Love..... not love. I've been plenty attracted to some girls, but nothing of it. I've never actually had anyone to love. But one thing I do know about it. Is I don't need it like some people to do.
Poll: Ever been in Love?
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Yes. It did nothing but make me weak. What is it about loving someone that makes someone who coped with years of loneliness suddenly dependantcon human interaction, which is bad; humans hurt, humans hate, humans judge, humans kill. You can't trust them not to, at least.
I've no doubt love is great for the evolutionary suitable people: the attractive, unflawed, alpha humans. But I am little more than an abomination. It is impossible that anyone could love me back. All love is to me is taking away my will to defend myself in a world that is offended and angry at my presence in it.
I've no doubt love is great for the evolutionary suitable people: the attractive, unflawed, alpha humans. But I am little more than an abomination. It is impossible that anyone could love me back. All love is to me is taking away my will to defend myself in a world that is offended and angry at my presence in it.
There are a lot of different types of love, so yes. I love my friends dearly and my family even more. As many times as I've been told I'm an idiot for saying it, I'm in love with my girlfriend and I suspect that it's much deeper than puppy love.
When I was younger, I always had hang ups to telling a girl I loved them because I honestly didn't think I did. Love is something that takes time and effort. It doesn't just happen and if it does happen, it doesn't happen in two weeks. A few girls broke up with me because I wouldn't say it, but why would I have? Just saying that one word brings so many new responsibilities and expectations to a relationship that I would never use it casually.
However, I haven't once been unable to to say it to her. She's worth the responsibilities and everything else to me. So, yeah, I've been in love, I am in love, and I hope to always be.
When I was younger, I always had hang ups to telling a girl I loved them because I honestly didn't think I did. Love is something that takes time and effort. It doesn't just happen and if it does happen, it doesn't happen in two weeks. A few girls broke up with me because I wouldn't say it, but why would I have? Just saying that one word brings so many new responsibilities and expectations to a relationship that I would never use it casually.
However, I haven't once been unable to to say it to her. She's worth the responsibilities and everything else to me. So, yeah, I've been in love, I am in love, and I hope to always be.
I'm slowly working through a trial and error process of learning to love/be loved.
For those who care; I voted for the third one. Night at the Roxbury.
For those who care; I voted for the third one. Night at the Roxbury.
I'm glad I get to pick the top option.
Though being 17 people say it's not going to last and I can see where they are coming from, but me and my girlfriend were always thinking long term from the start. Considering we'd do anything for each other and completely happy with each other I'm certain it will work out. Sometimes you just get super lucky
Though being 17 people say it's not going to last and I can see where they are coming from, but me and my girlfriend were always thinking long term from the start. Considering we'd do anything for each other and completely happy with each other I'm certain it will work out. Sometimes you just get super lucky
I'm assuming they broke up with you because you wouldn't say it back? Quite hilarious that they say "I love you" then leave you because you won't say it back. Certainly seems like love.MorsePacific said:
I started dating my current girlfriend when I was seventeen. We have been together nearly four years and are now living together. It can work, but it also IS work.Dark Knifer said:I'm glad I get to pick the top option.
Though being 17 people say it's not going to last and I can see where they are coming from, but me and my girlfriend were always thinking long term from the start. Considering we'd do anything for each other and completely happy with each other I'm certain it will work out. Sometimes you just get super lucky
To me, somebody you are in love with is somebody you hate so, so much, but can't stay away from.
a few times. I finally found 'the one' about 5 years ago she was right in front of me for about 10 years before that. I met her because my friend's girlfriend brought around all the girls from her church youth group. (Oh boy stuck up girls) There was one little firecracker who caught my eye, she had hazel eyes, strawberry blonde hair and well she had to quit gymnastics because her center of gravity shifted too high... if you know what i mean
I walked up to her and said "Hi, don't know if Laura told ya about me" she responded with an exotic accent I never heard before "Ah, yes, you are one of the twins oui? Who are you?"
"OH! Umm I am Thor."
"Oh, I am sorry. I have some aTH'prin in my purse"
I instantly had a crush on her for that wit alone. Alas at the time she had a boyfriend. We both saw each other every now and then at social gatherings one or the other of us always attached though. Never once, not ever did she ever get me and my twin brother mixed up. We could be wearing the exact same thing, same hair cut, everything. She knew when it was me.
At parties her and I always talked and talked.
I assumed she was so flirty because she was French. I found out some time later from my female friends that no, actually she was kind of an ice queen except when I was around. Then I went to a new years eve party and she was there both of us were single, so I said "ya know what we've never really gotten to know each other... we should" She said yes. Our first date I took her to the restaurant my parents went on at the first date. A year later I asked that little french girl to marry me and she said yes.
