Jewrean said:
In the world of love I myself have become very 'pessimistic'. I'm 24 and have gone out to stupid night clubs, pubs, and various other functions, events, and parties. Every single time I've gone out I'm always looking for Ms. Right. And no I don't have high standards either. But clearly, I'm not good enough for anyone. I'm on the dating websites too and even though I've sent out maybe 60 requests to date (not exaggerating) only a few of them have actually replied with jack all to say to me.
Anyway... my point is... don't waste your breath on me. I'm beyond help. I've come to terms with no one liking me 'that way'.
If I may offer some advice:
Night clubs, pubs (the ones young people visit) and parties are where the party people hang out. No offense to anyone visiting such places or anyone not visiting them. But they're a vastly different crowd then most others.
They're like hardcore gamers in a way. They've got all sorts of things you're supposed to know and if you don't then you're a 'noob' not worth associating with. A hardcore gamer is supposed to know that the cake is a lie, that all your base are belong to us and which exact tanking build a raiding paladin uses etc.
Party people know what certain glances mean, what certain gestures mean and what certain dance movements in certain directions mean. I wouldn't know, I'm not party people. But I know they're there. I've followed enough psychology to know that there's a shitload of non-verbal communication going on that I'm not picking up on. Likely neither are you.
That's no problem though. There's lots of people like you and me who aren't party people. Most of the world in fact. We're the silent majority. What the problem is though is that this non-party people group is not a uniform group (neither are the party people). There's a lot of different groups and interests here.
And from the replies you get at dating sites I'm getting the impression that either you don't know where your values and interests lie or you're insecure about them. And the problem here is that it's very hard to like a person who doesn't share who and what they are.
If I'm correct about my assumption, I may very well not be, then my suggestion would really be to do some searching about yourself, what you want, what you value and what interests you. You need to define yourself.
You need to know what things interest you, what things you hate, what things you're mostly neutral about. Find out your political views, your ethical views and your philosophical views. Find out what music you like, what movies you like, what books you like etc.
Find out what exactly you're searching for in a partner, create some standards that she'll have to meet. Not the pubertal 'hawt' standard but a real standard.
If you know who you are, what you like, what you don't like and what you want then I'll guarantee you that you'll be able to find someone who meets that. It may take some searching but as been said before, there's a lot of fish in the sea.
But if you don't know those things then there's simply nothing there to like 'that way'.
