Poll: Do you have a girlfriend?

[Thwarted]

used to, then I had a fiance and now I have a wife. funny that

 

[SarahSyna]

I wish, but never have. I seem to mostly fall for guys with long hair though. Does that count?

 

[SimuLord]

There's only one girl I'm having sex with currently, so I guess that's as good as a relationship. I'm not committed long-term though---need to meet the "right" girl for that (and I'm taking applications...)

Used to be married. It was very Shakespearean. Could've been titled "Taming of the Shrew."

 

[Cpt_Oblivious]

No I don't.
You heard it here first ladies! I'm single!

 

[superbleeder12]

Don't have one, don't have the time currently. 42 hour work weeks, 15 credit hours of school leaves me with little time to do anything.

That and I get the boring days of tuesday and thursday off.

 

[JokerCrowe]

I'm working on it!! GOD!
Seriously, no... but I am working on it.
Wait... i think I've answered this one before...

 

[Grayjack]

Never had, and probably never will.

I'm going to assume you're a girl or a homosexual, otherwise thats just sad, not wanting a girlfriend.

I'm a guy, and heterosexual. I'm just not interested in getting a girlfriend.

 

[DomM]

I'm 26, I've never had a girlfriend (aside from one unfortunate incident which I'm not going to talk about here) and I doubt I ever will. It's not that I'm not interested or anything (and I have loads of female friends) but I'm just a bit useless. Let me illustrate: A close female friend of mine got horribly drunk on her birthday and 'invited me back to hers' (I'm paraphrasing, she was much more straightforward). I walked her home, made sure she got to bed OK and bade her good night. Several months later, after she got engaged to someone else it emerged that she really fancied me and she'd only got so drunk in order to say so... Admittedly that was my most epic failure, but it gives you some sort of idea of the disaster area I am when it comes to relationships.

 

[acosn]

Don't be a dick. He was just looking for advice. Your not gonna fit in the Escapist if you keep acting like such an asshat. And being a prick to women isn't a good idea under any circumstances. ESPECIALLY if your trying to ask them out.

Oh dear someone seems to misunderstand me on all levels. It's cool, just don't go calling names.

Lets go from the top, with in depth analysis!

You must be like water.

This is good advice anywhere. No, seriously. It is. It is better to be smooth and serene, and only respond when first taken action against.

No, seriously. Shut up, stop trying to be the unique and beautiful little snowflake. If you really do feel that way about her be upfront. Worst thing that can happen is that she says no. If that's really so devastating for you its entirely possible that you're not ready. Do not go for the "be friends first, then take it further" approach. It can work, but typically that just leaves room for someone else to swoop in.

This too, is good advice. Don't try to be something you're not, don't try to be "cool" to get her attention. If you're really interested in dating her the "friends first" approach will only give someone else the opportunity to swoop in and leave you in the friend zone forever. You need to make your motives and intentions clear from the get go or it'll be real easy for them to get lost in the scheme of things.

Remember- nice guys finish last here. Don't be the honorable gentleman. Most women understand that they have their pick of men. Its really easy for them to figure out who likes them enough but doesn't have the balls to ask them out.

See above. Nice guys finish last, and when I say "nice guys" I mean the person who tries to play by non-existent rules. "Oh, you want to date her? Ok, I'll back off." is what I'm thinking of. Don't be the guy who never takes the chance because you don't want to make someone else mad. You must have a willingness to break a few eggs. You do not want to be the type that's just a general asshole though. It'll attract all the wrong types.

Just the same there's certain women you want to be careful of. They know they have their choice of men, and they're going to play that "game" With you where you find yourself single, manipulated and feeling generally stupid a few months later.


Above all else? Remember, you're not even in college yet. Don't get too rushed over it.

 

[thylasos]

'Til about two weeks ago, yeah. Not a messy break-up, mind. Still living with the lass, and we get on just fine.

 

[SecondmateFlint]

Nope. Never had one. I'm 19 for the record. Let the taunting - begin!!

Same here. :/
You got me beat by about 8 months though...

Likewise...

19, Never had a girlfriend...

Although I really was never looking for one in high school...

Damn, I hate being a statistic...

Don't worry about it. I'm 19 and I've never dated (but I'm a chick, which is almost worse!). I also know other girls, who are 19, and have never dated. I keep hoping that maybe with all this bad luck and waiting, that the first relationship I get will be the right one. I'm sure the same will go for you guys too.

