Poll: Do You Believe in True Love?

[The Man Who Is Thursday]

The cynical bastard in me says "no," and I could cite failed marriages everywhere to prove it.

However, the religious part of me says "yes." So I am sort of caught in a bind. Most love seems to fail or not be "true," so the question as to whether it's even worth it always springs to mind. Maybe we should just give up. One thing I always find helpful, however, is this quote from CS Lewis:

To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket- safe, dark, motionless, airless--it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.

I think there's a lot of wisdom in that. It's a state that I'd like to avoid...but...eh... this post is far too long.

 

[Uilleand]

Believe it and living it.

Even before I met my husband, I knew true love existed because I see it in my parents. After 30 years together, they can't be in a room together without touching. They're crazy, artistic, creative people who have supported each other's dreams and gone through some horrible stuff together (Almost lost my sister in a car accident when she was 5 years old, my mother's diagnosis of a brain tumour 2 years ago, etc.) Even if I didn't necessarily believe that true love was something that was meant for *me*...I did know it existed, and wasn't about to settle for anything less.
Thankfully....I met my husband seven years ago and understood what it would be like to spend the rest of my life being cherished and protected...and to want someone's happiness more than anything else in the world. So, I've got a few decades before I catch up to my parents...but I'm looking forward to the ride...

EDIT: OK...one thing I think I need to add here...just for clarity. When I met my husband, I was old enough to have had my heart SMASHED INTO PASTE more than once. So, I'm not coming to this discussion with a lifetime of gumdrops and rainbows. I'd been engaged before, and dropped when his family disapproved of me. I've travelled the world with a man and been abandoned on the other side of the world. I *KNOW* what it's like to be betrayed. But now, in this life-space I'm in, I feel like writing thank-you cards to all the jackasses who made me miserable back then - for two reasons. Firstly, for leaving, so I could be free to meet this man I'm so in love with now. Secondly, for teaching me just how RARE a good man is, and to thoroughly appreciate this gift.

 

[Whistler777]

True love is a farce perpetuated by countless media outlets to give the hopeless public a prayer for the future.

 

[SeventySeven]

I am going to be the dick here (I apoligise in advance)but it is my view that soo many teenagers delude themselves into thinking they are in love (Okay delude sounds harsh, but srsly guys). I have heard people who were going out for 2 weeks talk about how inlove they were. Maybe it is because most (not all) teenagers lack the experience in the area (experience does not mean sex -_-) or are just not mature enough to understand the emotion. I truly believe love only happens a few times in a lifetime, so then why are there so many people my age claiming to be inlove? because we have no idea what it is.

Don't be sad dude, while 2 years is a long time there is probably the girl still out there who you will love when you are ready to know what true love.

I think teens are so ready to be in adult relationships they mistake many emotions for love, I don't know though, I have never been in a real relationship so feel free to prove me wrong!

 

[SovietSecrets]

Say whatever you want, but true love is real. When you think you might of found it and turns out you didn't, just keep holding on. You will find that one person. I like to be optimistic bout such things.

 

[traceur_]

No, it's a stupid idea. Some people are just more suited to you than others.

 

[Valiance]

Depends what you call 'true love.'

 

[internetzealot1]

Biologically speaking, its unfeasible. It is a basic urge to want to mate with as many different people as possible, in order to create a diverse human population that will have a better chance at surviving a catastrophe.

 

[crudus]

Do you believe in true love? Do you think that there is a one and only for you?

Please define your parameters for "true love" since everyone's definition is different. As far are the "only one person for everyone" goes, I think it is total crap. Think about the small percentage of women you met in your lifetime. I am going to be generous and say 1% for simplicity. Now, you don't think that you couldn't have met another "true love" in another 1% or another? (don't try to make the "no true Scotsman" fallacy, btw)

 

[Fortesque]

Certainly do. Had my first love at the age of 12. Im now almost 19 and will be 6yr Anniversary in about a week.

So, Yes. I believe in true love and love at first sight.

 

[JaredXE]

No. True love implies a mystical connection, something that simply doesn't exist. 6.7 Billion people in the world folks, you think that you can find your one perfect soul-mate?


Let me have threepio run the odds........

 

[Littaly]

I don't believe in love... at least not for me

 

[Seanchaidh]

Yes, with a qualification: I don't believe in singular true love (that there is one and only one person for whoever.) I believe that anyone can have an experience of true love if they find someone with whatever it is that causes it for them. It's a mysterious subject, at least for me.

 

[Void(null)]

Isn't all love true, until it ends?

I believe in pheromones, I believe in survival of the species, I believe in the selfish gene, and I believe in the advertising machine forcing an image of romance down peoples throats for hundreds of years.

 

[Canadian Fodder]

Love is the intelligent form of lust in my opinion.

 

[goatzilla8463]

Sorry, I don't believe in Disney.

 

[Madaxeman101]

nothing lasts forever i believe someone once said. and love is one of those things. humans seem like they were built to screw and move on(literally)

human nature is a *****

 

[Triple G]

I believe there is at least one person there who is "the one" for me, I believe in true love.