I can't recall ever having a random stranger tell me to cheer up.
That said, I get it from relatives all the time.
That said, I get it from relatives all the time.
Poll: Have random people ever asked you to cheer up?
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Yes people often think I am sad. I'm not sad, but would I say I'm particularly feeling happy when told to "cheer up"? Not really. My friends notice it and think I look downright depressed, when really I'm just distant.
This one time, just last week, I was at work, and seething, at the end of my patience. I was glaring at the furniture shop, opposite me, and a women walks by and gives a hearty "Cheer up!", I twitched my eyes. Usually I'm quite tolerant of it, I blush or shrug, but right then, I was not in the mood for it.
This one time, just last week, I was at work, and seething, at the end of my patience. I was glaring at the furniture shop, opposite me, and a women walks by and gives a hearty "Cheer up!", I twitched my eyes. Usually I'm quite tolerant of it, I blush or shrug, but right then, I was not in the mood for it.
sure. my default expression is apparently a scowl, so everyone just assumes i'm depressed or pissed all the time. i usually get that from familiar people in social settings, but strangers are too scared to talk to me though, so i don't get it from them.
There have been times when I smiled just because someone told me to smile. It made me feel like shit because I was very upset at the time, and on top of that I felt obligated to force a smile for some random guy I was walking past so he wouldn't think I'm a *****. It's actually kind of infuriating to think he might have walked away feeling satisfied that he cheered me up or made my day, when in reality it was just obnoxious.Boris Goodenough said:
So please don't assume that just because someone smiled after you told them to that they were happy about it.
Its happened on occasion, and much as I would love to respond with something snarky or cynical I just give them the Joker grin and usually they never say that again. I smile when I feel like smiling, but I'm not a grumpy person either. I just tend to have a poker face running most of the time...
I think the second you decide to comment on a random stranger's face, said stranger can interpret it however they like.bluegate said:
Maybe it's where I'm from, but where I grew up there was a strong `Mind your own business` vibe.
I have a miserable looking neutral face, so being told to smile and cheer up is something that's happened to me a lot. And it begins to get irritating. I don't need an excuse for my face.
Can't say that's ever happened to me. Probably because I'm a pretty cheery guy all the time. I rarely leave the house without a smile on my face.
Even people that know me very well have almost never seen me in a less-than-pleasant mood. Just my temperament, I guess.
Even people that know me very well have almost never seen me in a less-than-pleasant mood. Just my temperament, I guess.
As a matter of fact some random person on my bus home told me to put on a smile today. What I really wanted to say to them was "I have had a stressful day at work and I hate my boss, now mind your own business" but what I ended up doing was glaring at them until they moved away.
My thinking face makes me look really pissed off. especially when in a public place where I usually look down and put my hands under my chin. Nobody random says it to me but once I looked at a friend who said it while I was in think mode and it apparently looked like I wanted to murder him.
Nope. Still, why in the world would I comply to the wish of some random stranger who I'll probably never see again? Were some to ask me to smile or cheer up, I'd doubtlessly look at them as if they farted in a crowded elevator -- with derision or hatred.
All. The. Damn. Time. Seriously, even my smile looks frownish. I get the "cheer up, it ain't so bad." speech at least three times per week. Usually it's me at work thinking about random crap."I could go for a doughnut." Or,"I wonder what a Funyarinpa really is?".
A lot when I'm drunk. Not because I'm an unhappy drunk but because my hearing turns to shit when im drunk and apparently my "concentrating really hart to try to hear what you're saying" face looks like im pissed off.
Yeah, this is the main reason why it's irritating. It entirely makes light of whatever might be the reason for being upset. That is if they think that you just need someone to tell you to smile to cheer you up. Not to mention what kind of gets implied when it's said in the way of "Pretty girls shouldn't frown", so all those ugly girls should just keep it up? Fortunately I'm a guy so I imagine I'm not as likely to be targeted with comments like this, although I have had people tell me to cheer up before randomly.solemnwar said:
Another thing that bothers me in particular is that if I'm looking upset generally I'm worn out, having to put on a smile and cheery attitude for someone else is just going to drain me further
I was recently yelled at by strangers for looking annoyed. How being berated by strangers when I'm in a hurry is supposed to make me forget about my worries I have no idea.
Nope never been told that.
Then again, I'm very tall and male so I luckily don't raise any feelings of protectiveness or whatever the hell it is that makes other people start minding my business.
I figure it's hard to tell someone to smile when you have to physically look up to them, kinda ruins the benevolent feeling of the gesture I guess.
Then again, I'm very tall and male so I luckily don't raise any feelings of protectiveness or whatever the hell it is that makes other people start minding my business.
I figure it's hard to tell someone to smile when you have to physically look up to them, kinda ruins the benevolent feeling of the gesture I guess.