I just think it's funny how all of the guys at my college are complaining about how they never get girls when a lot of girls I know are single and pretty willing to go out with almost any guy who asks. It's just funny to me.

The main reason I don't date is that I prefer personality and intellect over looks, which tends to make normal dating difficult. It essentially means that I have to get to know someone fairly well before I would even consider asking them out...

It's pretty much a Catch 22 unless we are introduced through a mutual friend or we work together in school...

Whoa! Most guys are the opposite, they take the "dude she's hot, I'd do her." approach (least the guys I know...). I can definitely respect that though. I'm sure once everyone gets older and more mature, it will be easier for you to find someone. I know with me it's been easier to find guy friends I have a potential with (some of them are pretty good lookin' too, along with an awesome personality). I think it's all about maturity and people are finally starting to grow up.

It'll come, Sakurazaki, it'll come...

Yeah... It's no wonder that every male stereotype involves us not using the correct brain for decision making...

It's just a shame that popular culture favors the beautiful and brain-dead. But then again, many girls find arrogance attractive and I fail to understand that either...

Too true, my friend, too true. I think it's all about image? People are concerned with being a "good looking couple." I must admit, I am too, but that won't stop me if I find someone I really like. Plus a lot of it is genetics. In the days of cavemen, the most attractive males/females probably had the best genes. It's only natural.

Either way, I don't understand finding arrogant guys attractive. They actually really annoy me.

I'm really not sure where that arrogant=attractive thing came from, but it may have something to do with making the person seem more confident. Personally, I find an arrogant personality (whether male or female) to either imply self-confidence issues or just a inflated ego. either way it's not attractive in the least...

I agree 100% with everything said. I can't stand obnoxious people. I live on a dorm floor with all obnoxious people. I know there's a difference, but not much of one. It's probably a little of both: self-confidence issues and an inflated ego. If that makes sense? I like people who are confident, but not arrogant.

Same...
Currently living in a dorm surrounded by 6 rude, loud, arrogant, and egotistical idiots. Not to mention that they always have insane sleep schedules so people are yelling in the halls and slamming doors at 2:00am. I usually ignore them for he most part, but its kind of sad that they fit the stereotype for the XBox Live Fanbase.

All six own and regularly play MW2 and Halo 3 Online (all 360s, no PS3s) and since I'm usually able to hear the cursing from across the hall, I know that they fit every stereotype in the book as far as online gaming is concerned.

Ohhhh that would drive me bonkers. I live on a WoW campus which is nice because those people never come out of their rooms and clog up the walkways.

I live on an all girls floor. Most guys always tell me "that's so cool! How could you hate it???" There are a couple of those obnoxious girls who bring over their obnoxious boyfriends and have sex in our lounge. Just like the people we've been talking about. Come in wasted at 3am. Bah! I'd rather have gamers. 'Course that's easy to say...

 

[atalanta]

I'm really intimidated by pretty girls and have a hard time flirting with them. I've been on a couple of dates, but nothing serious.

I live on an all girls floor. Most guys always tell me "that's so cool! How could you hate it???" There are a couple of those obnoxious girls who bring over their obnoxious boyfriends and have sex in our lounge. Just like the people we've been talking about. Come in wasted at 3am. Bah! I'd rather have gamers. 'Course that's easy to say...

Freshman year I lived above two gamers. I remember having to stagger downstairs to bang on their door at three in the morning because they were playing videogames and SCREAMING at the top of their lungs. It was like living above a bunch of chimpanzees, I swear.

 

[Spinozaad]

Yes, for 1.5 years now. Although we're hitting a small relationship crisis, sadly.

 

[pedrnorth]

Currently have one, going on two years. We're both pretty chill. She likes to hang out with me while I play games although she isn't into anything beyond tetris/bejewelled. I actually prefer that...girls often seem to obsess over games more than guys do. I had a previous girlfriend who was hooked to mmo's and it wasn't very pleasant.

 

[Chancie]

Sorta?

See, I'm 16. So my relationship don't really "count"

Seriously? You're 16? For some reason, I thought you were at least in your 20s or something. xD I guess I was way off.

