Let me just lay this down, I'm a man who used to be "Nice" women "liked" being around me but wouldn't ever sleep with me, I couldn't figure it out for the longest time I just thought that women all just liked assholes, and in my bitterness I turned into a real asshole, not one of these douchey punk assholes, I was a glare hatefully at everyone, treat others like they are dirt and essencially lord my superiority over people, kinda assholes. Then after awhile I saw that I had turned into a raging asshole who was hurting himself and everyone around him with his arrogant hateful selfrighteous bullshit.
So yeah, I took some time figuring a ton of stuff out, one was to look back at the behavioural patterns of all the guys I knew who were good with women, and the behavioural patterns of all the women I'd known in a ton of different situations socially. And I figured out something, it's not that women love assholes, it's that women don't like overly nice guys, because it appears to them that by being that nice all you're doing is wimpily asskissing to try and con sex out of them, even if you aren't, that's how it's percieved.
I was watching, douchey and non douchey guys alike, the ones who get the women have the same qualities, Confidence, a good sense of situational humour, and they don't suck up to women at all, in fact most of them actively ignore most if not all of the female's advances so as to pick the right moment to take control and accept the woman on his terms so that he doesn't look like he's chasing her, it seems at least from observation and experimentation at least the women where I live, love the chase, not to be chased, and they only chase guys who look like they'd be worth the effort, not for money, some of these guys are poorer than me, and I'm broke.
Trick is, if you act a pussy, women won't want you, cuz guess what, they already have one of those, but also don't be an outright dick, love in itself isn't some kinda given thing, or some kinda magical thing, it's the science of subconscious reactions in social situations at it's purest, if you get along then that opens up oppertunities for this science to occur, but if both parts can't play the game the whole thing may as well be nonexistant to start with, for instance, as a guy when I'm acting cocky, and cracking wise a ton, and generally just playin everything as a casual thing where I'm on top, women flock to me, and compete for my attention, as soon as I get unsure in my actions, or let myself think man these women are hot I am out of my league, then it falls apart, why? Because I'm no longer projecting an attractive man, I'm projecting a wussy boy.
For the most part it's posture, articulation, scent, and presentation.
Standing straight and tall works wonders, so does leaning back away from her while conversing(not like really far away, just a slight lean) is enough in most cases to at the very least avoid looking like a desperate wuss.
Take the tempo down a notch, relax, take it slow, rushing things is a turn off, also when you take it slow it's less likely that you'll fumble a word or an action, giving you the look of competence.
Pick a good scent for you, and wear it. This can be anything from cologne to body spray, doesn't matter as long as the scent fits you, this can be a tricky one, but as long as you don't overdo it, almost any scent will be better than none, but yeah with cologne less is more, you don't need a lot of it, because that shit is strong, way stronger than you'll realize, and women prefer scent that draws them in not one that pushes them away, also some people have allergies to strong scents, and it just wouldn't be courteous to cause widespread discomfort just because you're a twat who doesn't know how to apply cologne, the correct way is to dot some on your inner wrist, rub that shit between wrists and rub the inner wrist of each hand onto the neck below the ear, gives you a bit of pervailant scent everywhere that will be close to the woman's face in said situation, after all when you brush her hair asside before a kiss, your wrist is RIGHT THERE, see what I'm saying scent placement is vital, the neck stuff is for obvious reasons, especially if there is any sort of dancing on your evening schedule, yeah classy stuff right?
Last but definately not least, presentation, dress in a way that's both classy and casual, good example, would be in most situations, some comfortable slacks a button up shirt, some nice leather shoes, and a matching belt, this part is key match your belt to your shoes, I know to a lot of men this seems like an unimportant detail, but trust me when I tell you a brown belt with black leather shoes makes you look like an idiot, now if it's chilly add a blazer/dinner jacket if it's really hot out wear a polo shirt or something similiar, no need to be uncomfortable, and it all fits.
This shit is pretty well researched by me, at least here, I hope it helps you guys fix your problems so you can all be awesome, and show women that you are indeed worth a second glance, after all, we are better than the average asshole, they're just better at showing off than we are.
Humour is key too, practise jokes and shit, get humour down, being funny, as long as your repertoir isn't self depreciating at it's core, then you should be fine, women find funny guys more attractive than serious ones. On a scientific level it's because she'll link the endorphin rush she experiences while laughing at your humour to your face in her mind, and you can take it from me, that that link is stronger than any link that could be created by "He's so handsome"(when relating to pure looks), wits and charm trump looks, just remember that, also taking care of personal hygene is a MUST, if you don't clean yourself enough, or keep your teeth brushed, you'll be fucked here, because that's a huuuuuuge thing, which is why I put scent as a vital point.
Anyhow I'm not so good at structured lecturing or whatever, but I know my stuff, I went from guy who couldn't get a date if his life depended on it, to can attract women, and now I'm looking for a woman that I can truly love, which is hard, I'm not too picky, but I have standards, hard to find people around here who fit well with me.
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