Poll: Girlfriends: Are they worth the effort?

[Triaed]

Only if you'd like to become a man one day.

 

[Troublesome Lagomorph]

Most aren't worth it, but you may find one that is.

 

[Thomas Rembrandt]

Only if you'd like to become a man one day.

Interesting. But what the sith lords does that mean exactly?

 

[Foxbat Flyer]

The way i look at it, most relationships never last. Ive been in 3, and he longest one was for 2 weeks... that was 4 years ago now, and im currently not in a rush to find a relationship, as it will come with patience (And i want the right relationship first go) not to mention, that in a relationship, money doesnt last, so im saving up now.

So i say no, its not worth it, but that option isnt there, so i went im a lonely gamer too

 

[case_orange]

If it's the right person there is no effort, as corny as it sounds.

What they said. If you're really interested in them than it's not a question of effort at all, but one of how long you can stand to be away from them.

 

[case_orange]

The way i look at it, most relationships never last. Ive been in 3, and he longest one was for 2 weeks... that was 4 years ago now, and im currently not in a rush to find a relationship, as it will come with patience (And i want the right relationship first go) not to mention, that in a relationship, money doesnt last, so im saving up now.

So i say no, its not worth it, but that option isnt there, so i went im a lonely gamer too

All relationships end. All marriages will end in death or divorce. All pets you buy will die, all video game systems you get will eventually become obsolete, all buildings you live in will eventually be replaced, etc.

If you cannot handle that a relationship will end, than why invest time in anything--they'll come to an end, too.

 

[JaredXE]

Only if they put out. Otherwise, keep all that income to yourself and buy what you want and only what you want.

Hell, you spend enough money on yourself and you can get laid without having a girlfriend.

 

[Mandal0re]

In all honesty in my experience theyre not really worth the effort,however if your in your late twenties and youve never had a romantic relationship then im afraid you have definately missed out man. Its definately an important experience that helps you grow but it comes with alot of bullshit. Oh ye and vagina. It comes with vagina. Definately one of the main points in its favour.

 

[Pariah87]

Are girlfriends worth it?

I'd say yes, my knowledge of sex is limited...seriously, the "go to a nightclub and pull a drunk girl" option doesn't work if you're ugly or don't have a wallet full of money. For me, relationships are worth the effort because of how guarded I am (read as no self confidence/fear of getting fucked over) so it's incredibly difficult for people to get close to me, even on a friendship level, so when I find a connection with someone where I'm happy to let them in, that's awesome.

You will get fucked over though unless you are incredibly lucky, I mean you may aswell go out and buy a lottery ticket because you'll have more chance of winning than finding a relationship that's meant to last a bloody long time.

Strangely enough, if you go looking for it, or think about not being in a relationship too much, then you will get nowhere, all the girls who have been interested in me came along when I couldn't care less about being in a relationship, then you end up getting sideswiped out of the blue. My friend on the other hand, used to go out every Saturday night in the hope of finally talking to a girl, let alone anything else. 3 Years later and he's managed maybe one conversation...which is still one more than me hmmm. Pubs are not the best place to meet people perhaps.

 

[Supernova2000]

The only difference between romance and one night stands that I see is that the latter just gets it over with while the former is hell-bent on stalling the inevitable beforehand and pointlessly dragging it out for as long as possible afterwards, all the while collapsing your wallet into a black hole. A complete waste of time and money for a few minutes of cheap thrills, whose only 2 possible rewards are a) a disease with a fancy french name and/or b) fatherhood, my vision of hell!

And marriage is a load of pretentious bullshit, whose only benefit is a slight tax relief but I don't see how that could be worth the risk of the black hole forming in your wallet sooner and stronger, thanks to the catalyst known as Divorce, when the marriage inevitably goes tits-up.

Scrooge McBitter doing my bit.

 

[DividedUnity]

The only difference between romance and one night stands that I see is that the latter just gets it over with while the former is hell-bent on stalling the inevitable beforehand and pointlessly dragging it out for as long as possible afterwards, all the while collapsing your wallet into a black hole. A complete waste of time and money for a few minutes of cheap thrills, whose only 2 possible rewards are a) a disease with a fancy french name and/or b) fatherhood, my vision of hell!

