Poll: Did your parents hit you?
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One we had to flee from, the other screamed, yelled and threatened so much it was pretty much the same as being beaten, a.k.a. verbal abuse.
Personally, I see it as a sign of good parenting as long as it isn't done in anger. It teaches children that doing what their parents told them not to do will result in pain. Therefore, they learn to be obediant. Therefore you are in control of them. It teaches them respect for authority and a good life leason in the consquences for breaking 'the law' so to speak.TheDuckbunny said:
Not beating your kids = never learning the consequences for doing something wrong = out of control kid (not in all cases, I imagine you're quite normal).
The idea that you can reason with young children is often laughably naive.
When I was a little shit, my Dad would punch me (although sometimes I threw the first punch and he had no choice). However, he always taught me to fight back, forgetting to mention he was exempt. So while I've walked away crying and bruised, so has he. Christ, once I swung a golf club at him. I was a right wee bastard. Still, it never felt like abuse, it was just his way of dealing with an arse like what I was. Now I'm a decent person.
And that's what we need these days. A bit of fear in children. The reason we hear about 10 year olds running riot is, I believe, because they have literally no fear of authority. Consider this: from the ages of 0 to about 10, your most formative years, the biggest authority figures are your parents and teachers.
With parents unable to deliver more than a stern talking-to, and teachers now afraid to even touch their charges, the wee shites have grown up in a culture where they have literally nothing to fear. With the world wrapping them up in cotton wool, no wonder they do as they please.
I'm not advocating beatings. Just a wee nip across the top of the ear is enough to stop a child misbehaving.
And that's what we need these days. A bit of fear in children. The reason we hear about 10 year olds running riot is, I believe, because they have literally no fear of authority. Consider this: from the ages of 0 to about 10, your most formative years, the biggest authority figures are your parents and teachers.
With parents unable to deliver more than a stern talking-to, and teachers now afraid to even touch their charges, the wee shites have grown up in a culture where they have literally nothing to fear. With the world wrapping them up in cotton wool, no wonder they do as they please.
I'm not advocating beatings. Just a wee nip across the top of the ear is enough to stop a child misbehaving.
Mommy AND Daddy issues actually. My mother was the aggressive/screaming/beating one, and my dad was the talk-down-to-you/divorce-your-mom-and-leave-and-never-talk-to-you-again one.The Hairminator said:
Good times, good times.
What? I have always though of Scandinavia as a whole as being a pretty idyllic place to live in, but this is pathetic.chstens said:
My parents occasionally hit me when I was very bad, and if that helped teach me the difference between right and wrong and made me a better person, then good. Though when I was about 7 I kind of felt sorry for my mum, as her smacks had stopped hurting.
So youre thinking that I havent already lifted my hand to my father when he threatened to hit me. Lol believe what you wantMechanix said:
I so wish that the various European politicians would stop trying to score points with the sissy-arse liberals and stop interfering in our lives... It's not like any of THEM are model citizens who should be emulated in every way!Legion said:
If they keep this up, in 10 years time they'll be telling us which brand of soda we're allowed to buy! Or more likely, that we're not allowed to buy soda - because it's so bad for your health. Or something.
And we're letting them get away with it! Time we all started voting for PEOPLE rather than for politicians. I'm becoming more certain with every day that they're different species.
OT: My parents believed in corporal punishment. I firmly believe I turned out better than I would have without it. If the wife and I ever have kids, they're going to get it too. Legal or not.
yeah my parents spanked me and because of that im not one of those dick heads who talks back to authority just because i think im cool
If I was really bad, but my brother's the one who needs it. That little tyrant has punched my mother on many occasions, If I ever did that then my ass would be spread over every wooden spoon in the house. I was the good child, but also the first one, therefore my parents were very careful and made sure that I was punished if necessary. My brother is the opposite AND he is ADD. my life is wrecked by him.
well my father was a crazy drunk and would beat me up for pretty much anything, but well besides the point i never had any bad results from it (besides an enduring awkwardness with my father). im not a violent person and never was a bully or bullied. however he used to try to hit my sisters too and it did make me a lot more protective or defensive of women which i dont really see as a bad thing. All in all if i can deal with my kid without hitting...great and if i cant then spanking time lol.
