Poll: Girlfriends: Are they worth the effort?

[DividedUnity]

Hahaha that made me laugh so hard

Good to see the thread has a balanced set of opinions

You're welcome. It's good to know I can slag off something other than games lol.

Ive never seen another person use the word slagging on the internet. Usually people dont know what it means.

You offered some valid points though so its not really making fun of it even though they were delivered in a slightly pessimistic way. (though thats good sometimes)

 

[Soxafloppin]

If you love them, hell yes! and then some.

But if you want one as a prize, no there not.

 

[ImpostorZim]

I personally believe that there are lot less people taking in serious relationships nowadays. It seems that it's more about flings and one night stands. Surprisingly enough, I'm totally cool with that. It's statistically proven that 50% of marraiges and therefore relationships, end in divorce. What's the point? There just isn't any motivation anymore! Times have changed. But back to the matter at hand, I seriously with every fiber of my being do NOT believe they are worth the effort. I'm 18, a virgin and I've been fucked over by every female that's crossed me. I feel alienated by the entire female sex in general. But that's just me.

 

[Nickolai77]

One of the things that always amuses me about this board is that relationship threads will always go on for at least 8 pages. This is not a critisism of the OP, but merely an observation. Now i suppose i should say something on topic...


In terms of "aqquring" a relationship i'm not very useful. I was very lucky with my first and only-so-far relationship where i barely had to lift a finger to go out with her- she did all the work. Ringing me, asking me out etc. (If only all girls were like that?) So i can hardly say if the "effort investment" is worth it, but relationships themselves, when they work, are brilliant, but when they are not working, are horrific, and i've experienced both sides to it, it's an investment not to be taken lightly.

When you are in a relationship, i suppose a good way to decide wherever you should end it or not is when your "effort investments" are not paying back with the profit which comes in the form of happiness one gets from a healthy relationship. When i found my effort investments were not paying off in my previous relationship, i wasn't happy for these reasons, and thus i was forced to end the relationship.

As for aqquring one, some people obviously find it easier than others. So starting with some advise i recall that girls have said, they like guy's to be outgoing and confidant, so presumably the male is meant to make the first moves and whatnot. One of my friends loves doing this, and good for him i suppose, he's had countless relationships. But, i suppose not all of us can be, even if we tried to be, outgoing and confident. I certainly couldn't, and as i've matured and come to "know myself", i've... become more passive when it comes to aqquring relationships. I don't fancy certain members of the opposite sex with the intensity that i did in high school, i'm more analyitical of their personality and interests, and only if i can muster enough passion and if the woman in question reasonably passes my analysis can i see myself putting the effort into attempting to aqqure a relationship. I suppose i'll have to someday, as The Gentemen said, you needs kids to add to your pension fund.

I think, in a nutshell, the problem for a lot of people is finding the right person and most ideal situation in which you can work on aqquring a relationship with them. This set of condition arises only with luck. Sure, its advisable you load the dice by having an active and diverse social life, but even that won't guarantee you'll roll a D20 or a double six or whatever's your jackpot number, that's what you need is luck to meet that right person in the right kind of situation.

 

[Pariah87]

Are girlfriends worth it?

I'd say yes, my knowledge of sex is limited...seriously, the "go to a nightclub and pull a drunk girl" option doesn't work if you're ugly or don't have a wallet full of money.

Take it from me dude. Im underage (fake ID to get into clubs), have no money to my name (95% of the time) and im hardly a looker but I still manage to go out to clubs and hook up (however i have turned down intercourse several times because its not how i wanna lose it but theres plenty of other stuff). That said youll probably regret it in the morning if you get too drunk.

Pubs are a good place to meet people. But it all depends on the pub youre in.

Possibly, I tend to find when I go to pubs though, I'm in a group, as are most other people, and it just seems rude to go and randomly start talking to a person who is with a group of other people. Then on a reverse side people very rarely come and talk to us because as a group we look like a bunch of freaks. If you've ever seen the Wedding Singer, Adam Sandler does his speech and mentions "the mutants at table 9"...well that's us, only a sort of alternative version. Me at 6'8 and built like a brick outhouse, my friend with piercings all through her arms and multiple colours in her hair, her bf and the afforementioned friend who never talks to anyone.

Still, we enjoy ourselves and get pissed, ultimately that's what it's all about.

 

[Kayos]

While relationships are hard work there is no greater reward than the feeling of true love.


then again, getting heartbroken is the most painful thing that could possibly happen to a human being.

Love is just a reason to breed, and im sure getting kicked in the testicles is much worse.
lol

As for my opinion of human relationships.
My opinion is no it is not worth it
(im almost 21 and have also never had a relationship and have never had sex)
But i've never wanted it, i've seen my friends with their girlfriends, they fight alot, but when they are in public they act all happy and whatnot. As stated above love to me is just a reason to breed. Also you'll probally need to work alot if you were to survive and have a girlfriend (i work 24 hours a week and i manage to pay all my bills and have spending money, whereas i'd probally have to work up to 40 if i wanted to date while retaining some money each week)

The whole commitment thing, has also never been my style I like to do what i want when i want haha so having total freedom by not having a girlfriend is something i would want to keep, Since generally girls do want to spend time with you.
And if you want a family, you will have to spend your whole life working hard to make ends meet, cause kids and shit, and with the state the world is currently in, i wouldnt want to bring up kids these days.