And marriage is a load of pretentious bullshit, whose only benefit is a slight tax relief but I don't see how that could be worth the risk of the black hole forming in your wallet sooner and stronger, thanks to the catalyst known as Divorce, when the marriage inevitably goes tits-up.

Scrooge McBitter doing my bit.

Hahaha that made me laugh so hard

Good to see the thread has a balanced set of opinions

 

[Valiance]

It's like being chained to an anchor.

 

[Uncreation]

It seems nowadays, that everywhere I go on the internet people seem eager to "advise" me (or the reader) to get a life, to get laid or to find yourself a girl. I am now in my late twenties and never had a romantic relationship (euphemism for never got any) and it's not that I'm terribly upset about it or anything, but I feel sometimes I'm missing out.

When you do get your first girl friend, and "get some" there's something you should know. You will get clingy, you will feel the happiest you've ever felt in your life, and when you two break up, it will feel like the worst experience of your entire life.

Your first is an amazing thing, that you'll remember for years to come. It will carry both good and bad with it. Right now, it's hard to imagine, simply because you've never experienced it. Sex can carry a bond with it, and you're blind to this effect your first time.

You bring up some very interesting points. And i do think you're right about the whole getting clingy, etc. part. And personally i am terrified at that whole prospect. It has not happened the first time for me, but i'm afraid it will. So, i don't know. I guess i'm just trying to avoid it.

And don't feel bad that you're in your 20's and a virgin. This isn't a bad quality. Among the fellas, it may be something (I dunno what), but among the ladies? That's perfectly fine! Just get your lazy butt out there, and socialize. That's really all you can do. If there's someone that captures your fancy, in that you think she's cool and seems to not mind you, ask her if she'd be interested in coffee, or dinner.

THEN come back and ask for dating advice. (j/k on that last part.)

Well, i don't know about the OP, but i am not technically a virgin. Still no major difference. And to be honest, while i agree it's not necessarily a bad quality, it's not quite a good thing either. To me at least.
And i'm not sure what you're saying: that girls see it as perfectly fine for them to be virgins in their 20's, OR, that girls see it as perfectly fine for guys to be virgins in their 20's unlike guys who might view it otherwise for a guy to be a virgin at that age. (I hope i wrote that clearly enough.)
I might be wrong here, but i don't think girls in their 20's are all that ok with getting a virgin boyfriend. Like i said, might be wrong though.

 

[DkLnBr]

No, i would much rather just have a friend whos a girl than a girlfriend. With friends you dont have to remember when you first met, and you dont have any real risk of rejection. Its just a lot less complicated without one, but thats just my opinion

 

[Trikeen]

While relationships are hard work there is no greater reward than the feeling of true love.


then again, getting heartbroken is the most painful thing that could possibly happen to a human being.

 

[Wrds]

How does a thread so useless get so many replies lol.

I don't know about having a girlfriend just for the sake of having one.

But if you're with a girl you care about then how is it not worth it?

 

[DividedUnity]

Are girlfriends worth it?

I'd say yes, my knowledge of sex is limited...seriously, the "go to a nightclub and pull a drunk girl" option doesn't work if you're ugly or don't have a wallet full of money.

Take it from me dude. Im underage (fake ID to get into clubs), have no money to my name (95% of the time) and im hardly a looker but I still manage to go out to clubs and hook up (however i have turned down intercourse several times because its not how i wanna lose it but theres plenty of other stuff). That said youll probably regret it in the morning if you get too drunk.

Pubs are a good place to meet people. But it all depends on the pub youre in.

 

[Supernova2000]

The only difference between romance and one night stands that I see is that the latter just gets it over with while the former is hell-bent on stalling the inevitable beforehand and pointlessly dragging it out for as long as possible afterwards, all the while collapsing your wallet into a black hole. A complete waste of time and money for a few minutes of cheap thrills, whose only 2 possible rewards are a) a disease with a fancy french name and/or b) fatherhood, my vision of hell!

And marriage is a load of pretentious bullshit, whose only benefit is a slight tax relief but I don't see how that could be worth the risk of the black hole forming in your wallet sooner and stronger, thanks to the catalyst known as Divorce, when the marriage inevitably goes tits-up.

Scrooge McBitter doing my bit.

Hahaha that made me laugh so hard

Good to see the thread has a balanced set of opinions

You're welcome. It's good to know I can slag off something other than games lol.