Poll: Girlfriends: Are they worth the effort?

[CloakedOne]

Having a relationship is not important in itself, but I think it's pretty important for a number of reasons:

1. Having a good gf gives you a support system that everyone needs
2. masturbating does not compare to the intimacy of body-on-body contact. It just doesn't. Rosie Palms is someone that you visit when you're lonely and desperate most of the time.
3. Women aren't always the troublesome nags that people often complain about. A girlfriend can be the most wonderful thing to happen to your self-esteem, feelings of self worth, relaxation, comfort, and overall well-being. The only trouble is finding ones that are compatible.
4. Love is just as blissful and beautiful as it can be painful. For many, it's well worth it.

Not having a gf this far in your life is nothing to be ashamed of for several reasons. One: you're not alone, I didn't have a gf until I was 20. Two: having a highschool gf is rarely worthwhile because you're still growing and learning about yourself. When you've got that much more maturing to do, anything before adulthood is usually puppy love. Hope that helps!

Um... I'm 28, so yeah...

I realize, that explaining this love thing to someone like me is like trying to describe a colour to a blind person, but at the moment it sounds to me like it's a nice to have thing but actually persuing a relationship is too damn hard (for me). Like, you know, playing 20 hrs of FF13 just to get to the slightly better parts. No, damn it, I don't think so. Going back to my booze now...

something I neglected to mention (regarding my opinions) is this: some people get along just fine without relationships. if you don't need it, you don't need it and you shouldn't feel pressured to get into one. Most people get into relationships because they're lonely and they want to share emotional parts of themselves with someone beyond a friend. If you don't feel as if you need this, you must not!

 

[Doitpow]

It seems nowadays, that everywhere I go on the internet people seem eager to "advise" me (or the reader) to get a life, to get laid or to find yourself a girl. I am now in my late twenties and never had a romantic relationship (euphemism for never got any) and it's not that I'm terribly upset about it or anything, but I feel sometimes I'm missing out.

One of several reasons I'm alone is, that I could never bother to get my lazy ass out there and talk to a woman. I just don't get it, what is the big deal? In High School I occasionally had a crush on a girl, but even then I would never have thought something like "I would do anything for that girl".

So I ask: Is having a girlfriend really worth all the effort, is this sex thing really so much better than Rosie Palms, is the jumping through hoops for a woman, the nagging and annoying talks and everything that rewarding at the end? Or are people exaggerating?

This post is obviously targeted at male readers, although women are certainly invited to share their insightful opinions about the value of romantic relationships. And yes, this is the right website for this question, being a nerdy gamer and all.

Hell yes.

Even if you're just trying it out. What if you find you're an amazing boyfriend? What if your partner is an absolute hellcat in bed? If you don't know about the rewards, don't criticise the cost.

 

[faceless chick]

being a girl i chose the last one of course

relationships in general aren't worth the effort, you'll never end up marrying your 1st or even 2nd girl(boy) friend anyway (unless you're a special case)

 

[JDarkley]

Women are proof that God truly hates us and wants us to suffer. Occasionally the deceive us into thinking otherwise with their sandwich-making prowess, but really they're just pure fucking evil.

 

[Thomas Rembrandt]

something I neglected to mention (regarding my opinions) is this: some people get along just fine without relationships. if you don't need it, you don't need it and you shouldn't feel pressured to get into one. Most people get into relationships because they're lonely and they want to share emotional parts of themselves with someone beyond a friend. If you don't feel as if you need this, you must not!

Exactly. But somehow, even on websites and blogs that are targeting the nerd demographic, they feel obligated to point out what fools people like me are for not chasing skirts. I truely think of women as equals, but they seem to suggest they are trophies or something and we are the losers for not having any.
I just can't hear it any longer. That's why i started this topic in the first place, to have someone explain why it(love etc.) is apparently the one thing in world everybody must experience unless they want to be lonely worthless sobs.

