Alternatively, hire a hooker. Oh right, they don't guess on the lips do they?
 

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6_Qubed said:
I am, however, learning that CHA may not have been my dump stat this whole time.
Best Nerdy gamer quote i've seen all week! and go for it, you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain... and go for birthday sex if it leads to it, but don't push her too far if she agrees and you two end up making out like two horny teenagers on your couch
 

Phasmal

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Mr.K. said:
Phasmal said:
Speaking from experience, its better when a guy is honest with his feelings instead of `subtly` trying to get with her.
Really now :D
You prefer it when the guy skips the flirting part and just drops the love bomb demanding a response?
Haha, asking someone on a date isn't the same as demanding a relationship and declaring undying love.
EDIT: But yes, cause then if they're a creep they can go away :)