SugarMama said:
Sparrow said:
My analysis, if you're interested, is as follows.
A person starts as a baby. Babies need to experience the world around them to learn about it. Since babies essentially know nothing (this could turn into a whole other debate, so please just bear with me), they must accept what they don't know, aka what is different. For the sake of argument, I'm going to call this willingness to experience and learn "open-mindedness".
Racism is closed-minded. It is a refusal to accept that which is different. This is the opposite of open-mindedness.
Therefore, people who are racist are not good at being people. So, yes, being racist makes one a bad person.
Well, that's definately one way to look at it. However, I would argue that if your parents lied to you at an early age and told you that racism was a good thing (because, let's be honest, it might not be bad but it's definately not good) it might be their fault opposed to yours.
Regardless of if you are wrong or not, if you think you're right you will act on your feelings as if you are right.
Gingersalt said:
Sparrow said:
The whole thing stemmed from another discussion, where we were talking about how a lot of people who constantly wear clothes that celebrities wear may be inadvertently confomring.
I suppose it makes another point in itself. Those that conform through copying people to get friends because of their self esteem may want acceptance. Those who eat constantly to make themselves feel better, those who self harm, maybe they just want to be understood. Those who don't eat, those who indulge in plastic surgery, maybe they just want to be noticed period.
Of course I can't really comment. I've never been through any of these issues myself, unless you count breaking out a super-duper sized bag of Doritos when you're upset every once in a blue moon.
You know I was thinking last night before I went to sleep (yes I am that sad) maybe people laugh out of fear? Aggression is so commonly associated with racism that maybe someone would just laugh because they didn't want to anger the person making the joke.
I know that if I'm on a bus and some chav/ned guy starts saying stuff to me that they obviously think is funny I just try to laugh along. Maybe it encourages them sure, but I'd rather do that than them pick a fight with me for not agreeing.
Again, I have to agree with you (this is about the third time I've said that, isn't it?). I myself have done that before when I was younger, though it's not happened to me alot now. Whether that's simply because I'm older or because society is changing, I don't know. I'd hope it's a bit of both.
Camembert said:
Sparrow said:
I'm interested as to why you went straight for paedo being the ultimate level of evil. I'm not saying your wrong, not at all. I'm just curious as to why that's your knee jerk reaction. I mean, if a person is attracted to kids but doesn't act on their feelings, does that make them as bad as a racist person that doesn't act on their feelings either?
I suppose it depends which you think is worse.
I've often wondered that... I mean, no one can help who/what they're attracted to, so in cases like that I have to wonder whether we should sympathise with the paedophile. Can you imagine how awful it must be? Feeling that way, yet knowing you must never act upon it, and having the strength not to. It's kind of admirable, really.
I thought that too. I suppose a simpler way to put it would to put it in a different sense. It's like if you're a vampire, and you really want to go about sucking people's blood. If you suck people's blood, society deems you a vampire. But if you don't, are you still a vampire or not?
Maybe it's a childish example to use, but I think it fits perfectly.
afaceforradio said:
Sparrow said:
afaceforradio said:
I know someone who really hates Indiana/Pakistani people for no reason other than 'just cos' but on all other levels he's a really decent bloke who'd really put himself out for others. However, his racism is a character flaw and a massively ignorant side of him. Doesn't make him (as some have said) 'evil' like a paedo or anything.
I'm interested as to why you went straight for paedo being the ultimate level of evil. I'm not saying your wrong, not at all. I'm just curious as to why that's your knee jerk reaction. I mean, if a person is attracted to kids but doesn't act on their feelings, does that make them as bad as a racist person that doesn't act on their feelings either?
I suppose it depends which you think is worse.
A fair point!
However (the way I look at it) racism, although heavily frowned upon, isn't actually an illegal action (I don't mean hate crime here, I mean a dislike of other colours etc - speaking about it in conversation won't get you in trouble, just disliked or argued with) whereas so much as flirting with a minor (or saying 'ooh that little girl over there is something I'd like to blah blah' in a public forum could get you into legal trouble.
I guess it just popped into my head because it's one of the most sick things I can think of that would make me tar someone as 'evil', if that makes sense?
Society seems to think that being a paedo is right up there with rape on the top worse crimes of all time. When both of them happen in one incident, the media has a field day.
But, I saw a pretty interesting thread once where the OP asked if the users would rather be raped or killed. Most of the people in the thread said raped, as they think living would outweigh the feeling of being raped. I don't know what that means in comparison, but it's definately interesting.