 

[RaikuFA]

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Having a relationship is not important in itself, but I think it's pretty important for a number of reasons:

1. Having a good gf gives you a support system that everyone needs
2. masturbating does not compare to the intimacy of body-on-body contact. It just doesn't. Rosie Palms is someone that you visit when you're lonely and desperate most of the time.
3. Women aren't always the troublesome nags that people often complain about. A girlfriend can be the most wonderful thing to happen to your self-esteem, feelings of self worth, relaxation, comfort, and overall well-being. The only trouble is finding ones that are compatible.
4. Love is just as blissful and beautiful as it can be painful. For many, it's well worth it.

Not having a gf this far in your life is nothing to be ashamed of for several reasons. One: you're not alone, I didn't have a gf until I was 20. Two: having a highschool gf is rarely worthwhile because you're still growing and learning about yourself. When you've got that much more maturing to do, anything before adulthood is usually puppy love. Hope that helps!

that is the biggest load of bullshit ive ever heard

 

[REPLAY13]

if you find a girl that isn't a total ***** (ie. my ex) then yeah, its totally worth it. otherwise, don't bother trying to please someone that isnt willing to do anything for you (innuendo not intended)

 

[SnipErlite]

Some of them are worth it - the ones you just love spending time with and who are just lovely.

The ones who make you do tons of stuff? They're known as bitches.

 

[LDKS150]

My girlfriend is the best thing to happen to me! Two years later and I'm even more in love with her than when I met her! XXX

 

[Unhappy Crow]

I don't need a girlfriend to be happy. I'm okay with being a loner, even though I have friends.

 

[darrinwright]

Once you find the right girl, you'll never want her to leave. So yes, it is worth the effort.

THIS.

 

[Benj17]

My track record consists of cock teasing whores, psycho "i painted this with my own blood over a number of months, guess where it came from" type women and just the plain cave woman mentality "you man, you hunt" or rather pay for everything

but what i've noticed from them is that its the woman who sucks the fun out of the relationship, but in true man style, we hardly ever give a shiz and then thats when things fade off. So really if your willing to put the effort then they are, if not then they're not.

 

[RatRace123]

Well, from my perspective having a girlfriend leads to the same result as buying a hooker... and a hooker is significantly cheaper.

But what the hell do I know, I'm a lonely gamer like the OP.

 

[Skratt]

So I ask: Is having a girlfriend really worth all the effort, is this sex thing really so much better than Rosie Palms, is the jumping through hoops for a woman, the nagging and annoying talks and everything that rewarding at the end? Or are people exaggerating?

OP, if you actually have to ask this question, your answer is no. By your post you have already formed your opinions about women and any effort you actually undertake in getting said GF will inevitably lead you to solidify your position in the no category when confronted with the problems of actually having to interact with the opposite sex IRL.

I think this is the first time I've ever advised someone to not get a life because they'll probably be happier not having one. Cheers!

 

[INF1NIT3 D00M]

It's only 'Jumping through hoops' or 'Listening to annoying talks' if you're only in it for the sex, which usually isnt even that great if that's all you're with her for.
The best things in life are done with a girl (or dude, if that's what you're into) with whom you're simultaneously best friends and lovers.

 

[Fingolfin High-King of the Noldor]

I hope you don't get a girlfriend because then you won't be able to reproduce.

 

[Mr. Purple]

<color=purple> I hate how polls never give any reasonable options anymore. It all comes down to opinion, and even then, its more complicated than you think.

 

[RaikuFA]

My girlfriend is the best thing to happen to me! Two years later and I'm even more in love with her than when I met her! XXX

sounds like someones whipped

 

[BehattedWanderer]

And you ask the internet if the internet's obsession with women is justified? "Is it worth the mild heartburn to eat the delicious burger" is a suitable analogy. A little grief, a few uncomfortable situations, but mostly just deliciousness and fun. You get to ask yourself that question, not us. Go out and talk to some actual females, see if you have any luck.