xxhazyshadowsxx said:
(Let me just go on the record by stating: I do not like Dr. Phil. If anything, just watch the introduction to this. Specifically the part where she states "I don't know how to stop her from actually doing it." Simple solution: No car, no phone, nobody dies. Easy.)
"Short of taking it away from her, I don't know how to stop her from actually doing it."
FUCKING TAKE IT AWAY!
Jesus that is a lazy mother. Hopefully the daughter will die and the mom can learn her lesson and raise the next kid better.
This is a topic I tend to get heated and mean on. I am sick and tired of lazy-assed parents catering to their kids. Don't these people realize that their job, nay, their DUTY is to raise and be responsible for these kids and turn them into people they themselves would want to associate with? Our society (sorry, WESTERN society)is constantly telling parents that children shouldn't have negative discipline. That hitting a child is wrong. That positive bribery is fine. That it's ok to leave the kid alone for hours watching tv, because hey, it's rated G and that's just fine with them.
NO! Stop spoiling your children. Stop teaching them they're entitled little twats that should have everything catered to them, and if they happen to fail at something....THEN THEY ARE A FAILURE! The stupid self-esteem movement that has been circulating in America for the past few decades is one of the major reasons why things have become shit socially. Telling someone that they are the "Last Winner" instead of the loser they were doesn't build a solid individual. It's what has been lowering the standards the last few decades, trying to make everyone feel special when they aren't.
Kids are nothing more than miniature versons of the people YOU see walking the streets. Do you think any of THEM are special? Kids are just like everyone else, a few smart and successful, and a whole lot of losers. And parents don't seem to be preparing their kids for that eventuality.
And why should they? THEY grew up thinking they were special and entitled too. Which is why the mortgage industry took such a huge hit. "You mean I was supposed to PAY! But, the money went to my new home that I can't even afford to furnish without using my Visa but I know I deserve to have this wonderful 3 bedroom house in the suburbs with just me and my spouse and our wonderful golden retriever and our pikanese." FUCK YOU you selfish, entitled, law-suit happy, overly arrogant, standard lowering yuppie wannabe pieces of crap.
Raise your kids to be the people you want to be proud of, the kind of people you would hang with and be their friend. But DON'T be your kid's friend! If they do something wrong, punish them. Tell them WHY they are being punished.
Have them buy their own shit. No, not when they're two, but once they hit the age where they can do things like babysit and mow the neighbor's lawn, make them spend their money on that videogame they want. Force them to have a job when they hit 16 and want to drive. Make them pay for that cell phone they use. Teach them to be PERSONALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS, a phrase most kids don't recognize unless it pops up in the SAT.