Poll: Girlfriends: Are they worth the effort?

[spankcakes]

Wait... I'm supposed to want to get laid? Is it a bad thing if I'm happy enough just writing music and playing video games?

Depends on the person's view. I believe that every man or a woman must find something for them in their life and hold on to it as long as they like it...

Be it riding blow up animals, while wearing a leather suit.

 

[cynicalprophet]

I know I might sound like a pussy for this but if you had to be "jumping through hoops" and putting up with "nagging and annoying talks" just to get laid, then no. Its not worth it. However if you find someone you really connect with it shouldn't feel like work (unless you consider going on a few dates and buying some dinners work, in which case I think your just friggin lazy) and the reward is much greater than just sex. I suppose not everyone feels the desire to find that "significant other" but I personally am a much happier person now that there is someone in my life who loves me and whom I can look forward to enjoying my time with. I guess if you were to just jump from girlfriend to girlfriend and none of them work out it might not feel like its worth it but I believe that if you find the right person and take the time (and yes sometimes a little bit of effort) to make it work than the rewards are enormous. Also realize that there are plenty of women who don't fill the stereotype of a nagging, money-leeching, reluctant sex partner. My girlfriend loves having sex, sure you may have to do some snuggling before or afterwards but you'll find its not That big of a deal (you have a lot less energy after having sex anyway so I don't know what you'd be ready to hop back out of bed for).

 

[RaikuFA]

And you ask the internet if the internet's obsession with women is justified? "Is it worth the mild heartburn to eat the delicious burger" is a suitable analogy. A little grief, a few uncomfortable situations, but mostly just deliciousness and fun. You get to ask yourself that question, not us. Go out and talk to some actual females, see if you have any luck.

yeah but what if the restraunt wont serve you said burger and just leaves you there to starve to death?

Then go across the street to their competitior? You've got feet, have you not? Or hands, i suppose, in context.

well i was asking in the sense that what if no girl will give you the chance? whats the point of finding someone if noone will go out with you? in my case, its because im ugly as sin

 

[Xero Scythe]

unless you're gay, then yes, they are worth the effort. Besides, what happens when you grow up lonely? You see all your friends get married, how happy they are, and think "Damn, why didn't I at least try?" It's one of those things, man. If (I'm not trying to troll or flame) You don't at least try, you're pathetic. I'm sorry, but that's how I see it. So what if you get rejected? Big deal! pick yourself up and try something else! Try getting a different girl! It's not the end of the world if you get rejected. What do you have to lose? The answer: Nothing. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

 

[Lexodus]

Yes, but don't make it the focus of your life. Find somebody nice, if you want; there *are* girls that break stereotypes out there, even if they seem (and often are) few and far between.

 

[The_Echo]

I don't have a terrible much experience in this field, but from what I can tell it certainly is worth it if you've got the right one.

 

[jehuty_zero69]

The RIGHT one is absolutely worth it. Just keep trying bro. Or in your case, START trying. lol. Its taken till my late twenties as well but i finally have one who is borderline perfect for me. She does a lil modeling, 4.0 avg, is a beer snob, can appreciate my 2 classic cars, is 6 yrs younger, very much into other girls, likes to nap after sex AND has a level 55 Siren in Borderlands. Lol. What else could i ask for?

 

[RaikuFA]

unless you're gay, then yes, they are worth the effort. Besides, what happens when you grow up lonely? You see all your friends get married, how happy they are, and think "Damn, why didn't I at least try?" It's one of those things, man. If (I'm not trying to troll or flame) You don't at least try, you're pathetic. I'm sorry, but that's how I see it. So what if you get rejected? Big deal! pick yourself up and try something else! Try getting a different girl! It's not the end of the world if you get rejected. What do you have to lose? The answer: Nothing. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

not in my situation. it can get worst then no as she can humiliate you just for the fun of it or spread rumors about you just because its funny

 

[bobknowsall]

So I ask: Is having a girlfriend really worth all the effort, is this sex thing really so much better than Rosie Palms, is the jumping through hoops for a woman, the nagging and annoying talks and everything that rewarding at the end? Or are people exaggerating?

Well, when you put it that way, relationships sound utterly miserable. If you feel like you're "jumping through hoops" and your conversations are "nagging" or "annoying", that's probably a sign that things aren't going well.

And yeah, sex is better. So much better.

Yeah... I never understood that: When you... polish your trompet you can call it a day afterwards and do whatever you like. With a real woman, well, first you have to spend some serious effort into getting her into bed (I imagine..), then some fun ensues, afterwards you ... what? Talk?