Depends on how bad I was, saying something mean would get me a slap across the face, doing something bad got me a spanking and talking back got me black and blue. The worst part was when my brother and I got into fights (they were pretty one sided since he was 3 years older) my mom would hit both of us afterwords and said "it takes two to fight". So I not only was beaten by my brother but also my mother afterwords. Usually my brother would hit me for stupid things like breathing to hard or not being his slave.
Today if I start doing something bad all my mom has to do is raise her hand and I'll stop. My dad never hit me and often had to pull my mom off be if she went beyond discipline.
Today if I start doing something bad all my mom has to do is raise her hand and I'll stop. My dad never hit me and often had to pull my mom off be if she went beyond discipline.
Oh Yeah I got Hit when I screwed up. It was always 10xs worse if he got the belt stuck when he was pulling it off too. But It kept me in line and I believe it was necessary. Children get away with everything these days. If they get in trouble, they sit the kid in time out... What is that really gonna do? They say there are studies shown that spanking your kids messes them up psychologically farther down the road. Im fine. My Boss is fine. All my friends are fine. My dad is fine... I don't think it does any harm.
No, never. My parents know how to raise a child without using physical punishment (my mom is a kindergarden teacher in a montessori school) so I turned out fine and dandy. Also, I live in Sweden where people who hit their children are considered to be drunken serial rapists. btw most people here turn out fine, we have some assholes but not nearly as much violence in school as other countries have.
When you hit your child, you teach them that violence is okay if you don't think that the other guy is right.
btw: I'm not saying that smacking your child when they screw up doesn't work. I'm just saying that it makes children hide things from their parents and take out their frustrations on others as they are afraid of arguing with their parents. we don't need to live in a world where people follow rules out of fear.
When you hit your child, you teach them that violence is okay if you don't think that the other guy is right.
btw: I'm not saying that smacking your child when they screw up doesn't work. I'm just saying that it makes children hide things from their parents and take out their frustrations on others as they are afraid of arguing with their parents. we don't need to live in a world where people follow rules out of fear.
I was spanked once when I tried to run out in a road, and backhanded when I was 5 for backtalking my grandmother. Let me put it this way I am 30 and I still fear my grandmother. There are times when a child needs one swift smack on the bottom. Only use it when its the only way to get through and never punish in anger.
My father was in the military since he was 17, and was used to structure and discipline, so naturally, a little boy was the opposite of that, and I incurred some pretty nice beatings (belt, open palm mind you). I don't hold it against him, though, I think all kids need a good smack if they step over certain lines, such as cursing at their parents.
I think the whole liberal ideology of "child abuse" when it comes to a smack on the hand is nothing short of INSANITY... I also think child-rearing should be treated as religion, to each his own... as long as you aren't striking your kid in the face with a frying pan because he chewed with his mouth open, I think most people know the limits and don't ever push them.
I think the whole liberal ideology of "child abuse" when it comes to a smack on the hand is nothing short of INSANITY... I also think child-rearing should be treated as religion, to each his own... as long as you aren't striking your kid in the face with a frying pan because he chewed with his mouth open, I think most people know the limits and don't ever push them.
Yes, my parents used to hit me when they were displeased with my behaviour. As they did with two of my sisters. It was usually on the arms, although once or twice they may have struck us on the head. Despite the fact that they stopped when I was seven, I can still quite vividly recall a few times when I was hit. It's not so much the physical pain that stands out but the sheer terror I felt when I knew I was going to be hit and the emotional pain of having your parents apparrently turn on you (which is kind of how it looks to a young child).
To those who claim that being hit didn't harm them in any way, I would suggest that the fact that they now consider hitting children to be perfectly acceptable behaviour is harm enough.
To those who claim that being hit didn't harm them in any way, I would suggest that the fact that they now consider hitting children to be perfectly acceptable behaviour is harm enough.