Poll: Did your parents hit you?

[Zorg Machine]

Depends on how bad I was, saying something mean would get me a slap across the face, doing something bad got me a spanking and talking back got me black and blue. The worst part was when my brother and I got into fights (they were pretty one sided since he was 3 years older) my mom would hit both of us afterwords and said "it takes two to fight". So I not only was beaten by my brother but also my mother afterwords. Usually my brother would hit me for stupid things like breathing to hard or not being his slave.

Today if I start doing something bad all my mom has to do is raise her hand and I'll stop. My dad never hit me and often had to pull my mom off be if she went beyond discipline.

I can't tell if you think this was a good thing or a bad thing.
If that was my mother, I would have resented her and probably not spoken to her until she lay on her death-bed.

 

[manaman]

Oh yeah, my mom would smack me around if I went too far. It made me the level headed serial rapist I am to ... forget I said that.

You didn't say it. You typed it. With the ability to read over it. If you didn't want to make a statement you wouldn't have posted that. If you really had second thoughts about posting it you would have edited it.

You are more then entitled to your opinion, but you should probably working on not belittling another's opinion while making your stance vague, and then ask people to over look it. It just comes across as childish and petty, and you know what? It does more to reinforce the OPs statement than your own.

I...what?

If that was supposed to be funny, I don't get it.

OT: No. Unless you count 'light swipes with a magazine' as hitting.

Does it look like it was supposed to be funny? And I don't ask that sarcastically. I didn't mean that statement as funny, I sometimes point out how absurd people are being, and that was all I was doing there.

 

[Lexodus]

Oh yeah, my mom would smack me around if I went too far. It made me the level headed serial rapist I am to ... forget I said that.

You didn't say it. You typed it. With the ability to read over it. If you didn't want to make a statement you wouldn't have posted that. If you really had second thoughts about posting it you would have edited it.

You are more then entitled to your opinion, but you should probably working on not belittling another's opinion while making your own slightly vague stance, and then ask people to over look it. It just comes across as childish and petty, and you know what? It does more to reinforce the OPs statement than your own.

I can't tell if you're joking. Are you joking?

OT: Yeah, but I'm not going into any more than that

 

[blaze2142]

I was beaten when I did something bad/annoyed my parents.
But when it was over we went out and I got a new toy.

 

[Lexodus]

Oh yeah, my mom would smack me around if I went too far. It made me the level headed serial rapist I am to ... forget I said that.

You didn't say it. You typed it. With the ability to read over it. If you didn't want to make a statement you wouldn't have posted that. If you really had second thoughts about posting it you would have edited it.

You are more then entitled to your opinion, but you should probably working on not belittling another's opinion while making your stance vague, and then ask people to over look it. It just comes across as childish and petty, and you know what? It does more to reinforce the OPs statement than your own.

I...what?

If that was supposed to be funny, I don't get it.

OT: No. Unless you count 'light swipes with a magazine' as hitting.

Does it look like it was supposed to be funny? And I don't ask that sarcastically. I didn't mean that statement as funny, I sometimes point out how absurd people are being, and that was all I was doing there.

Jesus Christ, you were serious. Or a troll. You depress me, with your total inability to read sarcasm and dark humour.

 

[Queen Michael]

Oh yes. If I misbehaved I got a good skelping for it... and so will my kids (if I heave any). It didn't do me any harm in the long run.

You just now freely admitted that you intend to treat your own children violently. Many people, me included, would argue that giving you that view of punishment through violence can be called harm in the long run.

As far as I know, there are no statistics that clearly show children behaving much worse when they aren't physically punished. Rather, when parents never beat their kids it shows that those parents firmly believe in non-violence.

 

[AndyFromMonday]

My grandparents would beat me for the most insignificant of things (For e.g. I stayed on the computer for one hour more than I was allowed to and got a spanking or when my studying interfered with my grandfathers daily news watching).

My mum thought the best way to deal with a child was also spanking and proceeded to do so up every time I dared to point a flaw with her character or if I wouldn't act like her boyfriend was the only thing that mattered in my life.

I was also spanked whenever I'd be upset over not being allowed to go outside (and this wasn't a case of coming home late, this was a case of not being allowed out of the goddamn house until I was 13)

This all stopped due to my own accord the moment I reached the age of 14. I showed a big fuck you to my mum when she'd try the same tactics like before and a big go fuck yourself to my grandparents whenever they'd try to enter the equation. My mum ended up going for "punishments" like no pocket money but that hardly did any good since I was an avid fan of stealing from her purse whenever she thought the money my dad sent me was better put to use paying for a fucking TV she barely ever used and a goddamn bigger appartment she didn't need.

Did I mention how both my parents thought friends didn't matter, family should be everything for me, criticizing your parents was a "mortal sin" and should be punishable by forcing said critic into a mental institution and my free time should be spent reading books to become more cultured?

I always have and always will hate this family.

 

[Skuffyshootster]

Oh yeah, my mom would smack me around if I went too far. It made me the level headed serial rapist I am to ... forget I said that.

You didn't say it. You typed it. With the ability to read over it. If you didn't want to make a statement you wouldn't have posted that. If you really had second thoughts about posting it you would have edited it.