After I had my fun with various... inspirations, you can forget about it and get stuff done. A real woman, i think, requires some anoying maintainance, or am I mistaken? Where is the advantage?

Buddy, I don't think it's women that are the problem here. Your view of women seems a bit odd, in a manner I can't easily describe.

And if the effort is what bothers you, maybe you shouldn't bother having sex with anyone. You're missing the point of the experience, by the sounds of it.

Annoying maintenance? That's not something I've ever come across.

Also, are you actually in your 20's? Because the wording you're using doesn't quite seem to match your age.

 

[spankcakes]

Be it riding blow up animals, while wearing a leather suit.

Is it bad if that sounds kinda fun? :S

It's just a fetish, what ever the hell you like doing, do that and if the society shuns upon it, then keep it to yourself... But I think I've gone off topic a bit now.

 

[justhereforthemoney]

The nagging and the annoying that comes with a relationship is usually (unless you were in my situation) exaggerated. And yes, finding a girl is hard, getting the courage to talk to her is even harder, and not screwing things up when you are talking to her is so much harder. But after it all works out it is definitely worth it, you will be much more happy than you can possibly understand now, until that happens you have no idea.

And the sex? Yes. So. Much. Better. Than jerkin the gherkin. (Another thing you can't comprehend until you get it).

 

[bobknowsall]

unless you're gay, then yes, they are worth the effort. Besides, what happens when you grow up lonely? You see all your friends get married, how happy they are, and think "Damn, why didn't I at least try?" It's one of those things, man. If (I'm not trying to troll or flame) You don't at least try, you're pathetic. I'm sorry, but that's how I see it. So what if you get rejected? Big deal! pick yourself up and try something else! Try getting a different girl! It's not the end of the world if you get rejected. What do you have to lose? The answer: Nothing. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

not in my situation. it can get worst then no as she can humiliate you just for the fun of it or spread rumors about you just because its funny

Dude, if that's what's happening to you, you are clearly dating some very immature girls. Past a certain point, they just won't bother doing stuff like that. And if they do, you'll be able to counter fairly easily.

 

[BehattedWanderer]

And you ask the internet if the internet's obsession with women is justified? "Is it worth the mild heartburn to eat the delicious burger" is a suitable analogy. A little grief, a few uncomfortable situations, but mostly just deliciousness and fun. You get to ask yourself that question, not us. Go out and talk to some actual females, see if you have any luck.

yeah but what if the restraunt wont serve you said burger and just leaves you there to starve to death?

Then go across the street to their competitior? You've got feet, have you not? Or hands, i suppose, in context.

well i was asking in the sense that what if no girl will give you the chance? whats the point of finding someone if noone will go out with you? in my case, its because im ugly as sin

I never did get that saying. Sin, in my experience, is usually the most alluring, attractive, and appealing aspect around. And if your standards of yourself are that low (and without a picture I have no way of judging), then go find someone who looks fairly attractive to you and go be mediocre together. Most people are aware of how they look, and don't like being praised above that, so go find someone you don't mind, and show her some of that sin. Who knows, could be fun.

 

[JokerCrowe]

Well I sure hope so!! I've been working really hard to get this girl to like me (she's just amazing) and it seems like I would do everything I can to make it worth it! Like so many people said before; If it's the right girl, it's worth it!

 

[rokkolpo]

this may sound tacky but love is better than anything else in this world, even if it is a hormone. if drugs made me feel like that i'd be a junky.

 

[Zykon TheLich]

Depends on the girl/woman in question obviously.

 

[Thomas Rembrandt]

unless you're gay, then yes, they are worth the effort. Besides, what happens when you grow up lonely? You see all your friends get married, how happy they are, and think "Damn, why didn't I at least try?" It's one of those things, man. If (I'm not trying to troll or flame) You don't at least try, you're pathetic. I'm sorry, but that's how I see it. So what if you get rejected? Big deal! pick yourself up and try something else! Try getting a different girl! It's not the end of the world if you get rejected. What do you have to lose? The answer: Nothing. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

That is exactly the kind of attitude i want to discuss. Why is it pathetic not to try? It's like talking me into some anime that is supposed to be awesome after season 3, well maybe it is, but why am I an idiot for not trying? I never tryed World of Warcraft or Eve Online. It just doesn't sound appealing to me, at least not considering the cost of time and money.

Dude, that is not convincing to me. At my age, you have become a cynic and a scepticist. It just sounds like fanboy fanatism to me.

 

[MercenaryCanary]

Having a girlfriend is really great, once you get the muzzle on.

Sarcasm aside, it still is great, unless she is stupid.
Then ditch her.