That's a few of my veiws (and yes my spelling and explainations probally do suck, but im the worst person at trying to explain shit, and i've always been useless at spelling )

 

[DividedUnity]

Possibly, I tend to find when I go to pubs though, I'm in a group, as are most other people, and it just seems rude to go and randomly start talking to a person who is with a group of other people. Then on a reverse side people very rarely come and talk to us because as a group we look like a bunch of freaks. If you've ever seen the Wedding Singer, Adam Sandler does his speech and mentions "the mutants at table 9"...well that's us, only a sort of alternative version. Me at 6'8 and built like a brick outhouse, my friend with piercings all through her arms and multiple colours in her hair, her bf and the afforementioned friend who never talks to anyone.

Still, we enjoy ourselves and get pissed, ultimately that's what it's all about.

Yeah id say id need a good few drinks togo up to talk with someone whos 6'8 and i quote "built like a brick shithouse"

I suppose if you say to your friends ill be right back im just going to over and chat with this chick then theyd be ok with that. then come back to them a little while later either with or without the girl. Thats the way I do it anyway

Yeah its ultimately about having fun, getting some is just a bonus really.

(PS you dont sound like a bunch of freaks you sound badass like a modern day version of the A-team but then again its my opinion)

 

[alerriixx]

At 16 i've been wi my girlfriend for about... 3 years now? and jumped through my fair share of hoops, (and probably her share too) but in the end, it is pretty awesome. It really is worth it, if you actually want it, if not, just don't bother. Not the end of the world

 

[itsnotyouitsme]

Emo boy says, "Girl Friends are not about sex. They are the comforting thought of not being totally alone."
To that i reply, "I fear for humanity."

 

[Night_Shade_13]

Triffid has a point, maybe you guys should stop posting replies to make yourselves feel better and instead put on a decent pair of jeans and t-shirt, go outside and try talking to a women. Unless your the 40 year living in your mothers basement that lives for star trek reruns in which case GET A LIFE!!! Back to you, so far hopeless nerds of the inter-web. Good luck.

 

[Night_Shade_13]

Too late, haha

 

[Cyanin]

I don't particularly like any of the choices there, as a rule of thumb, relationships can be hit and miss, but when you get one that works, you find a person worth keeping around, worth making laugh and keeping you happy and all the stuff that some girls can, you'll get why people have those relationships, why they get married, and why they fall in love.

Plus i imagine the sex is fucking AWESOME.


EDIT: Plus, you'd want to drop a lot of the stereotypes you get from tv and movies, not all girls can be filed and categorised into a neat group, and for the record i know plenty of girls who like pokemon. =P

 

[Night_Shade_13]

It is

 

[Dyp100]

If you find someone who makes you happy, it will never seem like a bother, and apparently it cures feeling like life is worthless.

Don't ask me, all my relationships have been over the Internet, why? Cos there are no nerdy girls in London, if they were I would...IDK...Try date them??? Also, I'm a lonely and depressing SOB and I'm well much more suited to talking to guys.

Also...You have an Eisenhorn avatar, I'll do you now if you wanna know what sex feels like. xDDD

 

[quiet_samurai]

So I ask: Is having a girlfriend really worth all the effort, is this sex thing really so much better than Rosie Palms, is the jumping through hoops for a woman, the nagging and annoying talks and everything that rewarding at the end? Or are people exaggerating?

Dude, the one and only way you are ever...ever...ever going to be able to know the answer to those, and not just repeat what some moron on the internet told you, is to go out and find these things out for your self. If you are really curious the only thing you can do is physically put yourself out there, don't be scared, everyone has to do it sometime if they really want to experience these things.

 

[The Iconnorclast]

I would say you have to go out there to find the right one, I dont you will find "the one" by sitting around, but if you dont want to or cant put out the effort then dont worry about it, life goes on, ignore the idiots on the internet and have fun in life anyways, you dont need a girlfriend to do that.

 

[LordWalter]

It seems nowadays, that everywhere I go on the internet people seem eager to "advise" me (or the reader) to get a life, to get laid or to find yourself a girl. I am now in my late twenties and never had a romantic relationship (euphemism for never got any) and it's not that I'm terribly upset about it or anything, but I feel sometimes I'm missing out.

One of several reasons I'm alone is, that I could never bother to get my lazy ass out there and talk to a woman. I just don't get it, what is the big deal? In High School I occasionally had a crush on a girl, but even then I would never have thought something like "I would do anything for that girl".

So I ask: Is having a girlfriend really worth all the effort, is this sex thing really so much better than Rosie Palms, is the jumping through hoops for a woman, the nagging and annoying talks and everything that rewarding at the end? Or are people exaggerating?

This post is obviously targeted at male readers, although women are certainly invited to share their insightful opinions about the value of romantic relationships. And yes, this is the right website for this question, being a nerdy gamer and all.

You're Inquisitor Fucking Eisenhorn. WHO NEEDS WOMEN!?

 

[Grahav]

Only if they like sex