You are more then entitled to your opinion, but you should probably working on not belittling another's opinion while making your stance vague, and then ask people to over look it. It just comes across as childish and petty, and you know what? It does more to reinforce the OPs statement than your own.

I...what?

If that was supposed to be funny, I don't get it.

OT: No. Unless you count 'light swipes with a magazine' as hitting.

Does it look like it was supposed to be funny? And I don't ask that sarcastically. I didn't mean that statement as funny, I sometimes point out how absurd people are being, and that was all I was doing there.

How was he belittling anyone's opinion? It was obvious he was just trying to be funny.

You know, I think you're just fucking with me...

 

[tjarne]

As far as I remember, only once. And that was when I hit my sister for no reason.

 

[Dr. Crawver]

only once, when I opened the car door on a roundabout

 

[Troublesome Lagomorph]

A couple of times
Twice because of misunderstandings and once for embarrassing my dad.
I stayed out of trouble, but sometimes trouble came to me... and other times I was framed.
But yeah, I was almost never hit and I was only ever hit by my dad.

 

[Zorg Machine]

I was on the receiving end of a fair amount of corporal punishment, seeing as to my dad it was the only way to reprimand, same way as his parents had done to him.

I understand getting a smack for swearing at an adult, or breaking something deliberately or being a smart ass. I used to get a smack if I made a cup of tea wrong or folded clothes incorrectly.

I don't count it as abuse, ok it has messed with me a bit, confidence wise I found it best to stay quiet and stay out the way, so I've brought that into adult life with me but seeing how many of my peers in school have turned out, it was probably for the best.
*snipp*

Getting a smack for swearing at an adult is something I can understand (though I would never associate myself with someone who did it on a regular basis) but getting a smack for making a cup of tea the wrong way... that's fu**ed up. Becoming quiet and staying out of the way is probably linked to emotional trauma and seems to be the reason why people hit their children, to get the "children should be seen but not heard effect. The one that turns numerous people into emotional wrecks and is associated with people lacking a sense of creativity and passion.

On a side note: I don't understand why people think it is a good thing to smack a child who talks back. I am possibly the best debater in my school and I would never have gotten the self-confidence and abilities if I hadn't been able to have arguments with my parents. Most people who are physically punished as children usually get self-confidence by establishing physical domination over others.

 

[Pm0n3y]

I just read a thread about 10 to 12-year-olds acting acting all tough and messing around with older kids and I couldn't help but wonder, didn't their parents hit them? I always knew that if I fucked up, my dad would be all over me like stank on shit. Corporal punishment seems to be a dying trend with parents today. Do parents just not hit their kids anymore? Mine sure did, but I really needed it. I want to hear from you on this one.
-Note: I'm not talking about child abuse here, I'm talking about you misbehaving and your parents hitting you as a punishment. Please, don't say anything bad about 'old school' parents here, we don't need this kind of hate here.

Ohhhh yeah, My mom (and several other female family members) used to kick my ass all the time.
One time, my mom hit me in the face with a belt buckle at full velocity, and I blacked out!
Another time, she literally kicked my ass! Straight up the ass, with a closed-toe stiletto! My stomach was hurting for the rest of that day!
Some may find that a bit abusive, but to me, it was just everyday life. And it made be a better man for it.

(...though my stomach still hurts from time to time.)

 

[Lord Beautiful]

When I fucked up badly, I did get smacked. Thank God.

 

[Windowmaker4444]

My parents knew when I was out of line and looking back I deserved it. When the beating has no backing then its wrong but to controll a child it's a good thing we mastered the back of the hand.

 

[manaman]

Jesus Christ, you were serious. Or a troll. You depress me, with your total inability to read sarcasm and dark humour.

I have been around off and on here for nearly three years. Trolling is the least likely action here.

That wasn't dark humor. Sarcasm sure, but that is about it.

0.0

Huh? I think you're reading way too much in to that post I made. Like, way too much.

Probably.

Still the OP asked for some serious discussion on the subject, and you barge in with a weighted sarcastic comment, that you pass off as a joke.

 

[Bourne]

So you didn't curse at your parents because you respected them or because you thought that it was a bad thing to do, you didn't curse at them because you was afraid of your father hitting you with a belt? Over here, almost nobody would dream of belting their child. It's what they did in the middle ages because people didn't know how to communicate with their children in any other way than the fist.

It is nice to see that even this forum is not above having users who decide to inject their own meaning into others' posts.

I am not sure Medieval children were beaten with belts, and I am also not sure doing something in the Middle Ages makes it archaic or evil... they drank beer in the Middle Ages, they ate pork in the Middle Ages, men had sex with women in the Middle Ages, well, you get my point (I hope).

Having a lesson "spanked" into isn't the creation of some fearful Pavlovian response to a behavior, it is a wake-up call that if something you have done could incur such a punishment, there must really be something fundamentally wrong with it. Time spent alone after a spanking was often the most cathartic for me at a young age, because I was trying to understand what could make the only two people in the world I had loved want to physically hurt me, and I always came to the conclusion it was because what I had done was truly bad, which, 99% of the time, it was.

So, to answer your question, no, I didn't stop cursing at my parents out of fear, I did it out of respect and understanding for the purpose of the punishment and the consequences of the behavior.