Anyways, no, and never have. All the guys (bending your poll to apply to me here) in my high school are either jerks or taken. :/ Then again, I have this one friend and with the way she acts...it probably doesn't help my situation. >.>

 

[fanklok]

Nope I'm that lonely guy that's too socially awkward to talk to girls

 

[Sakurazaki1023]

Nope. Never had one. I'm 19 for the record. Let the taunting - begin!!

Same here. :/
You got me beat by about 8 months though...

Likewise...

19, Never had a girlfriend...

Although I really was never looking for one in high school...

Damn, I hate being a statistic...

Don't worry about it. I'm 19 and I've never dated (but I'm a chick, which is almost worse!). I also know other girls, who are 19, and have never dated. I keep hoping that maybe with all this bad luck and waiting, that the first relationship I get will be the right one. I'm sure the same will go for you guys too.

I just think it's funny how all of the guys at my college are complaining about how they never get girls when a lot of girls I know are single and pretty willing to go out with almost any guy who asks. It's just funny to me.

The main reason I don't date is that I prefer personality and intellect over looks, which tends to make normal dating difficult. It essentially means that I have to get to know someone fairly well before I would even consider asking them out...

It's pretty much a Catch 22 unless we are introduced through a mutual friend or we work together in school...

Whoa! Most guys are the opposite, they take the "dude she's hot, I'd do her." approach (least the guys I know...). I can definitely respect that though. I'm sure once everyone gets older and more mature, it will be easier for you to find someone. I know with me it's been easier to find guy friends I have a potential with (some of them are pretty good lookin' too, along with an awesome personality). I think it's all about maturity and people are finally starting to grow up.

It'll come, Sakurazaki, it'll come...

Yeah... It's no wonder that every male stereotype involves us not using the correct brain for decision making...

It's just a shame that popular culture favors the beautiful and brain-dead. But then again, many girls find arrogance attractive and I fail to understand that either...

Too true, my friend, too true. I think it's all about image? People are concerned with being a "good looking couple." I must admit, I am too, but that won't stop me if I find someone I really like. Plus a lot of it is genetics. In the days of cavemen, the most attractive males/females probably had the best genes. It's only natural.

Either way, I don't understand finding arrogant guys attractive. They actually really annoy me.

I'm really not sure where that arrogant=attractive thing came from, but it may have something to do with making the person seem more confident. Personally, I find an arrogant personality (whether male or female) to either imply self-confidence issues or just a inflated ego. either way it's not attractive in the least...

I agree 100% with everything said. I can't stand obnoxious people. I live on a dorm floor with all obnoxious people. I know there's a difference, but not much of one. It's probably a little of both: self-confidence issues and an inflated ego. If that makes sense? I like people who are confident, but not arrogant.

Same...
Currently living in a dorm surrounded by 6 rude, loud, arrogant, and egotistical idiots. Not to mention that they always have insane sleep schedules so people are yelling in the halls and slamming doors at 2:00am. I usually ignore them for he most part, but its kind of sad that they fit the stereotype for the XBox Live Fanbase.

All six own and regularly play MW2 and Halo 3 Online (all 360s, no PS3s) and since I'm usually able to hear the cursing from across the hall, I know that they fit every stereotype in the book as far as online gaming is concerned.

Ohhhh that would drive me bonkers. I live on a WoW campus which is nice because those people never come out of their rooms and clog up the walkways.

I live on an all girls floor. Most guys always tell me "that's so cool! How could you hate it???" There are a couple of those obnoxious girls who bring over their obnoxious boyfriends and have sex in our lounge. Just like the people we've been talking about. Come in wasted at 3am. Bah! I'd rather have gamers. 'Course that's easy to say...

Likewise, my entire dorm is all male.

As far as the lounge thing is concerned, there isn't really much you can do except pray they do something stupid and are forced into never coming back. Kinda makes me wish more people in my dorm were WOW players, I'm sure it would be a lot quieter...

 

[TheSeventhLoneWolf]

I do indeed.
And somehow, she has put up with my nonsense and whatnot for nearly three years.
She deserves some kind of medal.

Don't be silly, your nonsense belongs here.

On topic: I'm too calm for my own good. It seems to take a tremendous toll on anyone I ever go out with. But yes.

 

[DancePuppets]

Does a girlfriend count if the only ones I've had jumped me? Whenever I ask the question it goes horribly wrong. Good luck with it though Khaiseri.