3 years in October.
Our wedding theme was 'right in front of me'
Couldn't be happier. I'm slowly learning french in secret hoping to surprise her on a birthday or anniversary.
I walked up to her and said "Hi, don't know if Laura told ya about me" she responded with an exotic accent I never heard before "Ah, yes, you are one of the twins oui? Who are you?"
"OH! Umm I am Thor."
"Oh, I am sorry. I have some aTH'prin in my purse"
I instantly had a crush on her for that wit alone. Alas at the time she had a boyfriend. We both saw each other every now and then at social gatherings one or the other of us always attached though. Never once, not ever did she ever get me and my twin brother mixed up. We could be wearing the exact same thing, same hair cut, everything. She knew when it was me.
At parties her and I always talked and talked.
I assumed she was so flirty because she was French. I found out some time later from my female friends that no, actually she was kind of an ice queen except when I was around. Then I went to a new years eve party and she was there both of us were single, so I said "ya know what we've never really gotten to know each other... we should" She said yes. Our first date I took her to the restaurant my parents went on at the first date. A year later I asked that little french girl to marry me and she said yes.
3 years in October.
Our wedding theme was 'right in front of me'
Couldn't be happier. I'm slowly learning french in secret hoping to surprise her on a birthday or anniversary.
My girlfriend is the same as you. She has no friends. She trusts nobody. She hates herself. She avoids all contact with other people. She even speaks like you. She is a unique and amazing individual.Doclector said:
I am sure you have more redeeming features than you know. Feel free to hold disdain for all the people you meet, but bear in mind they are more than they first seem.
Since 14 through to 18. Supposing you can call such hormone-based infatuation love, I assume so. Now it's far less dramatic, but there is a girl that truly understand me and I believe I understand too who I'm very close with, though I doubt I can claim that love.Jewrean said:
Difference would be the desire for sexual romance, without that we would all just be friends.Sariteiya said:
Well you got me confused, where is the difference in that?open trap said:
Well I am 16, I dont think its time yet but I am in love at the moment, as I had said many, many times before in many threads I like my best friend's sister and I have been trying to admit it to him and i think I have exept I havent said it in the right words.
But she is younger then me so I think will be have to wait for a while now.
Well this is going to take a while.
But she is younger then me so I think will be have to wait for a while now.
Well this is going to take a while.
Yes, I think I might have been in love twice. It never worked out either time though... Don't really feel like adding any more detail than that. It is 2:00 in the morning over here, and I am very tired. -_-
LOL@ "What is Love?... baby don't hurt me... don't hurt me... no more".
I am actually laughing out loud right now.
Anyway, for my pick, I picked "Yes, and (still) am". It's not like I still am, I am and I have been in the past and there was a period in which I wasn't in love.
The first time I fell in love was rather rediculous (LONG distance).
The second time I fell in love was a mistake (she completely exchausted every bit of life in me; pushed me away from my friends / parents / schoolwork / anything that I loved, even my greatest passions).
The third time, I wasn't really in love. It felt more like a game and it died a quick and horrible death (I kinda took a break from being myself here for a while).
Right now, I am falling in love. She and I have been talking for ages now and every time I see her we just chat away. Our first date started at 6 PM till 4AM in the morning. Seriously, who dates for 12 hours? Even though we pretty much kissed the last 3 hours. It was awesome. Even though she hardly ever blatantly tells me that she is, I feel that we are attracted to one another. And she's in most conceivable ways the opposite of my second love (they were both girls, though).
tl;dr: SQUEE SQUEE
I am actually laughing out loud right now.
Anyway, for my pick, I picked "Yes, and (still) am". It's not like I still am, I am and I have been in the past and there was a period in which I wasn't in love.
The first time I fell in love was rather rediculous (LONG distance).
The second time I fell in love was a mistake (she completely exchausted every bit of life in me; pushed me away from my friends / parents / schoolwork / anything that I loved, even my greatest passions).
The third time, I wasn't really in love. It felt more like a game and it died a quick and horrible death (I kinda took a break from being myself here for a while).
Right now, I am falling in love. She and I have been talking for ages now and every time I see her we just chat away. Our first date started at 6 PM till 4AM in the morning. Seriously, who dates for 12 hours? Even though we pretty much kissed the last 3 hours. It was awesome. Even though she hardly ever blatantly tells me that she is, I feel that we are attracted to one another. And she's in most conceivable ways the opposite of my second love (they were both girls, though).
tl;dr: SQUEE SQUEE
It´s quite a big difference. You love friends, parents, pets, food, successes in life. You are in love with only one special person.Mr.K. said: