Poll: Girlfriends: Are they worth the effort?

[LiquidGrape]

I'm way too jaded and lazy to pursue anyone in any way.
- Oh, and ugly. I'm very, very ugly.

 

[Daffy F]

I honestly don't understand why nobody seems to like me in that way. Maybe I'm just REALLY unattractive or something... But to be honest, I don't THINK I am...

 

[Uncreation]

Wow, i was not expecting this thread to keep going for so long.

I'm way too jaded and lazy to pursue anyone in any way.
- Oh, and ugly. I'm very, very ugly.

Yeah, me too. Plus i'm 24, almost 25, and i have no real idea where i could start. Yes, start, because i've only had one girlfriend until now. I't seems impossible. And i don't think there are girls who would be interested in me.
But, like other people have said, everyone is different. So for some people it's worth it.

 

[Lord Honk]

meh, have been left for other guys too many times now, there isn't really any situation where i'm comfortable with getting into some sort of relationship without the nagging doubt in the back of my head. self-conciousness just went too far i guess =/
well, anywho, if you think it's what you've been missing, then yeah, go for it. find a good balance between being too picky and just settling for anything, relationships are only good when both sides are happy with it. anything else usually leads to a way more hurtful ending than it would, had you responded to the evergrowing doubts.

well, this is revealing way more than i'd be happy with, but what the hell i'm such a wreck atm that getting this off my chest, if only to be flamed or made fun of, feels way better than anything anyone could possibly throw at me now. And i'd rather have this posted here than anywhere else, this is by far the most amicable and lenient community i know ;D

 

[Amberella]

Once you find the right girl, you'll never want her to leave. So yes, it is worth the effort.

I agree with this. I found the right 'boy' for me. =3

Although you could get out more. =P You are missing out on some good opportunities I can tell. I actually found my guy on a gaming site though! So just lookie around. xD She's out there. =3

 

[Thomas Rembrandt]

Wow, i was not expecting this thread to keep going for so long.

Neither did I. I thought, people would call me an emo git and call it a day. Apparently I am not alone. Good feeling. Good forum.

 

[Bocaj2000]

Wow, i was not expecting this thread to keep going for so long.

Neither did I. I thought, people would call me an emo git and call it a day. Apparently I am not alone. Good feeling. Good forum.

I'm quite shocked myself. I expected you to get torn apart and have this thread get locked after a page. This actually reaffirmed my faith that not everyone on the internet are parasitic people who live off of others' vulnerabilities. I'm not being sarcastic. I'm shocked!

Anyway, did you find someone yet (if you answered already, i appologise- it's 10 friggn' pages)?

 

[FinalHeart95]

Sometimes, although I manage to fuck it up so that she won't talk to me for a few months and start dating some guy two years older that I can't compete with.

...Yeah. *cough*

 

[Xero Scythe]

unless you're gay, then yes, they are worth the effort. Besides, what happens when you grow up lonely? You see all your friends get married, how happy they are, and think "Damn, why didn't I at least try?" It's one of those things, man. If (I'm not trying to troll or flame) You don't at least try, you're pathetic. I'm sorry, but that's how I see it. So what if you get rejected? Big deal! pick yourself up and try something else! Try getting a different girl! It's not the end of the world if you get rejected. What do you have to lose? The answer: Nothing. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

That is exactly the kind of attitude i want to discuss. Why is it pathetic not to try? It's like talking me into some anime that is supposed to be awesome after season 3, well maybe it is, but why am I an idiot for not trying? I never tryed World of Warcraft or Eve Online. It just doesn't sound appealing to me, at least not considering the cost of time and money.

Dude, that is not convincing to me. At my age, you have become a cynic and a scepticist. It just sounds like fanboy fanatism to me.

very well then. Give me reasons not to try.

I say it's pathetic because it's human nature to go for whatever has the most benifits with the least problems. If you get rejected, big deal, you lost something that was never yours to begin with. If she says yes, then you just got something for nothing. That in and of itself is amazing. If it doesn't work, then you chose the wrong girl. You can say it's not working and break up. Life is worth living, and that is part of life. And I'm sorry if I'm wrong, but I'm pretty sure you need a woman to procreate. Nobody is gonna walk up to you and just randomly say "Will you marry me?" You have to work at it, and getting a girlfriend is only a single step. It's important as hell though.

Also, this is slightly off topic, but the Grammar Nazi in me would like to point out that skepticist is spelled with a 'K' and not a "C". He would also like to point out that skepticist is not a word. skeptics is, and skepticism is, but not skepticist. the word you are looking for is skeptic.

 

[MelziGurl]

Depends on the girl you're interesting in being with. I think finding a girl will happen on it's own without any effort. I didn't look for my partner, things just kinda happened with us.

 

[Zero Arcana]

Having a girlfriend was the best thing to ever happen to me. Until she broke up with me and ripped my heart out. Yaaaay!
But still, completely worth it; my girl hurt me, I heart my girl. We're gonna watch Transformers season 1 tomorrow.

 

[Snowalker]

That is amazing. I have pretty much the same problem with girls. Only, everyone thinks I'm gay. Pretty much cause I'm eccentric, very sociable and have a lot of friends who are girls. Apparently, that's something a girl likes to find in a friend, but not in a partner. It's weird and most will say I'm exaggerating, but don't you ever feel like girls just go straight for the assholes most times?

Oh, science has proven they do.

 

[acosn]

Depends on the girl/woman in question obviously.

Basically this.

Now, I'm painting with a broad stroke here, but I don't like women. More than anything else I hate grrrrl gamers, but generally I do not like women. I don't like making a game out of social lives. I don't like women who retreat to their harem of women to gossip for 5 hours about their day.

I'm still respectful. I'll treat them like I do anyone else but its when they expect special treatment and the capacity to effectively be an air head that my skin starts to crawl. Yes, I do actually value something in a friend, ect more than how they look, or rather, their breast size, their nose size, and the..... ugh w/e people say is attractive these days.

But what I loathe more than anything else is female gamers who expect you to carry them through everything, and be happy about it because they're female.

 

[clipse15]

So I ask: Is having a girlfriend really worth all the effort, is this sex thing really so much better than Rosie Palms, is the jumping through hoops for a woman, the nagging and annoying talks and everything that rewarding at the end? Or are people exaggerating?

Well, when you put it that way, relationships sound utterly miserable. If you feel like you're "jumping through hoops" and your conversations are "nagging" or "annoying", that's probably a sign that things aren't going well.

And yeah, sex is better. So much better.

Yeah... I never understood that: When you... polish your trompet you can call it a day afterwards and do whatever you like. With a real woman, well, first you have to spend some serious effort into getting her into bed (I imagine..), then some fun ensues, afterwards you ... what? Talk?

After I had my fun with various... inspirations, you can forget about it and get stuff done. A real woman, i think, requires some anoying maintainance, or am I mistaken? Where is the advantage?

I think relationships are completely worth the effort. You however obviously don't think so. Seeing as how for you talking to a woman is "serious effort." Maybe your not just relationship material because you seem to think that sex is the only part of a relationship since everything else is "annoying maintainance" Did you ever stop to think that maybe us guys in relationships enjoy all parts of the relationship and not just the sex.

Theres no problem with not wanting to be in a relationship but to come and act all baffled and confused as to why anyone else in the world would want a girlfriend, especially since you have not had one your self just comes off as plain ignorant.

 

[Thomas Rembrandt]

unless you're gay, then yes, they are worth the effort. Besides, what happens when you grow up lonely? You see all your friends get married, how happy they are, and think "Damn, why didn't I at least try?" It's one of those things, man. If (I'm not trying to troll or flame) You don't at least try, you're pathetic. I'm sorry, but that's how I see it. So what if you get rejected? Big deal! pick yourself up and try something else! Try getting a different girl! It's not the end of the world if you get rejected. What do you have to lose? The answer: Nothing. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

That is exactly the kind of attitude i want to discuss. Why is it pathetic not to try? It's like talking me into some anime that is supposed to be awesome after season 3, well maybe it is, but why am I an idiot for not trying? I never tryed World of Warcraft or Eve Online. It just doesn't sound appealing to me, at least not considering the cost of time and money.

Dude, that is not convincing to me. At my age, you have become a cynic and a scepticist. It just sounds like fanboy fanatism to me.

very well then. Give me reasons not to try.

I say it's pathetic because it's human nature to go for whatever has the most benifits with the least problems. If you get rejected, big deal, you lost something that was never yours to begin with. If she says yes, then you just got something for nothing. That in and of itself is amazing. If it doesn't work, then you chose the wrong girl. You can say it's not working and break up. Life is worth living, and that is part of life. And I'm sorry if I'm wrong, but I'm pretty sure you need a woman to procreate. Nobody is gonna walk up to you and just randomly say "Will you marry me?" You have to work at it, and getting a girlfriend is only a single step. It's important as hell though.

Also, this is slightly off topic, but the Grammar Nazi in me would like to point out that skepticist is spelled with a 'K' and not a "C". He would also like to point out that skepticist is not a word. skeptics is, and skepticism is, but not skepticist. the word you are looking for is skeptic.

Sorry, my mistake. English is obviously not my first language, but since I am actually a descendent of the true, well (Grammar) Nazis, i do appreciate it.

Wow, i was not expecting this thread to keep going for so long.

Neither did I. I thought, people would call me an emo git and call it a day. Apparently I am not alone. Good feeling. Good forum.

I'm quite shocked myself. I expected you to get torn apart and have this thread get locked after a page. This actually reaffirmed my faith that not everyone on the internet are parasitic people who live off of others' vulnerabilities. I'm not being sarcastic. I'm shocked!

Anyway, did you find someone yet (if you answered already, i appologise- it's 10 friggn' pages)?

After one day? Dude i asked wether it is feasible just to leave the house. But I think I will, actually, after all you guys said, it seems i could gain a little out of it. So... Thanks.

 

[Brad Shepard]

Once you find the right girl, you'll never want her to leave. So yes, it is worth the effort.

This is more or less what i was going to say.

 

[Dodgy]

My parents are going crazy because I have never gone out with a girl. My problem is that I dont want to go out with a girl who passionately hates my hobbies and sadly most of the girls I knew in high school hated video games with a passion and wouldn't even give me the time of day (most of them were dumb "Video games cause violence cause the man on TV said so!" girls), the other girls who actually liked games were completely bat-shit insane or in a relationship already.
So here I am, a freshman in college, waiting to meet a nice gamer Girl.

Just read what you just wrote. You don't want to go out with a girl because she doesn't like VIDEO GAMES! Read it out loud.

Why does she need to like it? It's just a hobby. It's not because you're a swimmer that she has to be in the pool with you does she? Or if she likes to watch romantic comedies that you have to be there on the couch watching it with her.

No, thats not what I said... Ok maybe what I said implied that. But I also said that the girls HATED video games with a passion and most were as dumb as a rock and stubborn as well. THEY wouldnt go out with ME because of my hobby. I would be happy to go out with a girl who was indifferent to video games but I would prefer to go out with someone who shares my hobby.

Well, I don't know if you implied it or not, but in any case, I stand corrected.

I agree with you completely in that case. If the girl is really busting your balls because you're gaming from time to time? She can fuck off entirely.

It's preferable yes, but a long relationship goes better with people that don't completely have the same interests.

 

[mechazeep]

Honestly, it really never looked like my scene. I will try it, but I just don't know.

 

[Thomas Rembrandt]

I think relationships are completely worth the effort. You however obviously don't think so. Seeing as how for you talking to a woman is "serious effort." Maybe your not just relationship material because you seem to think that sex is the only part of a relationship since everything else is "annoying maintainance" Did you ever stop to think that maybe us guys in relationships enjoy all parts of the relationship and not just the sex.

Theres no problem with not wanting to be in a relationship but to come and act all baffled and confused as to why anyone else in the world would want a girlfriend, especially since you have not had one your self just comes off as plain ignorant.

Yes, ignorant I am. But I never wanted to imply that sex is the only important thing in a relationship for me. If anything, I was baffled to hear, that so many people seem to be obsessed with this particular aspect of love. Sex is the only thing I can actually see, while all this lovey dovey stuff seems to me quite... esoteric. Feel free to elaborate.

 

[Firia]

It seems nowadays, that everywhere I go on the internet people seem eager to "advise" me (or the reader) to get a life, to get laid or to find yourself a girl. I am now in my late twenties and never had a romantic relationship (euphemism for never got any) and it's not that I'm terribly upset about it or anything, but I feel sometimes I'm missing out.

When you do get your first girl friend, and "get some" there's something you should know. You will get clingy, you will feel the happiest you've ever felt in your life, and when you two break up, it will feel like the worst experience of your entire life.

Your first is an amazing thing, that you'll remember for years to come. It will carry both good and bad with it. Right now, it's hard to imagine, simply because you've never experienced it. Sex can carry a bond with it, and you're blind to this effect your first time.

And don't feel bad that you're in your 20's and a virgin. This isn't a bad quality. Among the fellas, it may be something (I dunno what), but among the ladies? That's perfectly fine! Just get your lazy butt out there, and socialize. That's really all you can do. If there's someone that captures your fancy, in that you think she's cool and seems to not mind you, ask her if she'd be interested in coffee, or dinner.

THEN come back and ask for dating advice. (j/k on that last part.)