Poll: Girls Don't Like Assholes.

[Glademaster_v1legacy]

I'll say that I more or less agree except that confidence does not equal doucheness. There is a very big difference between the two. Also if I can tap and control this hivemind I can finally make the world's best Sanwitch if Witch of the black forest is taken off the banlist.

 

[LilithSlave]

I haven't read all of that. And I can't speak for all of de wittle gurl pipos.

But I sure as heck wouldn't date a guy who is a jerk.

Also, if you're the type of person who responds to that with "you say that, but you wouldn't date a guy who wasn't a jerk u just don't realize it", you're not a nice guy, you're a jerk and I would not date you.

 

[MegaManOfNumbers]

Women don't like assholes, they're drawn to them. A subtle but meaningful difference.

Is that a euphemism? Because the title is VERY euphemistic.

I really hope that was on purpose!

 

[LilithSlave]

Drawn to assholes? What?

I'm not drawn to assholes, either. I don't even want to so much as being the company of a guy who is an asshole.

 

[The Night Angel]

I find it very hard to make generalisations, but I think that confidence certainly is a huge part. It has to be genuine though, not fake bravado, nor can you be over confident, to the point of arrogance. I took my brothers advice and worked on confidence, starting last summer, and this year alone, I have had way more advance than in the rest of my life together.

 

[MasochisticAvenger]

Sorry, but you haven't hit upon some startling revelation. What you just described has been common knowledge for quite a long time now. The whole "girls only date assholes" mantra is only used by emotionally-stunted men who can't handle the fact every girl they meet doesn't immediately offer them a free blow-job.

Now can we please stop with these threads for a while?

 

[MasochisticAvenger]

Muffins!

Careful dude, low content posts are a big no-no around here. You might want to add something more to that post to avoid getting a warning.

 

[Suicidejim]

The "assholes have confidence" thing is starting to make my head hurt. In reality, assholes have very little confidence; it's why they're assholes in the first place. What they DO have is a sort of perfected arrogance that SEEMS like confidence but is actually low self-esteem with chainmail on. It's desperation, not bravado that finally makes them talk to strangers. And not all girls like that aggressiveness either. So buck up, shy guys. You're still in the game.

Source: I am an asshole.

Hurrah! Assholes unite!

. . . okay, that sounded a little like a weird porn title.

Anyway, as a fellow asshole, I concur. I compensate for my low self esteem for being the most arrogant motherf****r on this here planet. And it didn't get me any girls, either (well, it did, but they only admitted it years later because they thought I hated them). In fact, being relatively nice to people seems to have netted me a happy relationship.

Anyway, everyone's different, there's no magic bullet for getting a girl. Some girls like confidence, others might not find it a big deal. That's not to say a person shouldn't work on their flaws to get a date, but you don't need to go around reinventing yourself either.

 

[Eamar]

Stop lumping us together like some horrible mass of tits, ass, mysteries and judgement.

I love this. I think I might start using it. Just wanted to congratulate you

 

[Uberpig]

It depends whether they're into scat.

 

[AngelBlackChaos]

Stop lumping us together like some horrible mass of tits, ass, mysteries and judgement.

I love this. I think I might start using it. Just wanted to congratulate you

Use away. its what it feels like. Stop treating girls like some boss that you can conquer with the right strategy. Guys can be complicated, girls can be complicated. Its just idiotic to think otherwise.

 

[Uszi]

Muffins are so delicious.

 

[theLadyBugg]

First of all, I LOVE muffins. Yum.

Secondly, I learned in single life that it's generally a good idea to avoid any immediately self-proclaimed "nice guys." Not men who are nice, but men who can't stop saying how nice they are. It's the "nice guys" who are always whining that girls only like assholes who are the biggest assholes.

I once spent twenty minutes listening to a guy go on and on about how nice he was and how girls hardly ever see it, telling me about all the 'good boyfriend' things he had done for his last girlfriend, and then how unfair it was that she, and I quote, "wouldn't even let me stick it in her ass." What? Sorry, the moment you equate courtesy (even exceptional courtesy) with "earning" or "deserving" sex acts a girl has already told you she doesn't want to participate in, you are not a nice guy. You are now the asshole, and that is why girls don't like you.

It happens all the frakking time: a self-proclaimed nice guy let me know that if I had a third drink, he was going to take that as my consent to do whatever he liked to me physically. A different "nice guy" said we should really get together if I could lose five pounds. And most recently, a young man approached me in a bar, identified himself as a "nice guy" and offered me a drink. When I politely let him know that I'm taken and suggested he buy that drink for somebody else, he spat, "Ugly *****" and stormed off. Sooooo nice.


I can't speak for everyone, but most women? Like to be with somebody who has common interests, that they get on well with, and find attractive in some way. Being a horrible person typically doesn't fill any of those categories.

 

[Eamar]

Stop lumping us together like some horrible mass of tits, ass, mysteries and judgement.

I love this. I think I might start using it. Just wanted to congratulate you

Use away. its what it feels like. Stop treating girls like some boss that you can conquer with the right strategy. Guys can be complicated, girls can be complicated. Its just idiotic to think otherwise.

Ummm... I'm a girl. And I agree with you.

 

[Paradoxrifts]

Putting aside those men who actively and maliciously go about their days inflicting physical, emotional and mental abuse upon their partners. If at any point you're looking at another relationship and telling yourself something along the lines of, "He's an asshole. If she were my girl then I'd treat her ten, no, a hundred better then he ever does!", then chances are even if she broke up with him and took up with you you would be doing exactly the same sort of shit that he was doing once the newness of your newly acquired relationship wore off.

 

[AngelBlackChaos]

Stop lumping us together like some horrible mass of tits, ass, mysteries and judgement.

I love this. I think I might start using it. Just wanted to congratulate you

Use away. its what it feels like. Stop treating girls like some boss that you can conquer with the right strategy. Guys can be complicated, girls can be complicated. Its just idiotic to think otherwise.

Ummm... I'm a girl. And I agree with you.

I wasn't meaning that towards you, sorta elaborating on how I feel about it. sorry, halfway awake and didn't finish what I was saying. XD Forgive me.

 

[Programmed_For_Damage]

Personally speaking, when I was in my mid teens I'd get absolutely no play from the women. I was polite, friendly and keen to understand them. In my late teens I finally decided "nice guys DO finish last" and I vastly altered my personality to become this arrogant, confident, non-caring rogue of a character and the women flocked to me. I had more game than I knew what to do with.
What I did learn was that while women do seem attracted to that "arsehole" type character, when you start to get to the serious part of the relationship they want to the type of guy I was before. Case in point, my wife. She was attracted to the over-confident narcisist but now we're married she wants the stable, genial guy that she can depend on and trust and I'm having trouble going back to the person I "was"; who is probably the person I really am.
Anyway, save yourself the therapy money that I'm forking out at the moment and just be true to who you are. I know it's all "touchy feely" and stuff but it saves having an identity crisis at 30.

B.T.W CM Punk is awesome.

 

[deathzero021]

Your absolutely right!
Muffins are pretty good...

EDIT: seriously though, people don't know how to make a damn poll. if you give people the option to troll you, THEY WILL DO IT. just put yes/no and that's it. that would be useful. learn a lesson or two from this.

also i'm not gonna even pretend to know what every girl things, females are individuals with different tastes and therefor there is no reason for discussing this.